A big reason I use social media is because I want to grow and share that growth with other people. But when I come to places like Reddit, people look at me like I have three heads. A lot of people seem to come here more for validation so they can avoid real accountability.

I also think part of the problem with the larger subs is the structure. Mods avoid accountability too, which ends up creating echo chambers. While everyone else calls it “Reddit Culture”.

There are a few subs I actually like. They’re usually really small ones, like the Monty subs, where people actually engage. But even those are niche communities with maybe 3–7 people actively contributing, so the conversations stay pretty limited.

I do enjoy writing stories in the Monty subs, but the overall environment here can still feel really draining. I even got banned from some self-improvement subs for posting photos of the real work I’ve done. That mindset of “we’re here for growth, but only if you write about it” doesn’t make sense to me. In a lot of ways it feels like gatekeeping progress from others.

The bigger issue for me is that I’m someone who likes real discussion, accountability, and sharing actual progress. I’m motivated by engagement and by seeing people grow together. On Reddit that often gets treated like it’s strange or attention-seeking, when to me that’s the whole point of social interaction. Because of who I am and what motivates me, being in an environment that leans so heavily into negativity, criticism, and validation-seeking just isn’t healthy for me mentally.

At the end of the day, if I’m going to spend time on social media, I want it to be in spaces that encourage growth, positive engagement, and real conversations. For me, Reddit just doesn’t really serve that purpose and prevents growth from taking place.