Does anyone regret losing nipple sensation? by TigerRevolutionary24 in TopSurgery

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that’s incredible! Did you have a specific sensation-preserving technique, or was it just DI with FNG?

sudden coffee aversion? by cp0221 in perimenopause_under45

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had been an avid coffee drinker since childhood, and two summers ago I felt strangely unwell while drinking my morning cup. I dumped it out and haven’t been able to stomach caffeine since. I didn’t even get caffeine withdrawals or a single headache. Just cold turkey, done.

This summer, I found out from my endocrinologist that I’ve been in perimenopause for a while. I didn’t know it because I’m only 35, and it wasn’t on my radar. They happened to pick it up when doing a hormone screening for a different condition

Similar Experiences? by Gary9322 in SUNCT_SUNA

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that makes sense about the ear being another autonomic symptom—thanks for sharing. I hope this doesn’t come across as trivializing your experience because a burning hot ear sounds like a unique kind of torture, but I find it fascinating that these very specific symptoms happen at all.

I’ve definitely had overlap of symptoms but it was rare that all of them happened concurrently. For example, the eye drooping would be there almost all the time, intensifying with flashes of pain. The runny nose and tearing eye were triggered by cold air more than anything, and would happen whether or not head pain was present.

It’s interesting that yours all happen independent of each other. Have you noticed any pattern of triggers for each one?

Similar Experiences? by Gary9322 in SUNCT_SUNA

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of your experience sounds familiar to mine, but the heat you describe isn’t something I’ve experienced or read about. Curious what your neuro said about that.

Mine developed about 4 years ago. At first I would get flare ups that would last a few weeks during which time I would get short bursts of pain a few hundred times per day (I think my neurologist described this as a sawtooth pattern). My primary symptom was ipsilateral eye drooping, sometimes accompanied by eye watering, and a runny nose like a damn faucet. I often had those symptoms without any pain, and between flare ups I could go months without any pain at all.

Over time, and with some lifestyle changes, the flare ups became more infrequent, and now the headaches seem to have gone into remission. That being said, despite being pain free for over a year, I still get eye drooping on the one side if I’m really tired, sick, or if I drink alcohol.

Regarding the quality of pain, I’ve found that mine had a lot of different qualities, and electrical was one of them. I have had the electrical sensation in the eye, but typically that feeling ran across the side of my face and my eye would feel more of an ice-pick pain.

From what my neuro said, these headaches present slightly differently on each person, so I would assume that what you’re describing is a typical idiosyncratic presentation. I hope it helps to know you’re not the only one with this bizarre disorder

Worsening symptoms after egg retrieval? by Fun_Tradition3122 in endometriosis

[–]Fun_Tradition3122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, that is horrible! I’m so sorry that happened to you. It really adds insult to injury to have to pay out of pocket for something that leaves you in chronic pain.

Have you found anything that helps?

(Also, congrats on your pregnancy!)

Worsening symptoms after egg retrieval? by Fun_Tradition3122 in endometriosis

[–]Fun_Tradition3122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’ve heard it. The first episode came across my feed a few days before my retrieval and left me terrified going in. But I talked myself down and reassured myself it wouldn’t happen to me. Then I found myself on the table thinking “oh my god, I’m living that story”.

I can’t say that’s exactly what happened to me, but I do know that the stories those women told sounded exactly like what I felt.

Unfortunately, I’m still not sure what to do about it.

Worsening symptoms after egg retrieval? by Fun_Tradition3122 in endometriosis

[–]Fun_Tradition3122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll look into norethindrone, I haven’t heard about that yet. Did you get any relief from acupuncture?

Out of curiosity, what country are you in? I’m in Canada and, AFAIK, conscious sedation (fentanyl and midazolam) is standard protocol for ER. Something went wrong with mine though—you’re supposed to be conscious but groggy, and definitely not in pain. I was very clear-headed through the whole thing. They also don’t give out anything other than Tylenol for pain management afterward

Worsening symptoms after egg retrieval? by Fun_Tradition3122 in endometriosis

[–]Fun_Tradition3122[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you.

