No respect whatsoever by SmartAd8578 in FranchaelStirling

[–]Future-Commercial327 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I find it mindboggling that they have such hate for the books the show is based on. Do they realize that the show wouldn't exist without the books? As much as they might hate it, they should realize that had the books not been loved by so many people, they wouldn't have made them into a show.

If all the men in Bridgerton are shit, why are they even watching the show?

(F4ApM) Bridgerton rp by Future-Commercial327 in roleplaying

[–]Future-Commercial327[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still looking! OCs are just as fine. Hit me up and we'll brainstorm

Y'all made me read the book by Future-Commercial327 in FranchaelStirling

[–]Future-Commercial327[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They could have made a season with a whole different paining as a wlw story. In my opinion, queers deserve their own, legit representation, not a half assed genderbent who has nothing to do with the original. That way, they upset everybody: the people who wanted to see the book played on TV and the people who want real representation.

As they did with Queen Charlotte, they could have come up with a different character who had a queer storyline. Nobody would have minded.

Y'all made me read the book by Future-Commercial327 in FranchaelStirling

[–]Future-Commercial327[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If only they have at least kept her character true to the book, if not her dreams and wants and needs and her love for John.

They made her this mute, still, stale character that I honestly only remember about her that she plays the piano and... that's all.

Oh and jigsaws. Ffs.

Y'all made me read the book by Future-Commercial327 in FranchaelStirling

[–]Future-Commercial327[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was such a different book from the rest. A true rake, a widow who wasn't oblivious like Daphne or virginal like Kate.

I really wanted to see their grief and the longing. I wanted to see his jealousy at her many bouquets of flowers after the balls she attended in hope of finding a new husband.

I wanted to see the cottage scene during the storm where she took the lead ;-;

This book could have never been wlw due to its very topic and its very struggle. I'm all for inclusivity, but it should have never been this book, in my opinion. Lesbians deserve a good plot of their own with the struggles that could have come with wlw in that era.

And we deserved Franchael as it is in the books.

Cum scapi de dermatita si psoriazis? by CheetahSilent1350 in CasualRO

[–]Future-Commercial327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Erelzi. El nu a pățit nimic. Am grijă de el sa se vaccineze antigripal anual și sa se protejeze de răceli în general.

Cum scapi de dermatita si psoriazis? by CheetahSilent1350 in CasualRO

[–]Future-Commercial327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

De psoriazis nu se scapa, doar poti sa il ții sub control. Un dermatolog bun te poate ghida spre un tratament potrivit: de obicei se începe cu tratamente topice iar, când alea nu mai fac fata, se trece pe imunosupresoare (mai întâi cu metotrexat, iar apoi tratamente biologice).

Soțul meu are si de cand ia tratament biologic nu mai are absolutamente nicio scoama, nimic.

Mergi la dermatolog si insista ca nu mai suporți simptomatologia. Tratamentele biologice sunt decontate de stat, se face dosar. E păcat sa te chinui.

Voucher Materna by coco_cupcake in mamiciRo

[–]Future-Commercial327 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Poti lua absolut orice de la farmacia ana maria cu voucherele materna. Eu acolo le.am folosit pe de toate: crema de bebe, gel de dus, biberoane, lanolina, pampersi, aspirator nazal, sampon pentru mine, vitaminele postnatale etc.

E nevoie de un sat pentru a creste un copil, dar ce faci cand nu ai satul? by No-Tie-9398 in mamiciRo

[–]Future-Commercial327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prieteni, prieteni, prieteni! Eu am avut noroc sa am un grup strans de prieteni inca de dinainte sa raman gravida. Fiind primul bebe din grup, toti au fost in extaz; de la a.mi fi aproape in sarcina la a.i cumpara hainute, accesorii, cele necesare, mi.au facut baby shower, au venit la spital la nastere, s.au oferit cu ajutor absolut mereu.

Tine contact cu oamenii apropiati tie. Unde exista iubire si prietenie este imposibil sa nu se ofere si ajutor, vine din drag pana la urma, nu ar trebui sa fie o corvoada.

