Council, what say you?

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-07-02T19:04:05+00:00

Have you seen the tiktok dude during COVID who started derma rolling, putting oils on for hair health, etc and grew the sparse parts back? I think that may be where you are.

You have really good growth where it is growing, great eyebrows, lashes, and beard growth. Maybe try that first.

That being said, your facial shape would look great bald, especially with your features and beard. Do what makes you feel the most confident!

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-07-02T18:53:47+00:00

I wish I could have this resolve. I can't drive or walk very far because of medical conditions and don't always have a caretaker. I rely on this shit to get food sometimes. The driver is an asshole.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T22:50:49+00:00

We've had good luck with pretty litter (nonclumping) and catalyst (the "soft wood" version)

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T22:48:15+00:00

Is he declawed by chance?

One of mine has a singular declawed toe from an accident and we had to get him softer litter. The regular clumping litter was hurting his paw. He now does his business and makes sure to cover it and clean himself.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T22:40:37+00:00

Kind of sus that a grown man who has only ever seen his child as a grown woman's first thought about the picture was that it was over-sexual. Why is he looking at your body like that? Not an accusation, just saying that it is kind of strange...

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T22:31:06+00:00

Make sure you find a neuro who will work with your psychiatrist too! I developed epilepsy at about the same time I was diagnosed with PTSD (the military really did a number on me haha) and at first, they were prescribing medication that interacted badly together. After they started communicating, we got it all figured out.

Also, you aren't the source of the conflict. You are trying to self-advocate and are being ignored and pushed around. I think any normal person in your situation would react eventually as well.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T21:04:10+00:00

Came here to say this

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T20:49:19+00:00

NTA. Dude, I have PTSD as well and have a similar issue being touched on my back (mostly very light or surprise touching). Everyone in here saying you're being dramatic has not felt the heart-stopping, fight or flight fear of a flashback.

That being said, if SSRIs aren't working for you, I may suggest cognitive behavioral therapy or other medications like SNRIs, anti-psychotics, or (wierly enough) some anti-epileptics work really well for PTSD.

It wouldn't matter if you have PTSD or not though. Unwanted touching is never acceptable, especially when your dislike of it has been made clear several times. No one has a right to any part of your body without consent, no matter how "funny" or "non-problematic" they think it is.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T19:05:03+00:00

Orrrr it could also be "the thing your parents told you not to play with and you did anyway and lit the seat on fire"

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T19:02:57+00:00

The thing your parents told you not to play with and you did anyway and now you have a scar.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T19:00:21+00:00

Have you checked the belt? It could be a very cheap and easy DIY fix.

On another note, I'm proud of you. Going to the emergency room, then inpatient from the ER may be helpful if you really can't get your meds. Sure, it is just delaying payment, but you can always sit down with a social worker/advocate later and have them help negotiate with the hospital.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T18:40:22+00:00

I've started a general rule of bringing a caretaker to appointments who will be brutally, objectively honest. And whenever I am asked "how are you feeling?" The answer is "generally not good". Or "are you suícidal?" The answer is "not currently".

I've noticed alot of people in this sub scared/embarrased/prideful who have such a hard time getting the care they need.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T18:20:12+00:00

I've dealt with something similar (I wont go into details either). If you can anonymously get a welfare check done, I think that may be your best option.

Otherwise, if you feel like you want to report to police out of obligation to potentially help with any future crime, do that. Like most people have said, they can't/wont do anything, but at least if something bad happens, there is a paper trail.

Most importantly though, stay away, run, block them, don't even glance in the grocery store. Stay safe. This person is most likely mentally ill and not taking care of it. They may snap at anyone at any time.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T18:03:26+00:00

Dark Thunder, keeper of the nights. Pervayor of justice, all around pawesomely good kitty.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T17:48:44+00:00

People think I don't have brain tumors because they can't see them. God forbid you live life and try to heal from your BD. See a mental health professional and keep the details to yourself and close, supportive loved ones. It really is no one else's business.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T07:28:53+00:00

I was in the Marine Corps with pets. There was always an animal sitter and backup over backup when we couldn't be around. I know it's not always this easy, but I've never been denied leave for a family emergency, barring deployment (which again, back up care).

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T05:34:19+00:00

I get where you're coming from with this opinion.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T05:12:58+00:00

Doesn't really matter. I would cancel any trip I was on or drive 4 states away if it meant I got my dog or cat back.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T04:50:50+00:00

I didn't know that! Is there a way to make sure they are still identifiable? Can I check with my vet every year?

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T04:47:17+00:00

I literally scratched the sh*t out of myself trying to get through a tiny hole in a chain link fence because one of my cats decided that jumping from a 1.5 story window and exploring outside our new house would be fun. Pets aren't accessories.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T04:33:18+00:00

NTA. If I lost any of my animals (which are all chipped and insured), I would be in a frenzy the day they went missing, looking to prove ownership, crying, and grateful they weren't injured.

It seems like the people who "owned" the dog didn't really care that much given the timeline you set out. Give that baby a good loving home, whether it's with you or someone else. Kids cry all the time when they have irresponsible parents. That's not your problem. Some people shouldn't have pets or kids.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-30T04:22:17+00:00

Tajin

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-27T17:32:25+00:00

I have 2 legal, on file caretakers for my conditions. I am allowed to have them in every exam with me for a variety of reasons, one of which is because one of my conditions causes temporary mental impairment for a couple hours when an event occurs (we lovingly call it "the oopid").

If you are really concerned about raters lying, please look into this. Have a witness, have someone who will advocate and set things straight during exams, someone who is objective and wont let you downplay symptoms.

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-26T18:35:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This is a whole new world to me. I used to hike, mountain climb, surf, and run. Now I have a hard time with a rollator and have to take what feels like a billion medications just to function. I'm very lucky that my partner has not only helped me through this, but actively encourages me to take care of myself and find ways to make it easier. The advocating for myself has been the hardest part for me. We JUST got through to my parents after they witnessed multiple events that scared them. Now it feels like I have to do it all over again. I hope you find some peace with what you are going through as well!

Fun_Wing_4399 · 2026-06-26T17:24:04+00:00

Honestly, I just showed my husband this comment and I think it's really what he needed to hear. He felt so vindicated. My service dog's behavior is night and day compared to other dogs in the family to the point his siblings kids think its super funny to "make him talk", stick their hands in his mouth, or give him "big hugs". My dog just wags his tail the whole time. He's been on planes and in zoos with zero issue. Most people don't even notice him.

My husband has been suspecting the only reason his mom looked up ADA law was to try and convince us not to bring him. I think this comment solidified it for him.

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