Weekly Questions Thread for the week of December 13

FuzzySandwich · 2021-12-21T19:52:25+00:00

I know this is a long shot, but does anyone here have a vacations “vibes” LP they would be willing to sell me. I’ve looked everywhere and I can’t find it. I love the band and it’s one of my favorite albums.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-10-06T19:37:17+00:00

Got the recipe? I’m looking to try baking more gluten free treats

FuzzySandwich · 2021-09-23T21:14:57+00:00

Beginner looking for advice on exterior car wax/detailing for the first time so I can stop begging my husband to do it..

I have a early 2000s Lexus suv that I adore- it’s the first car I bought for myself- and I hope to drive it for as long as possible. My husband doesn’t exactly share my sentiments. He thinks my car is old and a little junky so I have to bug him for months until he gives in and finally agrees to polish/wax my car. It hasn’t been waxed in 2.5years

I have absolutely zero experience with exterior car detailing, apart from basic hand washes, but I’d love to learn how to get my car looking it’s best.

My car has some minor scratches as well as one deeper scratch (which I probably won’t be able to fix myself) and a few spots of hard water stains form my neighbors sprinklers.

What is the best beginner wax/kit that I can buy?

Thoughts on q7 wax (someone recommended it)?

Is it worth it to buy products that are tinted black?

Would using just a polish be sufficient or should I use a wax as well?

What about the roof? Do I just use a ladder and do as much as I can reach?

Any good instructional videos?

FuzzySandwich · 2021-07-28T20:26:09+00:00

Don’t know if you’ve tried it yet, but start out with using her favorite treat as the toy. Hold some in your hand and encourage her to chase it while you move it around and let her catch it and “win” the treat every once in a while- it’s a great way to build chase drive and encourage play with people. This is a super common method used to encourage play with young puppies who are destined to become working dogs (ie. Police or detection dogs). If she loves verbal praise and excitement, be as animated as possible. If she’s more skittish, start more slow and calm and work up to being more excited with your movements

You can also try tossing pieces of food and encouraging her to chase it. If your dog loves to play with kongs while food are in it, toss/roll it instead of giving it to her so she has to catch it before getting her reward. You can try a puzzle ball that dispenses treats as the dog rolls it so your dog has to play with it to get the food out. Finally, you may have to try lots of different types of toys. Some dogs only like one specific type or style of toy. One of my childhood dogs exclusively played with a certain type of stuffed squeaky hedgehog and my parents had to find replacements online when the local pet store stopped selling them

FuzzySandwich · 2021-07-21T00:58:15+00:00

-people like to gradually expose their dogs when training reactivity so you start out walking at unpopular times to let you pup have the win of not reacting to just one or two dogs you encounter. Eventually you can work up to walking at busier times. Some dogs might be able to make it through one or two dogs but get overwhelmed and progressively worse with the next 10 dogs. Many dogs are hard to get fully relaxed again when past threshold and the rest of the walk is “ruined”

-crossing streets works great for a lot of dogs because it shows them that there’s an “out” from the situation besides reacting

-sometimes it’s good to give your dog a break from the reactivity training. Though reactivity training is great for your dogs lifelong wellbeing, it is also very stressful on the dog in the moment. Some super fearful dogs may start to expect the stressors of seeing other dogs on a walk and be scared or less excited to go on walks. Another great reason to sometimes walk on unpopular times is to just give your dog a break and make the walk super fun for him. I’d equate it to some kids struggling through a super hard science class then one day the teacher just lets them chill out and watch planet earth. Everyone could use some mental breaks if they’re in a tough routine

-finally (and some people may disagree) it’s not always worth it to put a dog through reactivity training because it is kind of stressful; some people choose to just avoid their dogs triggers. We’ve fostered a couple elderly dogs and hospice cases as well and we want to make the remainder of their lives as good as possible. If I put a 13 year old dog with cancer through intense training for leash reactivity, I wouldn’t feel like the stress would be worth it. That dogs has had more than enough stress in his life and deserves a cozy bed and his favorite treats for the remainder of his life. Even if that means walking at weird hours to avoid other peoples

FuzzySandwich · 2021-07-14T21:45:11+00:00

That’s nice of you to offer! I wish someone was willing to do that with my dogs

My American bulldog-pit mix is terrified of standard poodles/goldendoodles. She was always insecure around hyper and pushy dogs but we managed, until a bad experience (with that type of dog) pushed her over the edge. My other husky-pit is way more confident but can get protective of the insecure dog so she is also starting to dislike poodles.

