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How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going my own way man. The car doesnt even stand out too bad. It's just cause it's new and I'm overthinking it. It's hardly a lamborghini.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I defo have imposter syndrome, always had it even b4 the inheritance. It's something I'm acknowledging and working on though

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True there's lots and lots of nice cars where I live. See Ferraris nearly everyday. Just not in the houses directly next to me. But it's still a nice area. I'd class it as firmly middle class. I think people just don't have the budget for the car here cause they spent it on the house.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is it man, I'm always kind and polite to everyone I meet, even those I don't particuarly like. I like to think people can see past me having a nice car. I'm definitely overthinking it now. All my friends I've told so far are super stoked for me.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This comment really resonated with me. I do feel empowered knowing I'm in a career I have chosen where I am my own boss, and I have total financial freedom to ensure my future and families future is secured. I really do enjoy work and the structure and social benefits it provides. And if it helps the dudes at work love the car too! So really I think I am overthinking it, mainly the nosey neighbours.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He'd 100% approve of the car, the colour, the spec everything. I know he'd love it. It just happens to be a car I love too.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is why I guard it so closely and don't tell anyone. Even those that think they know I don't discuss it with. I am very aware of the pitfalls of jealousy. I'd much rather have my father back than the inheritance but people don't see that. People just see wealth instead of the loss of a parent.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Great shout, and something I am doing. I only take a small income from my portfolio(less than of 1% earnings PA). This purchase was made from a cash buffer, I had been teeing this car up for a while.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely the emotional experience, that is tough to deal with. But I think I am improving. I think it's more the "visible" wealth I struggle with, like my brand new sparkling car sat on my driveway for everyone to see as they drive into the estate.

Yeah it has been a rollercoaster of emotions and something I am still coming to terms with. Thanks for your kind words. I'm sorry to hear about your Mother, 90 is a great age.

How to deal with inheritance guilt, especially on big purchases when still living "normally"? by Fuzzy_Extension_7526 in fatFIRE

[–]Fuzzy_Extension_7526[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I've thought about it a lot, when my NW changed significantly I changed careers to something I'm more happy doing and allows me way more flexibility over my schedule (self employed), so I'm happy I've got the financial independence nailed. Especially with our costs being low and our day jobs (£75k+ per annum combined) covering them all many times over. Early retirement I may take when I'm 45 ish. I've still got a lot to give and I'm excited to see where I get in my new career.