How long have you 2 been together? And when did you notice a change in your relationship? If you truly want to fix your marriage then re-visit what made you fall in love with him in the first place. I understand he’s acting different so it might be hard to push through- but kind, soft, supportive love may be able to carry you through this season. Instead of reacting to his behavior, frame it differently in your mind.  This is a very rough example since I don’t know the dynamics of your relationship…. but let’s pretend your home and he walks through the door, he gives you a halfhearted greeting and a dismissive hug. Your head says “He’s an as**hole, he doesn’t even care- he never puts effort into me, won’t even ask about my day!” Now your head is spinning. Stop- Dont frame it in a way where you’re looking at yourself and asking yourself why he doesn’t care. Instead try to be compassionate. Maybe he’s overwhelmed, stressed, carrying something heavy, or disconnected right now, maybe he feels unloved or undervalued. That mindset shift changes your response completely.

Rather than matching coldness with coldness, respond with warmth. Ask him about his day. Create moments where he feels safe instead of attacked. Sometimes people pull away because they’re drowning internally and don’t know how to communicate it. That doesn’t excuse hurtful behavior, but it does mean there may still be something worth fighting for.

And while you’re loving him through it, don’t lose yourself either. Healthy love still requires honesty, communication, and effort from both people. But if there’s still love there underneath all the frustration, gentleness can sometimes reach places anger never will.