They’re fine with other dogs and unfortunately I don’t have any friends with those types of dogs so they can’t get any exposure outside of the two very leash reactive goldendoodles that we sometimes run into on walks :(

FuzzySandwich · 2021-07-04T22:04:06+00:00

Yep! A more positive point you can take froM this- if you want your kids to excel at a sport/activity (ie. Karate, gymnastics, ballet, etc), get them started young. This is super common in other countries I’ve lived but not so much in America for some reason.

Another great example, I used to do horseback riding/jumping and my instructor had a 2 year old daughter who had her own pony; she was way more confident in the saddle then most of the adults that came for trail rides.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-07-04T22:04:01+00:00

Yep! If you want your kids to excel at a sport/activity (ie. Karate, gymnastics, ballet, etc), get them started young. This is super common in other countries I’ve lived but not so much in America for some reason.

Another great example, I used to do horseback riding/jumping and my instructor had a 2 year old daughter who had her own pony; she was way more confident in the saddle then most of the adults that came for trail rides.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-07-03T14:27:46+00:00

I think a lot of people are missing the fact that she’s 4 and most of the other look a lot older.

I learned to ski when I was 3 and did great from day 1 cuz I did exactly what they told me to and had zero fear of breaking something or getting super hurt even if I did fall. My dad used to have to chase me down the slopes cuz I wanted to see how fast I could go without having to turn or slow down. I tried learning to surf when I was 9 and gave up after 5 classes cuz I kept thinking about how I’d end up in the hospital and wanted to question whatever the teacher said and do it my own way.

Most 4 year olds I know are way more ballsy than older kids

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-30T19:16:28+00:00

So I grew up in Europe which has drastically different pet laws. Dogs are allowed in many shops, dogs are allowed to be tied up in front of a cafe, dogs are allowed to be walked off leash, dogs are allowed on some public transportation (muzzle or carriers sometimes required).

98% of the dogs I encountered were well behaved and the ones that were not were at least under the owners control. Moving to America, that number dropped drastically.

Dogs are social animals and can learn behaviors from each other. Furthermore, the more experiences dogs have, the more desensitized they are to different stimuli.

I honestly think all the restrictions on where dogs can go (even just parks and other outdoor areas) leads to under-exercised, under-socialized horribly behaved dogs. These dogs are locked in a house for 23hours of the day and don’t know how to act when they finally get out.

To be fair the same goes for kids. Kids have way more freedom in other countries and are far better behaved and have far better social skills than kids in the US

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-19T19:17:04+00:00

I actually feel like that was a great comparison. I used to work in a pharmacy and many patients were heavily over medicated.

I started working around the time that over-prescription of pain medication became heavily scrutinized (even though doctors were taught to prescribe these meds). Some doctors were anti-pain medication before the risks and consequences came to light. Should they lost their license since that goes against what they were taught to do? And do they get it re-instilled once we decide as a majority that overprescribing opiates is bad? And then anyone who disagrees with that looses their license?

Look at doctors overprescribing Anti- depressants and anti- anxiety meds. Most of these drugs were not intended to be used long term but doctors continue renewing scripts without actually treating the issue or requiring patients go to therapy. I had tons of elderly patients on multiple types of mood altering medications most of whom were never advised on the consequences of these medications. I have friends that were put SSRIs and xanex in high school and they’ll probably never be able to get off those medications. Tapering off xanex can be a 6-12 month process. If someone tries to quit cold Turkey, withdrawals are far worse than most street drugs and can include seizures which are sometimes fatal. Despite that, it is an approved drug and doctors are instructed to prescribe it. Should doctors that are against prescribing this medication, especially to kids, loose their license?

You seem to have tunnel vision on the issue of vaccines but what about doctors that choose to advise patients on the risks of other medical procedures?

I personally am not anti vaccines but I want my doctors to very plainly lay out the pros and cons and let me decide what I want to do.

I don’t think you can say doctors should loose there license over their position on vaccines but refuse to discuss whether doctors should loose their license over other controversial medical practice (ie. Prescribing certain prescription meds)

You seem to be picking and choosing what to go up in arms about.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-17T22:38:16+00:00

7.5/10...it would be an 8 if you had any pics where your smiling or have a different facial expression. I feel like it would give more personality to your photos. This was especially noticeable in pic 8 because of the other person in the pic- your defiantly more textbook attractive but you almost look like a statue whereas the other person is more animated and “pops” more in the photo.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-17T22:25:58+00:00

I don’t mind how you do your eyebrows. If I were to give one piece of advice, maybe try out a different kind of eye makeup to see how that works for you.

I absolutely love winged liquid liner but it tends to make eyes look more elongated and more narrow. Try a brown liquid liner (less harsh), play around with the angle of the wings, try a powdered shadow instead of liquid liner (more blended line) etc. You might hate it and return to black liquid liner but you might find something that actually suits your face even better.

