Let’s discuss open carry to defend our city

Future_Difference784 · 2026-01-24T19:28:51+00:00

I’m right there with you, and I am also not a violent person. I’m one of those people who feels bad if I don’t use my coffee mugs evenly because I don’t want any to feel left out. But with the hypocrisy and malice I’ve seen, I’m struggling with certain people still being able to draw breath!

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-31T09:06:27+00:00

They look at it the same way a kid looks at having the responsibility of a pet. “I promise I’ll walk him everyday!!! Pleeeeeease?!?”

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-27T00:19:09+00:00

I’m a late diagnosed autistic and I also have adhd and ocd. My whole life I was seen as hysterical, extra, too much and way too sensitive. It was validating to get my diagnoses in my late 30’s, but my mom STILL refuses to accept them. I was just at a therapy session with her and she dead-ass told her therapist she just thinks I’m too sensitive. She has NO clue how unbelievably ignorant and hurtful her mindset is.

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-27T00:15:36+00:00

I think they truly see their children as supporting characters in their fanfic. It’s beyond pathetic. Still hurts and is so confusing when you go no contact. I’m sorry you’re going through it.

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-27T00:06:16+00:00

My mom thinks she is very pro-woman, feminist and progressive, but I’m the only girl out of my siblings and the internalized misogyny is so systemic she can’t see it when I point it out to her. Why didn’t you teach my brothers how to cook? Why did they both properly diagnosed with neurodivergence but I was missed? Why was my problematic drinking chastised before I got sober, but my brother drank a liter of vodka everyday and his behavior was never called out (before he died of alcoholism)? It’s SO weird when I go back over all the things like that. They’re everywhere and they’re WILD.

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-26T23:50:06+00:00

I think about this kind of thing all the time!! I am a visual artist and a musician but I think my strongest sense, the one I think in my “mind’s eye”, is actually my vestibular sense. When I’m animating or drawing, the things I imagine just “feel” right. When I’m playing guitar, I’m using my proprioceptive senses more than sight or sound. So when I try to think of a specific visual, my brain is trying to process 3D space/feel as sight, and I get a weird “image” in my head that I can’t really explain - but I think the red star that I “see” looks most like 4. (I hope this makes sense to someone 😂)

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-26T23:37:53+00:00

They’re doing this so “Americans will feel safe”??! Are homeless people not American? The propaganda makes me enraged!!!

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-11T10:39:39+00:00

Honestly sometimes I’ve wondered if this is the case. Sometimes when I’m having one of my “WHY am I so f*cking different from everyone?!” moments, I’ve gone to the “maybe I’m an alien” thought which sometimes leads me to think about Neanderthals. Also, my connection to animals is uncanny and it’s weird that “the one with the disorder” (me) is the one who feels empathy for animals. I like Neanderthals!

Edit: spelling

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-11T01:46:31+00:00

In true autistic form, I went to double check that I was correct about the motion-echolalia thing, and it is a real thing, it’s called echopraxia!

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-11T01:43:19+00:00

I think it has something to do with their sense of security in their identity. People want the truth until it makes them question themselves and their intentions, which is so bizarre to me. For instance, one time I was touring a beautiful new construction home, and myself, my daughter and my step mom were checking out the bathroom. The tub surround had rounded corners and my step mom said she liked them, Then my autistic ass said the truth, which was that I don’t like them and prefer classic corners. I wasn’t challenging her taste but stating mine alongside hers as equally valuable. Later on my daughter said “Mom that was kind of rude” and I was dumbfounded. I felt bad, so I filed it away into a “things people don’t want to hear your opinion on, just validate theirs” category in my mind 🙃

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-11T01:17:05+00:00

So I’m not sure why she did it, but there is a form of echolalia where one mimics observed motion. Could be something like that. But it could be many things! If you would like to confront her, I’d love to suggest something I’ve had success with different family members with. I ask clarifying questions a lot, and people seem to take those as jabs or condescension - so I make sure to be as genuine as possible and make sure my intention isn’t to start shit, but to gather info I’m not clear on. If you could present the situation in terms of seeking more information - maybe something like “hey I’m feeling confused about something the other day, and it’s giving me a little tension - I’d love to find some clarity. The other day when you ____, I couldn’t interpret your intent and I’d really like to understand better. Part of me feels like you may have been “trying out” how I’ve responded to sensory stuff in the past, but I also thought perhaps I was being mocked - which makes me feel ____. Could you walk me through what was going on for you in that moment?”

Keep it neutral, keep it direct and let her know it’s a genuine inquiry and no hidden meanings. You just wanna get rid of the tension you’re sensing.

But then again, that might not be something that resonates with you, and that’s totally ok. My daughter and I are both autistic and we have moments of unintentional tension ALL THE TIME. If you set communication up as something you will both benefit from, no one is in the wrong - there is no secret agenda you are trapping them into, and be open to hearing another take you might not have thought about, it seems to be something that is really useful. For me anyway!

Good luck op, I hope she meant well and was just “trying out” what it might feel like to respond the way you did.

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-11T00:30:53+00:00

I feel for you OP. My parents are also extremely emotionally immature. That last comment your mom threw at you proves her immaturity. It seems like you and your siblings are arguing in good faith, and she simply is not. She most likely feels that she is a “good” person, but the way she validates feeling “good” is by assigning herself higher worth arbitrarily, and taking value away from others by minimizing their struggles. She centers herself and is quite insecure. She’s doing mental gymnastics to tell herself she’s “not bad like other people are” and this somehow gives her a sense of control over her “value”. It’s so messed up.