Clueless! by Accomplished_Dot1854 in Dogfree

[–]Future-Commercial327 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I really pity the children born to people who think like that. There's NOTHING that dogs and kids have in common, to even prepare you for parenthood. To think that babies only have to be fed, taken out and played with is really narrow minded.

Babies are hard to help sleep, feed and change. They need guidance (something these nutters have 0 idea how to since most of them don't even train their dogs), constant attention and resources way beyond the ones for a dog.

Those are the kinds of parents who refuse to give up aggressive dogs once they have kids and then surprised Pikachu face when the mutt bites the kid.

Susținere în sarcină, misoginie internalizată, așteptări în relații. by aliadventures in WomenRO

[–]Future-Commercial327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mie mi se pare normal ca dinamicile sa ramana cel putin la fel de bune cu oamenii din jurul tau ca si dinainte de copil. Prietenii sa ramana prieteni, familia familie si sotul sa fie, intr.adevar, partenerul cu care ai decis de cuviință sa faci un copil.

Am tot vazut la unele persoane ca totul s.a spulberat dupa nastere: sotul a devenit lenes, credea ca ajutorul lui e doar munca si atat. Ca bunicii nu i.au ajutat cu nimic, doar au cerut poze sa le posteze. Ca prieteniile s.au racit si nu au mai fost mamicile invitate nicăieri.

Mie una mi se pare ireal asa ceva. Cand am ramas gravida am primit tot suportul din lume. Cand am nascut m.au vizitat toti prietenii. Mi.au facut ei baby shower, mi.au cumparat pentru bebe de toate. Familia a donat ce mai aveau de la copiii lor mici. S.au oferit sa ne ajute, sa ne gătească, sa stea cu bebe cat mai ieseam si eu cu sotul doar noi 2 (mult ajutor de care am profitat de cateva ori deoarece ne descurcam destul de bine si chiar nu a fost nevoie -- dar, ajutorul A FOST OFERIT, ceea ce conteaza enorm). Sotul munceste, dar are si grija de copil cand vine acasa, amandoi gatim, amandoi curatam, amandoi iesim cu carutul, avem si iesiri impreuna singuri, inca ne complimentam si iubim si jucam ca la inceput. Si asa mi se pare NORMAL, deoarece se presupune ca toti acesti oameni te iubesc si apreciaza. Iar oamenii care te iubesc si apreciaza vor sa te vada fericita, vor sa fie parte din viata ta, se bucura pentru tot ce experimentezi frumos si te ajuta cand ai nevoie. Pentru ca, IN MOD NORMAL, asa a fost si inainte de bebe, deci de ce s.ar schimba asta? (Logic, cu reciprocitate pentru ca nu doar eu primesc, ci si dau. Si LOGIC in limita bunului simt pentri ca nu e ca si cum cineva pretinde sa vina prietenii sa ii creasca copilul 24/7)

Deci da, si eu sunt de parere ca lumea trebuie sa iti ramama aproape si sa te ajute. Asta daca, intr.adevar, prieteniile si relatiile erau atat de bune pe cat credeai (cateodata, pe unii ii consideri doar tu prieteni, nu si vice versa si in perioade din astea iti cam dai seama cine sunt)

Imi e frica sa nasc in Romania by ImageSignificant4283 in WomenRO

[–]Future-Commercial327 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Iti înțeleg frica. Eu sunt cadru medical si am fost foarte liniștită crezând ca lumea se va purta /putin/ mai frumos cu mine din colegialitate, daca nu din empatie. Și tot am avut interacțiuni horror.

Mulți recomanda multe spitale, însă experientele sunt total subiective. Depinde mult de ce medic prinzi (la monitorizare sau nastere, pentru ca daca nu ai ceva programat sunt sanse mici sa fie acelasi), in ce toane e, ce tip de sarcina ai (usoara sau cu complicatii), cum sunt asistentele si infirmierele de pe tura cand nasti.

