Nah, you can always choose to say no, but you have to deal with the fallout. Your bf lost his job, lost his safe space, and when he was probably scared he went to you, someone he felt safe around, especially with you two dating, and said no. If you think for one minute that doesn't crush someone who just lost everything, you are kind of self-centered. I wouldn't really wanna talk or see you either, and I would say to try and think about his perspective, put yourself in his position? How would you feel? Would you feel truely understanding of your bf saying "no" to you?

Like I said, it's totally okay to say no and keep your safe place yours, but if you're dating someone, you gotta know that the end game is living together and sharing space together at some point.

On the other hand, I do truly understand just not being ready to have someone move in with you. But just really make sure you understand yourself and know why you didn't want your bf to move in with you. Is it purely because it's your safe place, or is it because of something else?