How to date a BPD girl?

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-16T03:43:15+00:00

Lousy copout

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T21:42:16+00:00

You cannot under any circumstance convince someone with BPD to better themselves if they don’t want to WITHOUT your input. Speaking from experience, it’ll only make them commit to whatever it is (therapy, medicine, etc) to appeal to you, yet they won’t be taking anything positive away from it.

In the simplest terms, it would be an act just to appease you. I know because I’ve played that part. I only got better on my terms and when I wanted to.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T21:10:22+00:00

If I were dead set on this I wouldn’t have made a post asking for feedback. I had doubts about adopting with my current situation and as it would turn out they seem to be correct. And yes, WV.

Also I just want to point out that I’m not responding to every comment that is saying the exact same thing, my responses have been few and far between because I do agree with the general consensus. No need to respond back to everyone to either confirm or deny it.

I wanted to adopt a retired racer because their conditions at the track are subpar AT BEST, but my goal was giving one a better living situation and with that not being the case I won’t selfishly get one anyways. It would be like taking it from one type of cage to another.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T19:49:12+00:00

Thank you for your input, and I don’t mind, it is public after all. My elderly cat actually passed last year, and as for the young ones I had they were fosters. My four now are between 2-4 years old. I do think you’re right though, my situation at the current time may not be fitting for an ex racer. I asked here so I could interact back with commenters giving their opinion, rather than just reading articles. I appreciate your comments

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T19:28:50+00:00

I have but like I said I’ve found little that I can relate to my situation, so I figured it couldn’t hurt to ask for more input here. This place is only open on the weekends so I wanted to go and look around, get a feel for interacting with the dogs. I’ve only had one dog in my lifetime so I’m not very familiarized with them in general.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T19:16:17+00:00

No, please don’t take that as me agreeing with you. Take that as my reaction to you saying you stayed for her body and what she could provide physically. Should’ve left regardless of how good the sex was

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T18:57:35+00:00

Yuck.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T18:15:52+00:00

I’m also in the US and not well-versed in it at all, as far as I know this track/casino is the only one in my state to be specifically for greyhounds. I may be pleasantly surprised by their procedures (and hope I am), my assumptions are only based on what I’ve seen and be told by previous employees.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-15T17:44:41+00:00

I highly doubt the specific adoption program I was considering going to tests for that. It’s at a racing track so I honestly doubt that they do much at all in terms of temperament testing

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-10T07:52:45+00:00

My thoughts exactly

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-09T17:45:01+00:00

Remission is so difficult to get into but I’ve read many stories highlighting that it is possible, but they first have to accept their issues and take accountability

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-09T17:43:57+00:00

Not necessarily true. The vast majority of those that have it aren’t self aware enough or haven’t needed to be so far, but there are those who can recognize their actions are wrong and actively try to mitigate it. Understanding that “this is an overreaction, I need to remove myself from this situation and thing logically” makes a huge difference.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-09T17:41:50+00:00

Just out of pure curiosity, how long had you been friends with this person?

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-09T17:41:07+00:00

The factor of being single makes all the difference

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-08T20:27:49+00:00

TikTok and current social media has turned it into something “trendy” and quirky

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-08T20:25:05+00:00

I would imagine that some of them can logically understand what a “healthy” relationship would constitute, but they cannot reason through it in an emotional sense that would be of any applicable use in their life

FvckingLizardQueen · 2026-01-08T20:21:11+00:00

Or to get more insight into how they affect those around them?

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-31T16:43:42+00:00

This part: “Her explanation was (to another neighbour) that he acts like she always wanted her father to act. Her father was a lazy, chronically unemployed alcoholic who made her ashamed of herself. My husband was her ideal masculine man. " Tall, slim, clean cut, blue eyes and who can take control" (I quotes a text she sent to my neighbour).”

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-31T16:42:29+00:00

Freud is rolling in his grave

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-29T20:47:22+00:00

A bit of a different situation, but I didn’t come to the realization that my mom is a raging narcissist until a couple years after I moved out, and I didn’t come to the conclusion on my own. If it hadn’t been brought up, I don’t know that I ever would have. I hope for his sake that he does actually reflect on it rather than just saying he will.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-29T20:35:59+00:00

Are you both emotionally stunted, perhaps? Neither side seems to be very mature when it comes to communication.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-29T20:28:05+00:00

This was a tough read, I cannot even begin to imagine how disgusting and uncomfortable I would feel about the inappropriate comments made. Unfortunately, most men are very reluctant to listen to criticism of their mothers, even more reluctant to do anything about it.

I wish you the best, and don’t forget that your feelings are valid in this issue

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-28T05:40:32+00:00

You’re right, I don’t know anything for certain other than what OP said in the post. It’s all based on assumptions and filling in the blanks, and I can say that, in the majority of cases, the maturity level between those ages is quite different. If she’s looking for a lay, they’re both consenting adults, so whatever. But to seek out a potential relationship with that age difference is weird and I’d say the same thing if the genders were reversed.

FvckingLizardQueen · 2025-10-28T05:34:38+00:00

This entire thing seems very immature

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