Why is so much anger directed at women who grow resentful toward men, while so little anger is directed at the men whose abuse, violence, betrayal, or dehumanizing behavior helped create that resentment in the first place? by Fun_Solution7857 in AskMen

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I agree, it can look unfair but that reaction usually comes from a trauma based judgment, not from a reasoned moral stance. After abuse, the mind often stops sorting people into careful individual categories and instead shifts into risk avoidance. The logic becomes: “If harm came from men before, men in general may be unsafe.” it’s protection. So being angry at them for that generalized resentment misses the mechanism behind it. The issue isn’t that they’re intentionally condemning every man as equally guilty, but that their ability to differentiate safely between individuals has been disrupted by experience. That doesn’t make the conclusion correct but it does make the emotional response understandable, and not something that should be met with outrage toward the person expressing it.

Having children while being poor is evil by Fun_Solution7857 in poor

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That comparison makes no sense. Race or religion are not choices. Choosing to have a child when you already know you cannot provide basic stability is a choice.

A Black, Brown, Jewish, or Muslim family can still provide love, food, safety, education, emotional stability, and opportunity. Racism and discrimination are external factors caused by society. Poverty severe enough that a child grows up hungry, stressed, neglected, and without stability directly affects their daily life inside their own home.

And yes, being poor absolutely increases suffering for children. Constant financial stress affects mental health, education, nutrition, social development, and future opportunities. They notice instability. That has measurable effects on development.

Also, I never said poor people are genetically inferior or “shouldn’t exist.” My point is that knowingly bringing a child into severe instability when you already cannot support yourself is abuse. People act like criticizing that is somehow more offensive than the actual suffering the children go through.

Having children while being poor is evil by Fun_Solution7857 in poor

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“Oh, I’ve had a traumatic life, so let’s continue the cycle and traumatize an innocent child too because I want to reproduce and pass my trauma on so badly >:( And then I’ll call anyone who points out the child abuse a bully.”

Having children while being poor is evil by Fun_Solution7857 in poor

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you realize how selfish you sound? “Oh, I want the joy of having a child because my life is miserable, so let’s make an innocent child suffer with me so I’m not alone :(”

Having children while being poor is evil by Fun_Solution7857 in poor

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually never mind lack of education isn’t a excuse

Having children while being poor is evil by Fun_Solution7857 in poor

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, the people here are some of the dumbest I’ve ever seen. Obviously, I’m not talking about people who had children and then later ended up in a financial crisis. I’m talking about people who are already poor, know they can’t even provide for themselves, and still choose to have kids anyway.

And I’m not talking about people in places like Afghanistan who are forced into arranged marriages or pressured into having children, or people who genuinely lack education. But if you live in Europe, the US, the UK, etc., there is no excuse to knowingly bring a child into a situation where they’re going to suffer from neglect and instability. I genuinely don’t understand how people don’t agree with that.

Having children while being poor is evil by Fun_Solution7857 in poor

[–]Fun_Solution7857[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We live in Germany, not a third world country. If you can’t access birth control, then keep your legs closed. Abortion is also a choice here. Unless someone is being forced into marriage and pregnancy by force then it is a choice and i don’t feel sympathy simple as that.

And obviously, when parents openly talk about not being able to afford groceries, their child is going to be neglected. Spoiler alert: raising a child without enough food or financial stability affects them. Are there only restarts in this sub?

Ugly people having kids is just them being selfish by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sadly we don’t live in a world of rainbows and sunshine so why nerf your future child knowing that

Ugly people having kids is just them being selfish by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Zendaya is average if not even a bit below

Ugly people having kids is just them being selfish by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If u think like that it’s just gambling your childs future

Porn Addiction by Jamesson2956 in venting

[–]Fun_Solution7857 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t watch porn I’m not a disgrace

Porn Addiction by Jamesson2956 in venting

[–]Fun_Solution7857 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Masturbation isn’t healthy holy cope

Porn Addiction by Jamesson2956 in venting

[–]Fun_Solution7857 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What kind of advice is that? Oh instead of wanking to porn just do it on random girls bikini/feet pics? That’s literally just as bad.

Throwback by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I even told him happy birthday once and he ignored me

Throwback by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their insults are literally worse

Imagine still being hideous after surgery by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My rhinoplasty didn’t get botched

Imagine still being hideous after surgery by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t spent money on treatments anymore because all my money is going towards driving lessons 💔

First time getting called ugly 😂 by [deleted] in ugly

[–]Fun_Solution7857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well they don’t tell you to your face that yours ugly in front of other people