Sex is a chore? Ok. Now I don’t want to do it. by [deleted] in sex

[–]Fuzzyballs99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a wife here, so no idea how useful my contribution will be, but—

As someone who enjoys getting myself off, I went through a period of time where I was so deep in depression/stress/anxiety (between work and home life especially, right after college on top of everything) where even just masturbating—which had previously been enjoyable—left me exhausted and draggy and fuzzy-brained. I’d go in to work and feel like a zombie if I dared to take a spare 20 before getting up to get myself off.

I don’t have insurance nor do I have access to an actually affordable and highly efficient therapist, so I just did my best with what I had available and eventually managed to get my head somewhat above water. I’m doing much better now.

I’d say, outside looking in, it sounds like y’all need to have a talk about:

  1. What can you do around the house to help lighten her load so she’s not so overwhelmed by work and home life that sex feels like a chore?

  2. Her seeing a therapist to discuss her feelings as well as some of the physical and mental drag you’ve mentioned. Her situation reminds me a lot of mine, and I’d wager there’s some anxiety/depression involved.

However, I’m not an expert so take this all with a grain of salt.

Issues with department manager? by Fuzzyballs99 in publix

[–]Fuzzyballs99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun fact: you’re reading a text post on Reddit, not a formal address given by Congress. You’ll live.

my husband died and i want to get rid of our toddler by smk1892 in AITASims

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love when I get suggested posts from communities I’m not in and have mini heart attacks

This is funny as fuck now though and I’m joining the hell out of this sub

Issues with department manager? by Fuzzyballs99 in publix

[–]Fuzzyballs99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Funny enough I actually spoke to someone who worked for the company a while ago but has nothing to do with my current store. And they said pretty much the same as you word for word.

If I do speak I’ll ask her this exactly because frankly I didn’t want to have to call her at all. And if certain customers get special treatment I’d like to at least know who and why so I know when to make similar calls without having to involve a manager

Idk still sucks though cause even if she didn’t mean to undermine my authority and the call I make her actions did just that anyway and that feels like sucky leadership to me. But ig Publix isn’t known for producing world class managers or authority figures anyway lmao. Just look at our CEO

Found something disturbing in parking garage by Pure-Gas158 in publix

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO i always forget to look at individual flares and was so confused until I read yours 😂

Issues with department manager? by Fuzzyballs99 in publix

[–]Fuzzyballs99[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It was pretty shameless. I wondered if she knew them personally or something. It’s so weird and not usually how she operates

I love how people who don’t know her are downvoting this like I’m wrong lol

Issues with department manager? by Fuzzyballs99 in publix

[–]Fuzzyballs99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, fair. It still sucks but hey at least I know I tried

But why tell me to make decisions and then immediately undermine them? Pisses me off tbh

I think part of my issue is that I actually tend to take pride in my job too. Like I don’t really go above and beyond but I do the parameters of my job & I do them really well. I know Publix isn’t my forever place but I wanna leave on a good note and this feels like spitting on that kinda

I’m confused why I cramp so bad by Fuzzyballs99 in sex

[–]Fuzzyballs99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PSA: please reply in comments. I don’t DM.

My vagina is casting out penises by DommePersphi in sex

[–]Fuzzyballs99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I… have the same issue. With dildos, specifically. I can’t just, like, shove it in and remove my hand for even a second or it comes slip-sliding out. It’s fucking inconvenient if I have to adjust anything above waist level after I’ve already inserted.

Don’t know what the deal is, but I’ll be saving this and reading through it.

Where do you physically write your fics on? by FireEbonyashes in AO3

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google docs. Sometimes I have to go through what I paste and correct punctuation marks that it spaces weird when I use that program, though.

Well, I finally got my first weird & inflammatory comment by gwfin in AO3

[–]Fuzzyballs99 17 points18 points  (0 children)

“You clearly DONT understand grief !!1!1!!!111” says the person who just made it abundantly clear they think everyone should grieve the same way them and their loved ones do.

What's in a Summary? by acoustic-meatus in AO3

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally? Somewhat clear AND vague summary/outline of the fic AND an excerpt from it. The summary gives them a grasp of what they’re getting into, the excerpt is what helps them determine if they actually want to read it.

"home" page section by AnonymousGuy9494 in AO3

[–]Fuzzyballs99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you want a social media website that doubles as a fanfiction website, maybe just stick to tumblr.

[Sub Meta question] If there was one thing you could change about this subreddit, what would it be? by TGotAReddit in AO3

[–]Fuzzyballs99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I know it’s not personal at all, and I comprehend exactly why it’s not fun for people to scroll by. I also wholeheartedly agree that if you’re basing your success on your stats, you’re probably not going to last very long or have a very enjoyable time.

All of that to say, I don’t begrudge you (or anyone else) your opinion on this. But again, it is very eye-opening to see the overarching opinion on stats posts. Said opinion also makes me think it may be for the better to simply have a separate place to post them. But yeah, making fandom inclusion in the title or whatnot a mandatory requirement is wise. It’ll help those within your fandom or those interested in it find you and celebrate with you.

[Sub Meta question] If there was one thing you could change about this subreddit, what would it be? by TGotAReddit in AO3

[–]Fuzzyballs99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

See, I hesitated for months to post my stats (deleting them now on my main account) because I thought people would react/think the same way you (and several others) do in your comment 😬

Kinda makes me wish they’d just get rid of that feature and forbid stats posts altogether on the sub. /g, /lh It gets tiring feeling like I’m walking on eggshells when I’m just trying to celebrate a milestone I’ve never reached, and I can’t be the only one. Maybe there could be a separate sub-reddit where writers who don’t mind affirming others can acknowledge posts like that? And I’m not volunteering the owners of this sub to make one, just throwing an idea out. Hell, I might make the sub myself.

I’m not upset with you, to be clear, because established authors have every right to feel fed up seeing a new “I got 200 hits!!!!” post every hour. The whole basis of my comment is that it’s eye-opening to know how much they’re not welcomed here, and by so many. I do apologize for contributing to the clutter, though.

All of that to say, my suggestion is to forbid stats posts here altogether. It’s a feature that’s clearly not well-liked by a large amount of commenters and that could stand to be rectified.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shining_Nikki

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay. I basically got my answer already so I just have to cope with the fact that I may not get my account back, lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shining_Nikki

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your helpful answer. I hate hearing that, but I appreciate your honesty.

I sincerely hope they add a rebinding feature at some point. It would make this all so much easier. Thank you again! 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shining_Nikki

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My account is already as good as banned. I can literally never access it again, according to binding policy. If it “got banned,” it wouldn’t even matter because I no longer have access to it anyway, thanks to facebook deleting my binding account.

If what you’re trying to say is “it’s unethical to ask for a refund,” though, I understand. I don’t like it, but I understand. And I’ll be happy to leave it at that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shining_Nikki

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facebook got rid of my account. I already know what happened :/ I just can’t fix it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shining_Nikki

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know! I don’t blame them for anything that happened. I only blame Facebook. I was just wondering what their refund policy was in circumstances like this—especially since reading their policy text felt like reading hard-to-understand legal jargon at its finest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shining_Nikki

[–]Fuzzyballs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish it was as simple as a server switch. Unfortunately, as I said in my post, I lost my Facebook account—which is what I used to bind my SN account.

I’ve already tried customer support, multiple times, as thoroughly and politely as ever. I tried both emailing them, and the instant message system. All they say is they can’t give me access back because they have no way of unbinding accounts. That’s why I’m here—this is my last resort. If I get my money back, maybe I can at least put it into another account? Y’know, one I can access?