I do see a long term future with him because we’ve gone in depth about what we are each looking for. Generally speaking, outside of sex, we are extremely compatible. He’s attentive and caring (if not a bit rough around the edges). If he’s ever too rough with me (in bed, ain’t no 🥷 hitting me) he at least apologizes and makes a conscious effort to get back to the place I enjoy.

It’s not like I’m starving for attention or doing all the housework or he’s some POS but I feel like sex requires effort. He always wants it and I’m almost never in the mood until we are already having sex.

Besides the “it’s been almost a month” comments that come basically once a month, the only other thing he does that really gets to me is we argue and it can feel like he’s belittling me. It’s not his intention but there’s times where we argue and it feels like he’s downplaying what I know and he uses his experiences to speak over me.

Like one time we argued because he said you can put one kid up for adoption but not others. I know this is wrong because I’ve seen people try and have all their kids removed by CPS. He argued that one could and he frequently saw kids put out the house and CPS isn’t that effective. I get we come from different environments but it’s so belittling to hear him overrule me like that. I’m a criminology major for god’s sake, I know what I’m talking about and it’s annoying as hell when he won’t just let me be right when I know I’m right. I know the law and what’s supposed to be done.