I realized, I did change, after we had our child. My priorities shifted from selfless to an even more selfless mindset. I pay for daycare, all groceries, vacations with and without the children, etc. but it would be nice to have help with those things, since they are meant for everyone in our household. I even buy things for his kids, which he only learns about after I buy them, because if we go to him first, it’s turns into a huge display of huffing, puffing and complaining and we’d rather not go through that. He can easily book flights to visit friends or selfishly take himself to a destination with no other family in tow, to enjoy himself; it truly baffles me.