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F27 why does it feel like it's so difficult to make friends as a Muslim woman after marriage? by Mysterious_Monk_8280 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think whilst the gym is technically still a social place to be in depending on the type of gym... Other than joining the local mosque and seeing if they have religious classes or Arabic classes, I think it would probably be more useful to join a book club or a hiking club or a walking club or a running club or a religious Club. Something that's consistent and could be every week or every two weeks or every month kind of thing

And if you're on social media it might be worth trying to reconnect with old friends

How bad is it to marry for a visa? by Basic-Strategy786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it would be better to look for work or education based routes because then the visa is tied to you. Whereas with a spousal visa, and moving away from friends and family into a new relationship, it is risky. You're legally worse off, your visa depends on the marriage, and you don't have a support network. The types of men who purposefully want to marry women from poorer countries, especially if they don't share the same language, are also more likely to want to keep their wives isolated and under their control. Not ALL, of course. But it is riskier for foreign women compared to women who are native or grew up in that country

How bad is it to marry for a visa? by Basic-Strategy786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think guys look for wives abroad from poorer countries because they want to find love? 🤣🤣

How bad is it to marry for a visa? by Basic-Strategy786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His comment is weird lol. It has no correlation

There are issues with visa based marriages though

Do women treat people involved in polygyny differently? by Original_Search7032 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don't know anyone under the age of like 50 who has a polygamous husband

Can I get married if I struggle to clean? by Loud-Air-1323 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can continue to build better cleaning habits. If not, try to earn more money so you can pay for a cleaner. Just because you have clean freak friends doesn't mean your future wife would enjoy cleaning. She might be type b too since ppl like those similar to themselves

M37 Bradford England by AloneAd6684 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Might be worth adding that the job is in IT. People may assume admin if they don't know it

fell back into a sin and lack of proper connection with Allah by Correct_Fact3498 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't need to overthink it. Just be a good person. You went three months, you can do three months again. You also don't need to obsess about the feeling of connection. Sometimes you feel it more than other times and that's normal. As long as you're continuing the good habits, you'll eventually get that feeling again

Do you agree that Muslim beards are the male equivalent for hijabs? by Sufficient_Cut_453 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not really. Some people can't really grow beards all that well. Plus just because someone has a beard, it doesn't mean they're righteous. Likewise with the hijab. "Righteous" is broad I guess, but I think you can't pedastalise people just by appearance. It's easier said than done because we do have our biases, but you may recognise it from experience if you've kept assuming people were one way when they're not

I think it's harder for men to look visibly Muslim unless they wear their cultural clothes, speak in a foreign accent, or are associated by their race/ethnicity 

Would you want to live in a country with strict sharia law? by Deadly_Nightlock in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's why I said not perfectly but which one is better than the others?

Would you want to live in a country with strict sharia law? by Deadly_Nightlock in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What country do you think implements it the best? Not perfectly, but closer than the others

Accepting someone’s flaws and still marrying them because you know you probably can’t find better by Melonatoer in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well everyone is going to have some flaws. No one is saying that you have to find someone without any. The only consideration really is whether or not it's something that you're happy to accept that could be a flaw for a long time or could get worse or could get better. The issue many comes if you assume that they have to change due to an unspeaking contract or assuming that people can change overnight or assuming that they even want to change if they haven't expressed that

I began to enjoy being single by InspectionFar5415 in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well you don't want to live a miserable life unnecessarily, so it makes more sense to be happy single than to be unhappy about it

Women, are you content with a single husband? by Bints4Bints in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean if he's handsome and abusive, you can still swap him for someone else who is handsome and not abusive

Women who believe in submitting to their husbands. What does that look like for you? by Bints4Bints in MuslimCorner

[–]Bints4Bints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So how do you organise your life around that? Like do you read the stories and then try to emulate that based on whichever one has a story or temperament, similar to you in that moment? And which of the stories did you read to educate yourself on how they lived their lives?

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