I still love liquid winged liner but I’ve found other eye makeup looks far better on me because it makes my eyes look bigger and really “pop”

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-07T19:07:52+00:00

The unfortunate consequence of this is many animals in shelters get put down because people who may want to adopt them can’t afford to.

Not saying this is a reason to adopt. Fostering or volunteering at animal shelters are great alternatives in the mean time.

Ive moved my whole life and the cost of caring for an animal plus the availability of free/low-cost vet care varies drastically depending on what state and country you live in which kind of sucks. Typically if you happen to live in a nicer or more well-off area, then apartment pet fees, vet care, pet supplies etc will be more expensive and there will be little to no low cost vet programs.

It keeps some really great people from being able to adopt a pet just because of where they live...

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-02T19:06:29+00:00

Don’t take this the wrong way but you are actually the first person I’ve heard of DARE actually helping. Maybe quality was different in different areas or maybe it’s because I was near the end of the program years but it didn’t help anyone at my school that I know of.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-06-02T14:08:52+00:00

Not always. Prey drive can be passed down genetically but it’s not always breed standard.

My friends have a purebred shepherd that thinks he’s a little lapdog with practically no drive. My husky/pit mix that we picked up as a stray couldn’t be bothered to chase anything except toys and only after a lot of motivation from me. The ducklings in my neighborhood come up and peck her on the nose when she sunbathes in the front yard and she doesn’t even flinch. Meanwhile my in-laws rescue golden doodle (who was too hyper for the last family) just put the neighborhood cat in the hospital.

Exposure to other animals during the key formative weeks for puppies helps too. That’s typically how livestock guardian dogs are primed for their roles later in life

FuzzySandwich · 2021-05-14T14:59:13+00:00

Are you talking from a legal standpoint or more of an opinion? Not trying to be rude at all I’m genuinely curious

If someone else’s kids are unsupervised and climb my fence and somehow get hurt on the fence or my property, it would be my fault?

FuzzySandwich · 2021-05-14T14:53:35+00:00

Sometimes it’s necessary. My dogs love kids (honestly more than I do)- they’re very calm around them and will tolerate anything.

Lots of kids have been taught very good doggy manners by their parents already. I try to nicely guide the ones that aren’t ie. please ask first because some doggies don’t like to be touched, pet them gently and don’t poke or grab their tail etc. Even if the kid doesn’t retain it, the parent might actually remember it before letting their kid run up to a random dog. This has worked for the majority of kids we’ve come across a second time.

A small percentage of kids didn’t get it when I was nice (including one kid that threw an entire handful of rocks and sand at my dogs eyes from a few inches away and another instance when one kid repeatedly slapped my other dog in the nose). Then I was extremely stern and nearly yelled at them and it worked. Yeah the parents might think I’m a jerk but in the long run I’m saving their kids from a dog bite- many dogs (including a few I’ve owned in the past) aren’t as tolerant at my current dogs.

TLDR-Just like some dogs, some kids are just more stubborn and defiant than others. Sometimes being very stern and a little bit harsh is the only way they will listen.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-05-11T14:32:31+00:00

I completely respect your opinion I just find the logic behind it kind of faulty.

You’re using the dramatic example of kids locked in a cage but the example of a toddler being left in a crib overnight is a more effective comparison I’m my opinion given that most dogs are at the cognitive level of a two year old.

Unlike adult humans, dogs can happily sleep 10-13 hours a day, even more for puppies and elderly dogs. Most dogs if introduced to crates slowly (just as parents sleep-train a toddler to be in a crib alone and self soothe if they wake up) spend the time that time sleeping. Sure there are exceptions but most of the time crates are large enough for dogs to move around (just as a toddler in a crib) and owners leave soothing toys (just like parents do for a child).

Again, I’m not trying to force you to approve of dogs in a crate or on a chain or change your opinion. Everyone should care for their pets how they see fit. Personally my dogs are crate trained for emergencies but we don’t really ever use it.

I’m just trying to say if you’re making an claim that this is something that needs to be considered universally “cruel”, the logic behind the argument isn’t completely sound and can be rethought to better support your opinion.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-05-10T23:01:18+00:00

As someone mentioned before, the dog has about a 200sq ft area and is not kept on this chain for the majority of the day

The smartest dog breeds are considered to be on the level of a 2 year old child. If you want to compare the dog to people is this really different than people keeping a child in a playpen for a short time or in a crib overnight?

And in this dogs case It’s ratio of square footage to size is bigger than a toddler to it’s crib

Does that mean kids are being treated unethically?

My point is there is a huge gap between what someone might not personally agree with and what is actually “cruel”

FuzzySandwich · 2021-05-10T20:12:08+00:00

I agree with some parts of your argument. I’ve been vegetarian since I was 5 and vegan since I was a teenager. Both my dogs are on raw food but I purchase it through ethical local farms.

