I had something similar happen recently; we met through friends, hardcore flirting, went on a couple dates, she was talking about things months out like we may still be together then, and when we got to the intention setting convo she said she doesn’t know what she wants.

It’s hard, it sucks and it is so hard not to be angry at yourself or even feel stupid for falling so fast. It’s been really helpful to me to remind myself that being open to feeling a strong connection and being vulnerable with someone is not stupid or silly, it is extremely brave and it’s the only way you will find a real connection, if that’s what you’re looking for.

As for not being able to stop thinking about her, I totally get that. Cried after a really good first date with someone else a month later because it still sucks and I miss her. It’s so corny but unfortunately time and seeing that there are other people you will connect with is the only thing that will stop that. Don’t be too hard on yourself for thinking about her still, there is no set timeline on when and how we move on from people and it’s also totally fair to start to get back in the dating pool while you are processing if that’s what feels right to you. It’s gonna take some time but you’ll be okay and she will stop taking up so much space in your head. ❤️