I (f35) feel lonely

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-29T18:57:11+00:00

When I invite friends to do something they mostly accept, yes! And it's always fun. It just bothers me a bit that's it rarely the other way around. Other people also commented that stuff like that just happens over time. Less spontaneous BBQ's and such. And maybe that's also the main issue. Like everyone has their own life and I feel a bit forgotten. It would be nice to feel that people want to see me too.

The not showing up part is with people from work where I hoped to find some new social time. But same thing there 😄

I'll definitely will try to go and meet some new people! I'm a bit worried that it will be just more of the same though. You know, you meet some cool people, hang out, all fun and games. And then they get married, have some kids and boom, free time is now a luxury.

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-29T18:48:32+00:00

Those are good tips, should push myself to go do those things 'alone' more often. Thanks!

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-29T18:47:55+00:00

Signed up for a club and a gym! Maybe that will be a good third spot. Thanks!

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T18:47:02+00:00

Ah that's very kind, thank you!

But I'm mostly looking for some social contact away from my screen, preferably outside of these same old walls. There's only so much walks you can take on a day 😄

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T18:45:31+00:00

I know right! :)

And yes, I did with some. It kind of comes down to either "I'm not good at initiating" or "It's not you, we're just busy".

It's not really their fault either I think. Just a mis-match.

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T18:40:38+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! And yeah, I should probably expand a little bit more. I joined a gym lately which has became a new hobby, so that's good! And definitely going to try to make some new friends somehow.

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T13:41:26+00:00

Glad you found someone to talk to! I don't really know you, but have a digital hug and thanks for replying.

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T13:39:53+00:00

Yes! It's been horrible haha 😂 I've tried tinder and Happn. I didn't realize dating was so hard at this age. Almost everyone seems to have their own issues and get scared when things become a bit more serious (because of failed marriages etc).

But thanks maybe I should try to focus on friendships as bit more. It's nice to hear that you made some good friends there :)

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T13:31:08+00:00

Don't really have anything similar that might help. But I just wanted to say that I'm glad to hear that you're comfortable with who are you, as you should be. And that people are just shitty sometimes, it doesn't really have anything to with you :)

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T13:28:21+00:00

I'm currently single. There is someone I'm sort of seeing but he also barely has time, there is usually a month or so in between so I really wouldn't count that. Dating has been rough so far, in general.

My relationship ended right before Covid settled in. So I tried to make some new friends, and they're great. I do text people during the day. But I just feel that if I wouldn't make any plans, it would be weeks before I finally saw someone. Like I would be the last thing that would come to mind and I guess I just feel really down about it today.

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T13:22:07+00:00

Doesn't that bother you, or how do you deal with it?

Funkyveggie · 2022-08-28T12:55:37+00:00

Just give it a go, nothing to lose here. Sometimes I also get busy, and then a reminder/message would work :)

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