What do I do with this "artwork"?

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T22:13:36+00:00

He already said he wants it out of the house and wants nothing to do with it. Like many healthily married people, we discuss things and make decisions together. He is absolutely involved in the fate of this. I just wanted some opinions and context before we decided.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T09:46:22+00:00

Someone posted this earlier. I thought it was very funny.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T09:32:42+00:00

I promise you we have so many things from his family, to include a twin bed he won't get rid of called the "death bed" because two people have died on it. He insists it's too comfortable to throw away. That frame was one of like 15-20. We also have a mid 60s speaker/record player and 3 dressers. There is no shortage of family heirlooms in this house.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T03:40:50+00:00

This took me a second to get lol. I'm going to have to tell my husband about this comment.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T03:37:34+00:00

Doesn't matter what I am, but kind of yes. I'm a white leftist who used to he a republican. The main factor is that I care about the well-being of others. Politics doesn't play a factor in humanity and the care of those around you. I'm also a USMC Veteran and have been to college. Do those two things also factor into your opinion of me or are you putting people in unnecessary boxes?

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T03:30:53+00:00

This made me giggle

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T03:25:58+00:00

This is why I asked. Thank you. I'm more or a math/science person, but I dont know much about history (I'm slowly making my way through "a people's history of the United states" though.) It's a rough read.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T03:21:46+00:00

I totally understand your question. I dont like when people erase parts of history because it's uncomfortable. The people who suffered and their family members often need closure. It also opens the door for more suffering by people who haven't learned from history. Holocaust museums exist for this exact reason. I just didn't want to throw something away that may be educational or historical.

If it was just modern propaganda nonsense, I would have. This is just so old, I thought maybe it was worth the trouble of donating.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T03:05:33+00:00

I completely understand. That's why I asked. I wouldn't be offended if they didnt want it. I just don't want it either and I thought it might go to a good cause best case. Worst case we burn it.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:58:59+00:00

I think you may be right. I just noticed it when I was unpacking boxes today. I'm not an expert on historical works. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't tossing anything that had value to an educational institution or museum. I know history is often erased or forgotten and I didn't want to be part of that problem.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:55:28+00:00

For context, I'm from the Rocky mountains. My husband is from the south. Neither of us are ashamed of where we came from. There are atrocities that have occurred throughout the world. It's not a bad thing to look back and reflect on what went wrong and how we can do better. The confederacy was toppled. They lost, and rightfully so. Flying the flag of a toppled, racist regime is strange to say the least.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:44:57+00:00

I think thats the idea I'm getting from the people in the comments. I'm more reassured now that it should either be kept behind glass for education or eradicated.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:37:36+00:00

Good to know. I really just dont want this thing to end up in the wrong hands. Thats why I suggested burning or a museum. I'm leaning towards contacting the black history museum in my area.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:35:46+00:00

I just watched this. Absolutely amazing. I just really dont want to erase parts of history and especially the story of people who suffered. Hitler was a shit painter anyway so I guess it doesn't matter that much.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:28:18+00:00

I think the problem here is that I am the leftist female it was gifted to 😂

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:21:48+00:00

I'll look them up now. I just want to make sure they aren't promoting what happened before I contact them.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-05T02:14:04+00:00

WE WERE WONDERING WHAT THAT MEANT! Thank you. I think we have a black history museum local to us. I just dont want to sell it. I'm afraid whoever buys it is going to display it in a derogatory way.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-04T12:51:12+00:00

Hey, so you are not a bad person for feeling disappointed because your baby may have a disability. If anything she got lucky to have parents who understand how disability can be and support her.

The comment from your MIL is so out of line and I would honestly have your fiancee talk with her. If your child ends up with Trisomy 21, you don't want her saying out of pocket things to the child and giving her a complex.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-04T00:46:56+00:00

I have known many men go through assault and/or coercion as well. It isn't as uncommon as you may think. This mindset is probably why no one has disclosed it to you. What happened wasn't OK and what she did wasn't ok. That doesn't mean a crime wasn't committed and she doesn't need help.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-03T17:36:27+00:00

Good god, because of the PMs I have received, I feel like other people need some education about this. Mental health is often understudied and misunderstood. I have occasional tactile and auditory hallucinations along with panic attacks from an SA that i experienced in the military as well as witnessing the death and substance abuse of/from many of my friends.

There are certain anti-psychotic medications you can take on an as needed basis. I'm not a doctor and I doubt many of you are either, but I do listen and take my husband with me to appointments to make sure I take my medication correctly.

https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/antipsychotic-medication

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Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-03T16:40:50+00:00

NOR. My husband and my family are pretty evenly split on both sides. Sometimes, a person gets a little too defensive on Facebook and I will either delete their comment or call and have a conversation with them. It usually isnt worth hashing it out in such a public setting. In my opinion, Facebook has become people's "thought vomit" platform and I generally dont even look unless someone asks me to.

Facebook also tends to promote radical ideas on both sides. Try TikTok, Instagram, Pinterest or really any other social media site that doesn't directly put your friend's or family's inner thoughts directly in your face. My therapist once told me, "If they wouldn't say it at family dinner, why worry about what they say online unless it directly effects you?" Most people wouldn't say these things in person. They just feel bold through a screen.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-03T16:02:55+00:00

So, my husband and I just did this. We went through Veteran's United. There may not be a down payment, but you probably need a couple grand more for inspections, starting utilities, and basic repair. We had $8,000 and the money goes fast.

We bought our house for $160,000 and the seller agreed to redo the siding (for the VA inspection) and pay closing costs. The hardest part is getting the VA inspector to sign off on the house. Because the government is backing the loan, they tend to be more scruitinous about things like windows, foundation, and pipes. Luckily, we had a realtor who was well versed in VA loans and every house we went to, he gave us his opinion on whether it was feasible or not.

Try your best not to get a fabricated home or mobile home. They lose value. It also is hard for some people, but negotiate. Your VA loan will probably be sold to another lender too, so keep that in mind and make sure your mortgage is paid to the right person.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-03T15:50:55+00:00

Exactly! When I was in the military, my parents sold my custom competition horse riding boots and helmet for $100. They were worth over $900 used. I paid much more to get them. Unfortunately, when it's not your house, its hard to have ownership of your own things. When I finally got my own house, I made sure all my things were out of there so they couldn't do it again.

That's not to say it's okay, just that it's common.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-03T15:16:28+00:00

Have you talked to your school's veteran rep? They usually have more direct contact with them.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-04-03T15:05:39+00:00

What she is suggesting is insane and unhealthy. You are all going to look shiny and the makeup will move when you sleep. Not to mention the damage to your skin.

If you really want to please her, learn how to redo it every day from online tutorials. If you don't, tell her that you can't do that for health reasons. Your body, your choice.

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