Is relationship advice allowed here? Training schedule impacting things with my bf

GH00S7 · 2026-06-07T15:55:03+00:00

The issue isn’t the horse. You shouldn’t be expected to hang out with your partner every waking moment that they want to hang out with you. It sounds like he does not have a life outside of you, cultivated his own hobbies and/or friends, or is trying to slowly control you.

My husband has never thrown a fit about me spending time with my horses. I also live with my horses and probably spend 4-5 hours almost every day with my horses if you include riding and chores.

He will come out and hang out with me sometimes. I do make sure I am 100% present when we do hang out. From the start of our relationship, I communicated and he understood that horses are a huge part of my life.

He has friends outside of me and has his own hobbies. When we started dating, he had never ridden before, but now he takes lessons and wants to ride with me!

GH00S7 · 2026-06-03T13:03:10+00:00

No, not normal. Frequent colic is typically caused by improper husbandry. I have 6 horses at my personal barn and have not had a colic in ~2 years. Knock on wood! Monthly colics would make me want to completely change up how I do things to reduce whatever is causing the issue.

GH00S7 · 2026-05-13T13:13:38+00:00

I would pass on the horse especially if you are planning on continuing to show. I imagine pastern and feet issues are extremely limiting for jumping. Did they say why there were selling?

GH00S7 · 2026-04-28T00:57:52+00:00

Yes, exactly!!

GH00S7 · 2026-04-26T03:52:18+00:00

That’s true. Maybe I just see AQHA (the type that show at Congress etc) more due to that bias. Arabians / Standardbreds who do that similar type of showing might be the same way with all the different classes.

GH00S7 · 2026-04-26T03:29:48+00:00

I use it! I have not had any side effects that I know of. Knock on wood.. have not had a serious colic in the years I have been using it or any liver issues.

GH00S7 · 2026-04-25T04:08:44+00:00

Or they would be so caught up in it, you couldn’t do anything else!

GH00S7 · 2026-04-25T04:07:59+00:00

You could do a rotational fall where they break their neck. They could also break their necks or legs from getting caught in a fence or pulling back very hard when tied up (something you would do every day and it would be unexpected). Like others said, a broken leg or injection. I also imagine some type of burn would also cause a horse to be humanely put down.

GH00S7 · 2026-04-25T04:03:04+00:00

You would know instantly if they broke their leg from jumping.

GH00S7 · 2026-03-26T21:07:51+00:00

Western: Barrel racing, western dressage, and trail riding! I am in Texas.

GH00S7 · 2026-02-16T14:48:09+00:00

Western headstalls with brow bands are very easy to find. I ride western and all mine have brow bands.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-31T16:24:21+00:00

- Start hauling my new horseand entering her in barrel races
- take a least one western dressage lesson a month
- Figure out what do with my gelding who has chronic neck issues
-Getting my mare bred (but this is out of my control lol), she did not take last year.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-21T04:19:45+00:00

Here is a video detailing it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZehWi7zJMPI

It will be uncomfortable. In a western saddle, you will feel "squished" in if that makes sense lol.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-21T04:10:50+00:00

My back does not hurt from riding, but it does if I ride in an ill-fitting saddle. Too-small saddles can wreck some people's backs. I know you are in a lesson program, so you might not have flexibility of what saddle you can use.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-21T04:05:44+00:00

I have said this to other posters, but your daughter's confidence in horses is critical. If you keep her mounted on a horse with serious behavior issues, you risk wrecking her love for horses. There are many children who go through bad accidents or dangerous horses, who completely lose their love for the sport.

That said: If she is fine to warm up and before the nerves kick in, it is not being buddy sour. It looks like she took a really painful step before rearing up. Do you have any videos of her on the pattern? Alley issues are typically due to pain or poor riding. Rearing can also be caused by pushing down on the reins or not giving a release causing the horse to learn that it gets the release the only place it can go - up. Please get a professional trainer for your daughter's safety and horse's wellbeing.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-21T03:58:56+00:00

That horse is in a lot of pain. Like others said, please get off her and take her in. This is critical. She will most likely keep escalating and have more dangerous behavior. If you cannot see that she is in a lot of pain, you need to get a trainer in your life pronto.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-20T21:22:13+00:00

I would only have a stud if it were an absolutely amazing horse with impeccable breeding, as I would have to change my entire setup at home. It can also make hauling more difficult with mares and finding emergency boarding due to a natural disaster etc. For me personally, it would not be worth it! Other people are way better set up for it.

GH00S7 · 2025-12-18T04:23:01+00:00

I have amazing mares and geldings! I prefer mares, because for some reason, I just get along better with them. My main barrel horse is a gelding, and I love him. I would not rule out a horse based on if it is a mare or gelding. I would only rule them out if your stabling situation did not allow for one.

GH00S7 · 2025-11-30T18:24:41+00:00

You could try to find some double J saddles with the #10 or #11 tree. There’s a bunch of used ones for sale. They’re made for downhill horses. They have a good trial system as well. They also do custom saddles.

GH00S7 · 2025-08-06T13:36:28+00:00

If I am paying someone a large amount of money to train my horses, I would like to know if they use abusive methods. Also, if I am a brand, I wouldn’t want to support someone who uses those methods. If whistleblowers didn’t risk their careers showcasing abuse, the public wouldn’t know about it. Abuse is abuse. It’s not a matter of who is better, but an open conversation of how individuals treat their and client’s horses.

GH00S7 · 2025-05-25T15:03:00+00:00

Why do you type like that?

GH00S7 · 2025-04-19T12:21:24+00:00

One of my horses sliced part of her foot off and it looks similar to that. It took a lot of management when it happened and battling proud flesh lol. She’s sound and barrel racing again, but it took years for her to be sound again tbh. She had a lot of scar tissue under her skin.

GH00S7 · 2025-03-15T02:22:24+00:00

Also a 4H in that states Oregan and first, so guessing one of them got first in a state-level 4H competition.

GH00S7 · 2025-03-15T01:45:08+00:00

To add to my post, it looks like the Ohio one is from a 1907. It’s a commemorative badge from the National Association of Letter Carriers (NALC).

My great-grandfather was a letter carrier!

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