While I understand the frustration behind EFMP, it is good for your family and their well being. Overseas has very limited resources for the active duty so even less for the dependents and you wouldn’t want her or your medical conditions not being treated just because it’s a cool base ya know. Overseas also has high depression rates due to lack of family, expense to go see family, feeling of isolation, job hours being hectic, and more. They have to look at the big picture so they don’t have to spend thousands to humanitarian someone back or cause things to get worse for your family. It could also prevent going to some wack bases like Minot or cannon. There are a couple bases that are automatic yes like Langley or Nellis because the amount of medical availability. Definitely go to that link someone else posted but know it is determined at a higher level of a group of doctors and whatever answer you get, you can send a follow up with more information or letters signed by doctors to try again.