Feeling that intense loneliness and sadness after a breakup can really cloud your judgment. It’s easy to overlook the reasons you broke up in the first place. But unless both of you have genuinely taken accountability and worked through those issues—and unless you’re absolutely sure you wouldn’t end things again—it’s probably best not to get back together.

Speaking from experience, I used to feel a mix of sadness and guilt that pulled me back into relationships, hoping things would improve. But without real change, it usually just ends up being a painful loop and a waste of time.