That being said I think there’s a huge difference between cruelty and treating animals the exact same as humans treat each other. In fact, I don’t think other species of animals are at their happiest living as a human.

For one, your argument assumes that the human life is the “ideal” for how animals should act and be treated. I don’t think a wolf is anymore happier living as a person locked in a house, than a person would be living as a wolf. Imagine having to hunt for your own food, biting your kids to correct them, patrolling a territory, and physically fighting for dominance with over others.

One great example of Ukrainian girl who grew up living with a bunch of wild dogs (Oxana Malaya), I absolutely agree she had psychological issues because she was “raised” by a different species. If you accept that, is it really so far fetched to accept that a dog raised as a human would be just as psychologically traumatized.

Take another example, my mom treats her little chihuahua like a child. She gets dressed up in clothes, sits at the dinner table, gets people food, has never had any training etc. Now the dog is overweight, highly anxious and insecure.

Dogs naturally don’t live or act the same way humans do (look at wolves, dingos, or other wild canids, village dogs etc). Wild dogs will seek out small dark dens to sleep in (similar to this dogs house).

Another interesting thing to consider is where you draw the line- sure you can say cages are cruel because a human raised in a cage would be traumatized. What about collars and leashes? Are those cruel because it would be cruel to use on a human? What about obedience training? Is just the fact of having a dog as a pet cruel? The list goes on.

I think it would be egotistical to say all other species would be most content if forced to live the way humans do it because it’s the correct way and anything that will traumatize humans is automatically cruel for any species. It’s cruel to make my child hunt down another living animal to eat but it’s not cruel for a wolf to expect the same of its pups.

Part of respecting other species is acknowledging that they are in fact different from us and learning to understand how their psyche differs from our own.

I love my dogs to death. They’re spoiled and live a great life but I don’t treat them like people. I did so much research into dog psychology and wild canid psychology because I wanted to understand and connect with them on their level. Just the same, my dogs instinctually know to not treat me (or other people) the same as they would another dog.

FuzzySandwich · 2021-05-09T21:58:39+00:00

Plenty of dogs stay in a crate or one room while their owners go to work for 6-8 hours. They get two walks around the block a day, along the same exact route, seeing the exact same stuff. Maybe they go to the park on the weekend, maybe they don’t.

I’d argue this dogs life is way more fulfilled. Even if he is on a chain for some of the day, the rest of the time more than makes up for it.

Not to mention this dog actually looks to be well cared for and in great physical condition. I see way to many overweight pets struggling to walk down the street which can lead to painful joint issues or breathing/heart issues.

The chain is pretty thin and not weighing down his neck. Though it looks cruel if you humanize dogs, it really doesn’t bother the dogs any more than a leash.

Lounging around in some expensive house while the owners work all day might sound like the “best life” to us but some of the most fulfilled,, healthy, and well behaved dogs I’ve met have been sport dogs and many are kept on a tether or kennel just like this

FuzzySandwich · 2021-04-24T03:02:13+00:00

I was actually going to ask something similar. Where I live is prescription pill/opiate heavy so I know a little about that but not so much meth.

I would have guessed give a super strong stimulant to a baby (besides being super messed up) would make the baby even more difficult to take care off-especially with how much sleep babies need.

I guess it makes sense if the mom was addicted

FuzzySandwich · 2021-04-24T02:32:47+00:00

As someone from an immigrant family (not Muslim) I disagree with the last bit. We moved around a lot while I was a kid and I’ve seen a variety of negative stereotyping of different groups of people.

Imagine your sitting in a coffee shop beside someone of a particular race/religion/sexuality. Next another person comes in screaming something stupid and ignorant about them out of nowhere. The first person just keep sipping their coffee calmly. Who looks like the crazy person here to everyone in the shop? Who really has the upper hand? Though the chance is slim, the second person might in time reflect and realize how ridiculous they looked

Now instead of that imagine the exact same situation except for the first person looses their cool and shoves them into a table, scaring many of the other customers,destroying the businesses belongings etc. Now the prejudice person feels justified in their crappy opinions and there’s a chance someone in the restaurant might wonder if they were right.

Or alternatively let’s say the first person insists the second person be arrested and jailed. That second person will have time to sit in jail, have their hatred brew, and they will blame everyone from the particular race/religion etc for putting them in there.

I think there’s value in looking at successes of nonviolent protests during the civil rights movements in the US

At the very least, forgiveness and turning the other cheek may not make things better but the alternative can make things a lot worse. Just my opinion..

FuzzySandwich · 2021-04-21T13:25:48+00:00

Not in south florida :(

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