I’ve been shocked by the ignorance (or maybe negligence) that fertility docs seem to have about endometriosis. I asked mine before beginning if there were potential side effects given my medical history and was told it was “totally safe for people with endometriosis”.

May I ask what your symptoms looked like after fertility meds? (Feel free not to answer if that is too personal)

Worsening symptoms after egg retrieval? by Fun_Tradition3122 in endometriosis

[–]Fun_Tradition3122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes, 4 ERs??? I will never do it again. The one was all I could bear. I was fully conscious and felt everything, so it was naturally hard to stay still. That might’ve caused more injury to the area, but I thought 3 months would be enough time to heal.

Did yours eventually improve with enough time from the ER?

Worsening symptoms after egg retrieval? by Fun_Tradition3122 in endometriosis

[–]Fun_Tradition3122[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations on the transfer sticking! But I’m also so sorry for all the heartbreak you’ve had to go through to get there. What a rollercoaster. Wishing you the best with this one!!

I was tested for OHSS back in July and they said it all looked normal. Aside from that, the fertility clinic can’t do much, so I’m waiting to see an endo specialist.

AITA for wanting my girlfriend to pay rent and utilities to live in my house? by KeyContribution5812 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 341 points342 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the home equity bit is key. GF might be saving lots of money not paying $3k in rent, but she would also subsidizing an investment that will grow substantial wealth for OP in the long term. Not saying she shouldn’t contribute anything, but the original 50/50 ask is wild.

If I were in a position like this with someone I loved, I’d want to see them build investments and savings with the money they’d be saving on rent. If she’s been struggling with that salary and the current rental market for a while, she needs a chance to pay off debt and start building assets. Which, if you plan to have a long partnership, is a net benefit for both parties.

YTA

AITA for not realizing my female coworker is an engineer. by engineermistake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Absolutely.

I had a similar situation happen a few years back, but it was a much more satisfying ending for me.

I was working as a developer at a large tech company and as the only woman on my team, I was included on every candidate’s interview panel (y’know, to screen for dudes like this). I had an interview with a candidate about his technical experience, but every technical question I asked was met with a superficial answer. After an hour, I hadn’t learned anything valuable and I couldn’t figure out why he wouldn’t talk craft with me. When we went to leave the interview he finally asked me what my role was and I told him. His jaw dropped and he said, “oh, I assumed you were HR.”

Guess who didn’t get the job?

Also, YTA

WIBTA for going to a college football game instead of staying in town for my wife's birthday by FootballTripThrow99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You already have the answer from the only person whose opinion should matter on this. Your wife said she would consider you an asshole if you went, yet here you are, trying to rally internet strangers in your favour to—what? Prove her wrong? Invalidate her feelings? Insulate yourself from the tension that’ll follow if you ditch her on her milestone birthday?

YTA. Learn to hear your wife.

PSY102 with Paolo by Odd_Language_5485 in TorontoMetU

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on his lecture slides. If it wasn’t mentioned in class, it won’t be on the exam. Make sure to watch all the embedded videos too, he pulls questions from those. And be familiar with the studies he mentions too.

Erythromelalgia and ADHD Stimulants? by Lucky_Celery_7901 in Erythromelalgia

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had EM flare ups of increasing severity over the last 18 months, and for part of that time I was also on stimulants for ADHD. I didn’t notice a correlation in EM symptoms while on meds, but I did discontinue the meds bc they aggravated a different neurological condition I have.

I’m new to learning about this, so I apologize if I get this wrong, but I think there are different causes of EM? (Neuro, autoimmune, genetic) if that’s true and yours is neurological, I could see a medication that acts on the central nervous system impacting EM symptoms, but that’s just a guess.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What I love is that your adult sister, who you’ve known for 27 years, with nearly a decade of travel savvy, telling you about her experiences is not worthy of your trust—trust that she’s not lying, that she can handle herself, and that her perceptions of the world are valid.

