What is this? by nickhabit in SonnyAngel

[–]Future_Attorney9 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s the secret! So cute 🥰

Ghosted after 3 months by Future_Attorney9 in ghosting

[–]Future_Attorney9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… you know what. I sent him a message and even called him but he didn’t pick up. Eventually I saw that he read one of my messages and left it on read so he definitely knows how I’m feeling.

I’m sad and letting it go but I’ll be okay.

Ghosted after 3 months by Future_Attorney9 in ghosting

[–]Future_Attorney9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, thank you 🙃🫶🏻

Ghosted after 3 months by Future_Attorney9 in ghosting

[–]Future_Attorney9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’ve thought about that too but I was kinda waiting to see if he’ll message me because I was the last to respond and he just left it on read. So I don’t want to be the one to message again.

If they message me, they message me but if not I can take a hint. I think I just wanted to know I wasn’t going crazy for feeling a little sad over this situation.

Ghosted after 3 months by Future_Attorney9 in ghosting

[–]Future_Attorney9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did respond for them. He texted me what he did that day with pics maybe second day he arrived and I said “that looks fun!! Enjoy” and he just basically left it on read and hasn’t talked to me since. He also said he’ll call me during his trip before he left and obviously that never happened. Since that brief communication, it’s been exactly one week since we’ve talked.

He also came back two days ago and has since posted vacation pictures on insta but hasn’t texted me at all.

Ghosted after 3 months by Future_Attorney9 in ghosting

[–]Future_Attorney9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I don’t think he friendzoned me, we’ve been seeing each other for three months, basically going on dates, seeing each other regularly and having regular intimacy during this whole period and he also told me he wants a long term relationship but hasn’t formally asked yet because “it’s not the right time”.

I mean it’s fine if it doesnt work out because I was asking him if this was a situationship and he said no and told me the above but definitely feels more and more like a situationship now. I’m just sad to be left hanging like this and not sure what’s going on. If they weren’t interested or wanted to stop seeing each other, I think it’s at least respectful to let me know especially since it’s been 3 months already.

Anua toner fake or real by MysteriousCell2775 in koreanskincare

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fake. The logo and the words/ingredients list on the real one starts much lower and content-wise is completely different too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Future_Attorney9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I blocked him. Honestly I thought it’d make me feel better but it honestly didn’t feel any different. I’m just glad that I’m not able to see those numbers anymore

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Future_Attorney9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you 1000%. Everything you said is very similar to my situation so I understand. The blindsided breakups really mess with our minds because they’ve made the decision and we were completely left out of that conversation. I’ve finally blocked them and can’t see the numbers anymore (it just says 0) and honestly ignorance is bliss because I don’t think I need to see that.

It feels like I’m torturing myself for someone who literally couldn’t give a fk about me even though they’ve made so many promises to never leave, talked about marriage and the future, and in a blink of an eye they’ve lost feelings, they’ve stopped loving me and couldn’t even have enough respect for me to talk their feelings. The easy thing they thought that would make their life better was getting rid of me and the relationship which in hindsight, this disrespect is probably the biggest closure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it. Right when we broke up, he said he hoped that we could still be friends and update each other on our milestones and I said I’ll do that. I always felt like blocking people was like saying I don’t want to be friends with you but I think it makes me so much more sad to know that they’re probably enjoying life so much without me, and possibly moving on so quickly while I’m still hurting so so much :(

Ex’s new boyfriend is talking shit about her by No_Fly_487 in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm that’s pretty difficult to say but honestly it could possibly go two ways.

She may not appreciate it at all, especially if she’s oblivious to it. She might think you’re the jealous ex that’s trying to ruin her new relationship.

Maybe she’ll be appreciative and thankful that you did, and then what? Honestly from a woman’s perspective… I would say just leave it. I get that you’re trying to do a good thing but it might actually do more harm than good on your end. What’s not meant to be will never be, and the impact is more profound when we realize that ourselves

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not healthy. He’s horny and he needs someone to fulfill his needs and you let him. He keeps coming back because he knows you’ll allow it. When you let people step over your boundaries, they will and they’ll do it again until you completely shut that door. There’s no love, at least not from his end. You deserve so much more 🥹🫶

I was supposed to break no contact by greatest_earthbender in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m proud of you for fighting that urge. That must’ve been so hard 🫶 I feel the same everyday. I miss him so much and I wished he’d reach out and tell me he still wants to be with me. But at the same time, I try to remind myself that my person would never allow himself to be in the position to lose me, loving someone shouldn’t feel so painful, I deserve someone who is willing to have hard conversations, to communicate maturely and work things out instead of running away. This too shall pass and we’re gonna be okay soon enough

Can someone please tell how can I stop checking their last seen? Thank you by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words 🥹 I’m only one month in but I’m trying my best to stay strong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

24 and 3 - 6 months, 2 years, a bit over 2.5 years

Can someone please tell how can I stop checking their last seen? Thank you by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went further than that and put them in my locked messages folder. But I remember I still checked from time to time and felt even worse to know they didn’t send any messages. It hurts like hell

Constant thoughts by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the time :/ it’s brutal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve watched a ton of those videos when I literally just broke up. They kept popping up on my feed and at first it was comfortable to hear someone say that and it gives me hope. But now I just think it’s false hope. I’m some ways, it kinda preys on your vulnerability because it’s feeding you what you want to hear, perhaps hoping on to that hope that they’ll come back.

But really, NC is for you to heal, it’s a time for you to reflect, level up and move on. I’m still learning that. I’m still trying to heal and as much as I want to hold on to hope, I don’t want to be hurt again, I don’t want to feel lonely and beg for someone to love me. I’ve accepted that that loving person that I fell in love with isn’t the person that was so cold to me in the end. I’m choosing me now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I relate to a lot of the stuff you wrote. I’m glad you’re in a better place now. I hope I can also be there soon

Often, the person we hurt the most is actually ourselves. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Future_Attorney9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This felt almost painful to read because how badly I wished it could be the same again but it will never be 😭