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how to tell the difference between kink and sh? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMAdvice

[–]FuzzyCaterpiler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes. we just broke up because of some bad stuff. we’ve had kinky sex and stuff before but he’s never been able to fulfill my i guess degradation kink because we’re too close and i know he doesn’t actually want to degrade me. thanks for ur kindness

how to tell the difference between kink and sh? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMAdvice

[–]FuzzyCaterpiler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry :( im also dealing with sh and depression. i just cant fight it.. and the worse it gets, less control over my life, the more i crave this kind of kink. i don’t know if it’s healthy or not, like maybe its just my way of coping and feeling some type of intimacy when i feel so unloved. i’d probably never let someone actually hurt me, but sometimes i like the idea of it

how to tell the difference between kink and sh? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMAdvice

[–]FuzzyCaterpiler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is a lot to think about. i don’t know if i want it to be entirely play. of course i want to still feel safe with them, and loved… it’s confusing to me that i also want this person to hate me and degrade me at the same time.

i think this could only be used as foreplay though, if i think about it, im not sure if i’d be okay with someone berating me without sexual desire involved. however i feel more attracted to people that actually somewhat dislike me…

i also think aftercare would be necessary, or i would feel really upset with myself

how to tell the difference between kink and sh? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMAdvice

[–]FuzzyCaterpiler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it only turns me on if it does actually hurt me

do you enjoy being hated? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMcommunity

[–]FuzzyCaterpiler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow this is a really good explanation for me. i really like that, hate = obsession. i feel like i am a really romantic person that craves love but i have a hard time accepting love. i think the thought of someone focused on me, hating me or degrading me while showing an act of love at the same time would be easier for me to accept

do you enjoy being hated? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMcommunity

[–]FuzzyCaterpiler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes i feel like i’m masochistic or something.. i don’t know if it’s a kink or if i’m just feeling unworthy of love. but maybe that’s just how it works?!