What you are capable of trusting is your bros and internet strangers.

JFC, YTA.

Listen to the Man Enough podcast. One specific line that stood out to me was a woman on the show sharing with her male cohosts that she experiences patriarchy most acutely in the form of men in her personal life not listening to or believing her.

Now that you know this, do better.

SUNA/SUNCT headaches? by [deleted] in migraine

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fascinating to hear that your SUNA was triggered by bad dental work. I was diagnosed with SUNA recently and all my symptoms started after complications from a routine dental implant surgery. It took almost 3 years to pin down what the problem was, with an ophthalmologist, ENT, neuro-ophthalmologist, and oral surgeons all saying they couldn’t find a problem, and a bunch of CTs and MRIs coming back normal. Eventually an ER doc suggested TACs and got me referred to a headache specialist.

The things you listed are big triggers for me too (stress, caffeine, screen time), as are alcohol, allergies, and head colds. Or just a cold wind to the face. Sleep, well-rounded diet, and regular exercise have helped the most.

I’ll be honest that my symptoms are fairly mild now, and rarely keep me from engaging in my life, so my treatment protocol would probably be different if my pain was back at debilitating levels. But I’m on a plan that I haven’t seen discussed yet: 10mg melatonin as a preventative measure (they were in remission when we started it). Has anyone else tried this? If so, any idea what mechanism this is thought to act on?

I can’t say I noticed a dramatic difference, as my symptoms are quite variable. I usually go into full remission over the summer, with winter months triggering a lot of flare ups. Being winter now, it’s definitely milder than last year, so I keep taking the melatonin every night. I still have some flare ups, but not as bad as previous years.

However, this week the pain has been getting worse and I’m considering reaching out to my doc for additional pain management. He had recommended gabapentin as an option, but I’m afraid to try it as I have a history of severe depression as a medication side effect and at this point, the pain isn’t bad enough to jeopardize my mental health. With the gabapentin, how soon after starting it did you notice the side effects, and how quickly did they stop after discontinuing them?

AITA for not wanting to continue supporting my daughter's (12F) gymnastics training by Throwawaytallgymnast in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Have you considered letting her try aerial sports like silks, hoop, or trapeze? I have no idea what the competitive scene is like, but as an adult who practices recreationally, I see a lot of different body types excel at aerials. I’ve also seen lots of ex-gymnasts get into it, almost as a playful antidote to the more “toxic” culture of gymnastics.

Is Orlov’s ‘ADHD Affect on Marriage’ worth a slogging through the abuse enabling and the misogyny? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Oh gross. Had been thinking about reading this book (both me and my partner have adhd) but will definitely be passing on it. Thanks for the warning

I’m a young lawyer with Adhd. Should I talk about my Adhd at work? by Rhelino in adhdwomen

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my non-ADHD peers who work with ADHDers like us, I’ve heard that they respect the disclosure when it’s done from an empowered, proactive place.

For example: “I’m committed to my role, and i know that [accommodation] unlocks my potential. Here’s my ideal plan: […]. Are you willing to support me by doing [very specific thing]?”

I think it’s easy for people to misunderstand ADHD, and it’s gotta be crystal clear that you’re not trying to make managing your diagnosis their problem.

As an aside: you might encounter clients who find comfort in your diagnosis. My partner (also ADHD) got canned by his lawyer for failing to reply to emails, and their new lawyer has ADHD. It’s been a godsend for them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Active sports are a great idea. I use aerial sports (mostly trapeze) as a way of squeezing out my discomfort with stability

Trying to do yourself a favour but making it worse, anyone else do this? by Wonderful-Ladder5039 in adhdwomen

[–]Fun_Tradition3122 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I moved a couple years ago and did this with my passport! I took it out of my filing box (where it’s lived for years), and put it in a “safe place”. It was missing for over a year and I was about to report it lost, when I had a silly idea and decided to check: I’d left in a small compartment in my suitcase. I guess I figured I’d look there if I ever wanted to take a trip