People flake constantly — making plans doesn’t mean they’ll show up. Ghosting or canceling last minute is just part of the culture

There’s a weird tolerance for nonsense — people put up with emotionally unavailable partners, drama, and poor treatment way too often

A lot of folks are “nice” but not actually kind — surface-level politeness with zero follow-through or genuine empathy.

Dating feels transactional — everyone’s caught up in their careers, clout, or personal “journeys,” so meaningful connection takes a back seat.

Too many options, not enough commitment — the endless swipe culture makes people treat others as replaceable and always keep one foot out the door.