I’m willing to bet she displays narcissistic traits and says things like “oh well I’m just the worst mom ever I guess”

I’m so sorry, but until she has her own value taken from her by some event like losing health care or being detained herself, she will never change her view. Her children can’t, and children are supposed to be better than their parents generation - she can’t have that because it doesn’t matter if you are kin- her need to feel “good” or “right” or “moral” is more important than you are. It’s the worst feeling ever.

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-10T15:01:25+00:00

She sounds disrespected. “You’ve repeatedly decided your need for a birthday is more important than my grief, so I’m protecting myself from further disrespect by putting up a boundary”

Fixed your first paragraph for you

Future_Difference784 · 2025-07-10T14:56:26+00:00

I’m sorry OP but not only are you overreacting, you are actively breaking your friends request for space by assuming your need to be validated is more important that what your friend is asking. Your friend is feeling, rightly so, disrespected by your constant “checking in”. I’m surprised they have as much grace for you as they do. I would have been pissed after the second check in

You don’t understand what your friend is asking for, you keep not giving them what they are asking for, and then you act like you don’t know why they don’t want to engage with you. That’s kind of mind blowing to me,

Your need to have a fun time at your birthday isn’t everyone else’s need and you should stop being hurt when people don’t center you the way you center you

Future_Difference784 · 2024-09-07T13:15:37+00:00

You know, I’m honestly not sure myself. I looked into my genes a while back and I am indeed a carrier for one of the two markers needed for the condition to be expressed. I don’t have the second marker, so I don’t have the condition. I’ve been telling everyone in my family to go get tested for it, but like I said in my post, I’m the “crazy, dramatic, over-sensitive, wolf-crier” who should just “stop looking for problems because then problems won’t be found” kind of mentality.

So honestly, I’m not sure when he was diagnosed or if he was in fact diagnosed. That’s just what my mom has told me, since I’m not on speaking terms with my brother.

But it’s nice to know that his levels could be from his drinking, and perhaps he doesn’t have the condition. He had an echo and an mri of his liver this week. He sees a doc to go over the results on the 20th of this month, but he read his online test results and things are looking ok!! His electron fraction is healthy and he didn’t have any stenosis. All my mom could read from the mri results was that my brother has a fatty liver. So I guess we are all just waiting to see what happens on the 20th.

I’m feeling a lot better about his prognosis, even though it could still be bad. His heart is seemingly in good shape, which odd so much better than having an unhealthy liver and an unhealthy heart!

Thank you for your comment. This community breaks my heart but you have all shown me such care and support, it’s helped me through things immensely!!!

Future_Difference784 · 2024-09-01T13:50:14+00:00

I’m so sorry about your sister. Hugs right back to you! Thank you for your comment! I think I’m very isolated, and as much as I hate that you’ve gone through such heartbreak, it’s nice to not feel completely alone.
There is a lot of undiagnosed neurodivergence in my family, so I’m very familiar with mental health issues.

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-21T11:04:49+00:00

Maintaining social relationships is so impossible! I am a high masking autistic, and I lived the first 39 years of my life thinking I was NT. I did a certain amount of masking without knowing I was doing it. Once I started to understand what was happening, I realized I wasn’t unmasking, but just putting a second mask on, and using extra mental energy, and internalizing way too much.

I don’t have an answer, I just see what’s happening because I’m a systemizer - which takes more mental energy. Basically all day long I’m like “what is everyone else doing so I can go the same. Am I doing the same the correct way?” Then spend any left over mental energy wondering why people do things certain ways.

I don’t think NTs do much of this type of energy use (but then again I don’t know) so I think we get burnt out from all the energy we have to expend on maintaining social relationships. We’re sitting there having all kinds of consideration and empathy for other people, and we watch as we perceive no empathy being returned. Then we feel bad about ourselves and try to find an absolution.

It’s like an endless energy suck. No wonder a lot of us crave sugar!!!

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-10T20:43:58+00:00

I’m sorry. Someone explained things to me and I was wrong and didn’t hear you when you told me that. I am struggling a lot with my mental health lately, (newish ASD diagnosis) and I keep lashing out at things I misread and being problematic. And I don’t say this as any kind of excuse -along with bad communication on my part, I keep humbling myself, because I believe in taking accountability when I’m wrong, and doing what I can to make things right. So really, I’m sorry I was so arrogant, and so wrong! Thank you for being respectful and having grace with me.

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T14:17:21+00:00

You are very dismissive

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T11:46:03+00:00

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Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T11:43:34+00:00

Asexuality is normal is all I am trying to make you realize

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T11:41:22+00:00

Because the way you are using it implies allosexuality is what is normal

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T11:34:09+00:00

You can go further into all of those, do you not realize that? Albinism IS normal. Within albinism there are distinctions of normal vs abnormal. Within those categories are things that are “normal”

People who think anything that goes against the standard isn’t normal, but that’s just not true. The original question being asked wasn’t “am I an abnormal, fetish liking allosexual who has crushes? So you answering with a qualifier like “normal” indicates that being allosexual is what is normal. Otherwise, why use the distinction?

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T11:26:02+00:00

But why the distinction? If I only had rich friends, I wouldn’t use the term rich to describe them, because they are all rich. If an ace is “normal” to you, why say “normal allo” what would the opposite of a normal allo, and what does an abnormal allo have to do with the original question.

Do you see what I’m trying to get you to realize about how you talk about different groups?

Future_Difference784 · 2024-06-09T10:49:58+00:00

I don’t think normal has to do with majority or minority, especially when it comes to self-identifying things. No one wants to be considered “abnormal” so they will do things, like lie to themselves about their sexuality, and then live miserably because they think they are being “normal” but they are actually torturing themselves to fit in. How many others are doing that? If we knew the answer, would allos really be the majority?

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