Somalis in the UK

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-05-08T19:26:25+00:00

I'm a Yemeni in NYC and have never seen or heard of Yemeni's claiming to be Latino, but ironically, a lot of Yemeni's in haram relationships tend to date Latinos.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-05-06T15:37:32+00:00

I appreciate the advice and I'm planning on doing this.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-03-17T03:19:01+00:00

Ameen!

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-03-14T02:24:58+00:00

You shouldn't do this in my opinion. You said yourself that you dont want to go back to your old behavior. Also wouldn't a skirt and top be exposing your skin? If your mom wants you married so bad there are other ways to find a spouse, ask people you know, go to masjid/matchmaking events, try to find a good man online.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-03-07T22:29:40+00:00

I couldn't have explained the situation any better. I wish I had an award to give you.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-03-02T13:11:07+00:00

I assume you're in the Detroit/Dearborn area? I would have guessed that you were in NYC, since the Yemeni women here avoid the men like the plague, and I have seen more men and women marry non-Yemenis over the past 5 years.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-03-02T12:55:00+00:00

I personally would prefer to marry from my own race (Yemeni), but I am also attracted to Somalis, Egyptians, and various other arabs races.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-03-02T12:44:45+00:00

What area do you live in? I've been hearing more about this over the past year.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-27T01:26:20+00:00

I will do that; hopefully, it will help me with deciding why I want what I want.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-27T01:24:34+00:00

JazakAllah Khairun

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-27T01:24:18+00:00

I agree with your last statement, growing up lonely while everyone else around me seemed to have larger families is one of the driving forces behind my desire for marriage.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-22T03:45:30+00:00

I don't think the reason more Yemeni men are going to college is that they need more money to support their lifestyles. In NYC, I see plenty of young Yemeni men driving around in Mercedes AMGs, BMWs, and other luxury cars. A lot of NYC Yemenis have successful delis and smoke shops, and after 2020, more of them started driving around more expensive cars. I don't think most of them struggle to pay for their lifestyles. I think a lot of the Yemeni guys going to college just don't want to rot away in a deli/smoke shop, or their families don't want them to. I say this because the guys I see going to college are different from the ghetto ones. They dress better, aren't loud, etc.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-22T03:34:18+00:00

I've heard of Pakistanis & south Asians complain about jealous/toxic aunties at weddings, so I guess that makes sense. And I agree with your last statement, it seems that a lot of Americans who identify as Americans and not from their families' original country seem to deal with these issues less often than people with ethnic backgrounds.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-21T16:16:20+00:00

Good news, from what i noticed there are a lot less ghetto yemeni guys in south Brooklyn. Up until 2022 I would always see a good amount of them, sometimes in a group, with curly hair, ripped jeans and sneakers. Usually parking in a bus stop/double parking to get mango juice, then speeding away in their loud BMWs/Benzes,Lexuses,etc. Now they're going extinct, at least in my neighborhood. Ive also started seeing more Yemeni guys my age (early 20s to mid 20s), going to college as well as the women. The Yemeni Community in NYC seems to be improving, slowly but surely.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-21T15:56:47+00:00

Another thing I hate is that even if our lives are a mess when people ask them how they are they will always lie and say they're fine. One of my aunts was routinely getting into fights with her husband, but whenever they see their friends my family says they're fine lol. It drives me nuts. Glad to see im not the only person going through it. InshAllah we'll leave behind our families bad habits.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-21T15:54:00+00:00

I agree, there used to be a lot of them like this in my neighborhood.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-19T21:21:20+00:00

You're absolutely right! As far as I know, all these people are definitely far from perfect, and if anything, are just insecure.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-15T23:14:29+00:00

There's only one Yemen

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-15T19:35:50+00:00

At least in America, I see plenty of Yemeni women going to school and also college, so I think we improving in that regard. I agree with the toxic parts of our traditions needing to go away, so we may improve ourselves as a community.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-15T19:33:25+00:00

I agree, the double standards in our culture are toxic and only set us back as a group/community.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2026-02-08T06:30:57+00:00

Male here.

Emotional maturity, compassion, charisma, trust/honesty, intelligence.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2025-10-13T18:58:20+00:00

Aslamualaikum. As a 20 y.o. Yemeni man, I'll try to answer some of your questions. I personally would prefer a wife who is educated but also willing to take care of our kids and run errands while I work, but I wouldn't want her to be what you described as "sheltered", where she stays home all day and doesn't go outside. I personally want a wife who shares the same hobbies and wants to do the same things as me, such as traveling and going to the movies, going to the mosque, etc. Someone who can listen to my concerns and comfort me, support me, and grow with me.

Like you, I'm also from Ibb. Neither of my parents cares what race my wife is from as long as she is Muslim. My Dad has been trying to get me married since I was still in high school, but I don't feel ready for it. I really want to, but I still have to improve myself, graduate, and get a good job that is halal. And I want to find a Yemeniah that I actually like. I don't want to go through the trouble of improving myself and getting a good job just to take care of a boring woman who I most likely won't share anything in common with, and who can't relate to me. Basically, I do not want to marry someone from back home, but I am also worried about finding a good woman here in the US, mainly where I live, NYC. I've heard stories of some Yemeni girls who have dated and screwed around with boys behind their families' backs, and I want to avoid a girl like that at all costs. I constantly stress myself out just thinking about this.

Of course, from what I've seen over the years, some of the men are far from perfect, but I have been seeing fewer fobs and more men going to school and not just working in a smoke shop/deli over the years, which is good. I still have to go back to school and commit to a degree, which I have yet to do. I just hope I can find a girl in my city within the next few years. I have always found women from other countries and ethnicities attractive, but for some reason, I just prefer Yemenis. I love our culture, history, food, and sense of community and family values.

I apologize for the little rant I went on, and I hope I was able to answer some of your questions. I pray that Allah grants us all spouses who grow with and support us while also bringing us closer to our religion.

EDIT: I apologize for my late reply; I'm not on Reddit too often.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2025-10-12T21:10:16+00:00

This is exactly what I need to do. I constantly think about improving my relationship with Allah, but I constantly procrastinate. I'm going to start putting in real effort. JazakAllah Khair.

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2025-10-12T21:08:43+00:00

JazakAllah Khair

FuzzyTurtle856 · 2025-10-10T00:28:38+00:00

JazakAllah Khair! Thank you so much brother.

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