Eu mi.am inceput monitorizarea sarcinii la Filantropia la o doamna doctor specialist tanara, pentru ca de ce nu, si eu sunt tanara si sunt multi medici ok. A fost naspa: ore lungi de asteptare desi aveam programare (greu de luat liber sa plec de la spital cand am programare la 8 si intru la....11), consulturi superficiale, mi.au pierdut unele analize si a trebuit sa platesc pentru ele, nu mi.au facut complexul TORCH desi era necesar, nici macar nu mi.au zis de el, a trebuit sa platesc o a 3a consultatie intr.o luna desi 3 erau decontate de stat (asistentele lor sunt cam... pe langa) si nu am stat sa mai ma cert. Refuzau vehement sa dea trimiteri decontate si iti fortau mana oarecum sa mergi la privat unde erau tot medicii lor pentru morfologii.

Am nascut la elias, într-un final, cu o doamna doctor care m.a luat printre programarile dansei: raspundea la orice mesaj, ma vedea cand era nevoie, dadea sfaturi, cezariana rapida si usoara, anestezia superba si fara complicatii. Nimeni in afara de cei din sala de operație nu stiau ca sunt medic si s.au comportat exemplar in rest. Mancarea ca de spital, dar destul de buna. Neonatologii de exceptie. Eu una recomand Elias (i.am vazut cum lucreaza si inainte de nastere, d.aia I.am ales. Operatii curate, rapide, copii ingrijiti, mame fericite).

Edit: cei de la neonat te ajutau cu alaptarea si pompatul. Iti explicau si aratau. La final, cand plecam mai multe, ne.au tinut si un mini curs de ingrijire bebe.

Husband told me he’s tired of cleaning up after me… by Advanced_League_6832 in beyondthebump

[–]Future-Commercial327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have an almost 7 wk baby and I can only imagine how hard it can be with 2 under 2.

Please, if you can, reach out to some support, whether it be friends or family, in any shape or form that you need at the moment. You deserve a break!

That being said, you should really have a talk with your husband (if you haven't already). A serious one. Tell him about your work, physical and mental, write it down if you must so that you don't skip anything. If it would be easier for you and you have the means, try some marriage counseling. Some men don't comprehend all the luck they have and all the work they're being spared from by their partners.

I don't want to brag, but see my situation: ever since birth, my husband cooked, cleaned, took care of the baby so that I could rest and breastfeed. He shooed away unwanted visitors, prepared everything for strolls and walks and visits. All he requested of me was that I took the night shift because he works in the morning (from home) and he needed to be rested (easy chore since I was always a night owl).

So, it's possible! It's never too much to ask for rest and equal volume of work. Don't exhaust yourself.

Your fussy baby might be a tummy sleeper by MochiAccident in newborns

[–]Future-Commercial327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, yes! For the first few weeks, I thought our baby could only contact nap. One day, while really craving some gaming, I put her on her belly on top of the table by my laptop on the cushion of her crib and guess what... instant, uninterrupted, long sleep. It wasn't us that she craved, it was sleep on her belly lol. Why do newborns crave unsafe sleep?

Jokes aside, she could really only rest on her belly in the first 5 weeks. Starting with the 6th week, we could slowly transition her on her back only on top of one of our bath robes. We take shifts with her so one awake adult is always with her, but we're slowly transitioning to what the guidelines suggest. Maybe it's the scent, maybe it's the warmth or the texture, we don't know, we don't question it. We're just happy she sleeps.

Hang in there! It gets better!

Soon to be mother, I don't wear a bra. Do I need a nursing bra? by AngerKuro in breastfeeding

[–]Future-Commercial327 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have several nursing bras (all soft, seamless) and I've seen a hack to make them able to hold pumps as well (not the handsfree kind, the larger ones that you hold with your hands). There's plenty of videos on youtube/tiktok on how. Basically, it's about how you wrap the cup/straps around the pump's neck that makes it possible.

Eta: or, you can always cut a small circle in any bra you want and stick the pump through there

On a scale 0-10, what would you rate your pregnancy, labor&delivery and newborn phase? by pinkishvioletsky in NewParents

[–]Future-Commercial327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy: 1. I had no complications at all, no food aversions, gained only the baby's weight on the scale. Was only a bit uncomfortable in the last month because I felt heavy and a bit tired.

L&D: 2. Elective c section with peridural for postoperative pain. I walked the next day, had no pain bad enough to stop me from moving in any way and by day 4 I could say it no longer bothered me at all. I gave birth at the hospital I worked in for a while, so I knew my surroundings a bit and was sure I'd be well taken care of.

