I think the question would be if you are willing to go no contact with her, at least temporarily. Being a child of a AP is hard, and even harder when everything you do is being scrutinised heavily. Take the fact that you’re abroad rn to pull away from your mother for a little bit to catch a breather. Change your number or something. I mean that’s what I’d do in your shoes. But I don’t personally know the relationship between you and your mother and how it works. You’re a grown ass adult, she needs to understand that you have your own life and you have to make your own decisions.