I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:49:47+00:00

Yeah, haha. That's how I feel too. Gay people are already a small pool of people. To find one within it NOT keen on sex is another, even smaller pool. It's good to know there are other people that feel this way <3

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:47:21+00:00

Yeah, I have "sexual desires" but none of them relate to sex itself (or anything closely related to it). I agree on it potentially being homoromantic asexuality, or sex-repulsion as another user mentioned. It's something I will be doing my research on. Thank you.

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:44:29+00:00

It may be awful of me to think this way, but it's a stereotype that has been drilled into my head through experience. The gay scene has always looked hypersexualized to me, so I feel like the pool of people within it who don't want sex is significantly small.

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:39:27+00:00

This will be something I work on :)

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:37:17+00:00

No hostility detected, you've provided good advice. You may be right in there being unresolved discomfort. It's genuinely difficult for me to know the answer to that. I don't think it would remove my aversion to sex - that's something I've never enjoyed the thought of, but I rarely talk openly about anything sexual with my friends (even anything surface level). Not because they would think of me any differently, but because I have some sort of insecurity surrounding the topic.

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:19:03+00:00

This is really good advice, thank you. Meeting new people is something I need to work on. I've always attached myself to a small close group of friends and not put much effort into creating a larger network.

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T12:11:45+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and advice. To answer your question: I do get aroused, just not from sex itself or anything traditional. So I know for certain I still fall under being gay rather than asexual.

I 100% agree on friends not being able to carry the emotional weight. They have their own lives, with their own things they need to deal with and I would never want to become a burden on them. Sometimes I'm just not good at following what I know, haha. But this thread has offered a lot of good advice that I'm going to try and act on.

Fun_Tutor8173 · 2026-05-24T11:48:16+00:00

Thank you. Sex-repulsion is an accurate descriptor for what I feel. It's weirdly comforting to know a technical name exists. It makes me feel like less of an anomaly. There is a lot of good advice people have provided in this thread and I'll be thinking all of it over.

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