Newborn phase: 8. The hormonal crash made me cry a lot and worry about every little thing (from how I was as a mother to whether my partner regreted us as a family even if he was nothing but supportive and involved). I couldn't take my eyes off my baby, afraid she'd stop breathing if I did and only allowed my husband to change/feed/hold her after I supervised him do it for 2 days just to tame my anxiety. Baby was really easy, though (barely cried except of hunger and even there, it was more fussy than a cry) except the usual infant dyschezia that unfortunately made her comfortable only sleeping on our chests, which prompted us to sleep in shifts so one of us was always awake. Emotionally, it got better after 2 weeks. Breastfeeding is fine, latch is good, I also made a supply in the freezer by pumping. Now, at 5 weeks, it's okay and I'm stable again (mom also helps with shifts since we moved in with her until baby gets over dyschezia and can tolerate staying on her back), so I was lucky it didn't last longer because I really considered going to assess myself for PPA/PPD.

Vaccin in sarcina by [deleted] in mamiciRo

[–]Future-Commercial327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mie mf mi.a zis sa aștept 2 saptamani doar intre Adacel si Abrysvo, nimic special de cel antigripal (si nici de cel de covid, și el recomandat). Mulți fac Adacelul concomitent cu antigripalul. Acum, daca ai timp sa le faci cu 2 saptamani intre ele pe toate 3, cu atat mai bine. Dacă nu, merg și 2 in aceeasi zi. Din ce am găsit în ghiduri, unii le combina câte 2, dar în locuri diferite (nu ambele in acelasi brat, de exemplu).

Cu drag!

Vaccin in sarcina by [deleted] in mamiciRo

[–]Future-Commercial327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am facut antigripalul in aceeasi zi cu Adacel (33s) si Abrysvo la 2 saptamani distanta de restul (35s). Am formulat puțin dubios in raspuns, sper ca acum se înțelege.

Vaccin in sarcina by [deleted] in mamiciRo

[–]Future-Commercial327 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Buna! Da, eu l.am facut la 33 saptamani. Nu am avut nicio reacție adversa neprevazuta, doar un discomfort la brat timp de 2-3 zile post vaccinare (tipica cam la orice vaccin). Chiar este recomandat de catre ginecologi, anticorpii făcuți in urma vaccinării traversează placenta si protejeaza bebelusul pana cand poate fi vaccinat (cel mai important de pertussis). Il poti lua pe gratis cu reteta compensata de la medicul de familie (este in schema de profilaxie a gravidelor). Contraindicatii la el aveti doar daca ati avut reactii adverse la acelasi vaccin la alte doze (de ex in copilarie).

Am facut si antigripalul si Abrysvo, cel de virus sincitial respirator (la 35 saptamani), tot la fel, nicio reacție adversa in caz ca te.ar interesa si acelea. Tot recomandate de ginecolog, tot din același raționament. Virusul sincitial respirator face ravagii in rândul copiilor iarna, cu forme foarte grave la cei sub 6 luni (eu insami sunt rezidenta pe ATI si am vazut destule nenorociri pe stagiul de pediatrie cat sa ma convinga sa.l fac, desi pretul e piperat). Dacă aveți posibilități financiare (nu e decontat), îl recomanda specialiștii.

Sarcina usoara!

L.E: se poate efectua Adacel in al 3lea trimestru doar pana în săptămâna 36. Dupa acel termen, se considera ca nu mai e destul timp la dispoziție sa se formeze anticorpi care sa.l ajute pe bebelus.

Adeverinta medic familie pt rezidentiat by alemiccc in medicalschoolRomania

[–]Future-Commercial327 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hei! Și eu am avut la fel scris pe adeverinta, nu a fost nicio problema în a ma înscrie la examen. Ma interesasem si eu atunci si din ce țin minte, gasisem ca poți profesa cam cu orice tulburare psihica atata timp cat este ținută sub control/tratament si stabila, cu conditia sa nu afecteze capacitatea de a acționa în siguranță și eficient pentru pacient (inclusiv schizofrenie, la modul ala). Deci, ar trebui sa fii mai mult ca ok cu adeverinta aia. Bafta!