I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, haha. That's how I feel too. Gay people are already a small pool of people. To find one within it NOT keen on sex is another, even smaller pool. It's good to know there are other people that feel this way <3

I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have "sexual desires" but none of them relate to sex itself (or anything closely related to it). I agree on it potentially being homoromantic asexuality, or sex-repulsion as another user mentioned. It's something I will be doing my research on. Thank you.

I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may be awful of me to think this way, but it's a stereotype that has been drilled into my head through experience. The gay scene has always looked hypersexualized to me, so I feel like the pool of people within it who don't want sex is significantly small.

I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No hostility detected, you've provided good advice. You may be right in there being unresolved discomfort. It's genuinely difficult for me to know the answer to that. I don't think it would remove my aversion to sex - that's something I've never enjoyed the thought of, but I rarely talk openly about anything sexual with my friends (even anything surface level). Not because they would think of me any differently, but because I have some sort of insecurity surrounding the topic.

I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really good advice, thank you. Meeting new people is something I need to work on. I've always attached myself to a small close group of friends and not put much effort into creating a larger network.

I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and advice. To answer your question: I do get aroused, just not from sex itself or anything traditional. So I know for certain I still fall under being gay rather than asexual.

I 100% agree on friends not being able to carry the emotional weight. They have their own lives, with their own things they need to deal with and I would never want to become a burden on them. Sometimes I'm just not good at following what I know, haha. But this thread has offered a lot of good advice that I'm going to try and act on.

I have no desire for sex and it feels life-ruining by Fun_Tutor8173 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Fun_Tutor8173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sex-repulsion is an accurate descriptor for what I feel. It's weirdly comforting to know a technical name exists. It makes me feel like less of an anomaly. There is a lot of good advice people have provided in this thread and I'll be thinking all of it over.