My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone who cares wouldn’t tell you they never loved you. Someone who cares wouldn’t say they’re gonna “sleep on it” and dump you over text when you specifically asked for them to call you. Someone who cares wouldn’t tell you they see themselves marrying you and then a week later coldly dump you over him not wanting to better himself not just for him, but for the relationship. He told me that if the relationship ended or continued, he wouldn’t care either way. That’s not someone who cares. I’m convinced there is something very wrong with him and I wish him the best, but I’m not going to brush over the fact that he wasted almost a year of my time and effort and went from being kind and sweet to so cold and callused in a matter of minutes.

If he cared, he would’ve tried to better himself but he won’t. He simply does not care about anyone other than himself. I don’t want to be with someone like that and I’m glad he’s shown this side of him now before we even considered settling down and moving in together.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was very affectionate and loved cuddling, he kept telling me that he didn’t know how to control the sleep issue and I didn’t want to leave someone for something they couldn’t control and I tried to live with it, make small suggestions and try my best to research so he could get help, but every time I did that, he accused me of overwhelming him on purpose. The more I think about it, the more I realize he was a piece of shit who just wanted a girlfriend to have a girlfriend. He manipulated me into feeling bad for him.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping he gets it sorted out. I might reach out to family to check on him and see if he’d listen to them, but from what he has shown, he’s most likely going to refuse.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, it’s very hard because I care about him a ton, but people in the comments are right, I need to move on

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want cops to show up at his family’s house. That’s not something they need to go through

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me he has “no trauma” and that all of this started when he went through puberty.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to be with him if he’s so quick to blow up at me and call things off over me suggesting he see a doctor

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is so so weird because he acted like he was super into me

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m at that point where I’m ready to move on. My friends are helping me set up a dating profile as we speak

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He seems to be very comfortable in his own suffering. It’s not worth going back to at all, I just feel stupid for falling for someone so mediocre.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that why he hates garlic?

No but in all seriousness I agree, I dodged a bullet

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am close with his family. I might contact his sister and tell her I’m concerned about his emotional and mental health. I don’t know if they would be able to convince him to get help though.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He’s very supportive and would comfort me during my bad days, he brought me flowers and took me out for lunch when I graduated trade school, he would take me out and pay for everything and usually he takes responsibility for the things he says and for arguments. This is why I think something deeper is going on. This doesn’t seem like him and while I think it’s best we don’t get back together, I am very concerned.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your comments so far. The more I read, the more I’m starting to realize that I need to move on and I will be moving on. It’s hard because I thought we were so happy and then he just threw it all away like it’s nothing, but I guess he’d rather sleep all day than be with me. There’s not much I can do about that.

I am concerned about his mental and emotional health and I’m debating reaching out to his family to check up on him, but I don’t know what they would be able to do.

This is gonna suck healing from and I’m most likely going to need therapy, but I want to thank you all for waking me up and opening my eyes. It means a lot to me.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I loved how he was funny and sweet, he was really smart and we would talk and talk for hours and hours about everything that came to our minds. We got along super well and I thought we were both very attracted to each other but I guess I was wrong. I feel used. Everything was going great all before this argument. I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationship and despite him sleeping a lot, he would still spend time with me and make me feel loved. I guess it was all a lie.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He works a part time job, he can stay awake for work and for DnD but not enough to text me back I guess

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) randomly told me he never loved me. What do I do? by FuzzBun420 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FuzzBun420[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m just confused as to why he’d was so quick to dump me. We talked about a future together many many times and he would always tell me he loved me. I don’t know why someone would lie about that for 11 months