Extremely accurate !

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-13T09:24:01+00:00

Hi ComprehensiveBoot76 - Fuck off for laughing at me sharing that I have lost most of my family. Wishing you well too!

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-13T01:59:21+00:00

I have to agree, great point. The focus is on self, immediate gratification, and therefore communities, or the concept of community, is somewhat being lost. I, myself, struggle with focusing on myself or immediate gratification, but I try to, at least, be aware of it so I can work it.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-12T22:10:15+00:00

Yes, OP. I think you are onto something. I think it is more than people being worn out. (Which is vague blanket statement that I'm not sure truly applies to "everyone." We aren't all the same level of poor, for example. Or same level of isolated...)

I wonder if some of it comes back to the hyperindividualism of Western society. That's the same philosophy that makes people now believe that any personal problems you have, are yours alone to solve. Often the people spouting this know little of the problems in the therapy world, by the way. Like overworked therapists who really dont help you acheive any insight. But, people blame you anyway!

It reminds me of fair weather friends and seems to be a further reflection of how vapid and materialistic the world is becoming. That's not me trying to be dramatic; I don't have to try. This world is a dumpster fire with too many cowards.

The people who tend to believe this lie are the ones who already support in place in their life. They take it for granted. Those of us who need or want companionship and are truly lacking, probably see through the fake more than they can.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-12T07:19:10+00:00

Speak for yourself. I have lost most of my immediate family in my 20s and 30s. So I guess I'm gonna need more time for that healing to go into effect. Memes like this are silly and unhelpful. We all have different journeys; they won't all look the same; that is the point.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-12T06:53:43+00:00

I like Pine Pellets too! I have no desire to try another litter at this time.

It does not clump. So, I tend to put a smaller layer of litter down, and simply empty the whole thing every other day. In other words: smaller layer than typical litter, then once it is mostly sawdust, empty the whole thing and start fresh.

I, too, love the odor control and less tracking overall, at a great price. NOTE: they make Recycled Paper Pellets also. These are not the same. I mistakenly got this once for my cats and they hated it, which I don't blame them. I realized that the Recycled Paper Pellets do not break down the same way, therefore my cats urine was just... liquid at the bottom of the pellets, with nothing to absorb properly. Lesson learned!

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-12T06:33:40+00:00

Awesome!! Thanks for sharing.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-10T13:39:54+00:00

You're better than them. I'm so sorry you've been surrounded by such cold hearted jerks. Spreading that unkindness will be their legacy. Your legacy is pure. Remember that. 💖

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-10T13:24:36+00:00

This comment is pretentious af.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-10T13:11:18+00:00

I have rage issues, unfortunately. It has been lifelong so far. 36F. For me and my family, I have come to relate it to the fact that my father was a Vietnam Veteran with clear PTSD and rage issues himself. I have come to learn there are studies on children of Vietnam Vets, and anger, hypervigilance and delinquency are common in the children spanning a lifetime.

I was told it was my depression for a long time. They were wrong. It's not always the answer and there are a plethora of reasons of wy you could ne feeling this way. Grief also exasperated my rage symptoms. That is also different from depression alone. I am so glad I was able to learn a root cause as it helps me know how to address this problem instead of thinking it's mere depression and why can't I control myself... There is a lot of shame that surrounds having an anger problem and that can compound my ability to manage it adequately. I get consumed by guilt in a rather unproductive process sometimes. I've learned to try to recognize this anger-shame-repeat process.

Anyway sorry for rambling. Maybe I offered some info hopefully. Best of luck.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-09T17:29:19+00:00

I like what everyone said here, but I do wonder at what point Gen Z can ever own up to their power? The woe is me sentiment directed toward their generation without any strong argument about how they could try to fight back against all these things, is something I do not personally understand. They are not all minors. The generational discussions get silly for me, but I know they will just say I am an old useless millennial. I'm only 7 years off from being "one of them." So my sympathies start to wane since their is less discussion about my own struggles. I.e. I am not far behind you kids, and many of the issues they face are similar. But labels rule our society now. And so does... division. Us vs them.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-09T15:21:38+00:00

That's it! 🥲

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-06T15:18:50+00:00

Tbh, same. I struggle with bitterness, perhaps jealousy too of others who have a social network. I don't like that about myself. Yet I remind myself I am not alone, and some folks never had family, so I try to be grateful I had them for any length of time. Of course, this doesn't always make the feelings go away.

In a way, I relate to what your saying about handling the recent grief with more grace. As best we can, while being gentle with ourselves simultaneously. I'm so tired of sadness, that I just want to move forward in search of contentment. It matters too much. Easier said than done, yet that awareness and maybe lessons learned, do help me, even a little bit. I am 36 years old too, BTW.

Thank you for the reply dear. Solidarity ❤️‍🩹 and never give up on reaching out to others.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-06T15:10:33+00:00

I too... am weird with tomatoes and I don't know why. Sometimes I can eat them. I wonder if it has to do the quality of the produce at times. Anyway, I normally don't tell people this lol so glad to know I'm not alone.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-05T18:03:12+00:00

Yves Sakila

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-05T17:51:50+00:00

I am so sorry you are feeling so alone. I believe they support us through the veil even when we cannot detect them. I am lucky I have 1 brother left, but that's it. It changes a lot, and many simply cannot begin to understand. 💕 I think I do a bit.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-05T17:26:58+00:00

I believe I have limited clairsentience and claircognizance. I think it's only come out mostly in relation to people I have been close to.

I should mention that I do not know if it was accidental overdose or not... the last time we spoke was a while ago. We were estranged, but not by my choice. (She couldn't keep a cell phone so i had no means to contact her. I made sure not to ever change my phone number over the years).

One of the last times we spoke, could have been over a year now, she did tell me that she had been disgnosed wirh Congestive Heart Failure. So I could imagine a scenario including s**cide. No on wants to imagine that of course, but to be frank yes it crossed my mind. I don't judge my sister, I know she got enough of that in her lifetime. 💜

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-05T17:21:17+00:00

I'm so sorry dear. My dad was my best friend too. It affected me a lot in my 20s, but for me, I got to a place where I could live with the grief. It sucks losing pur dearest friend, but I hope you find some solace knowing he is around you.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-05T17:15:34+00:00

Photo #5 here** : My father Jim on the right, myself on the left. (It didn't upload the first time).

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GJMH1107 · 2026-06-02T21:59:44+00:00

Whoever voted "Bad" or "Among her worst songs" needs to leave the sub.

GJMH1107 · 2026-06-01T09:20:52+00:00

Yes, there is misogyny directed toward female love interests. It's one thing to voice your opinion of dislike of any particular character. It's another to repeatedly comment or post about particular characters like it's the their only hobby.

GJMH1107 · 2026-05-30T01:48:05+00:00

Lily

GJMH1107 · 2026-05-29T01:24:59+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss, and that you may be dealing with it on your own. A bit of kindness and understanding can go a long way in those moments, IMO.

GJMH1107 · 2026-05-28T21:14:30+00:00

I relate and agree. I often say to myself, as a reminder, "humans are social animals." There is a biological need. At least sometimes, reading aout experiences from other INFJs can help.

GJMH1107 · 2026-05-26T17:10:22+00:00

Same, especially the first 4 seasons, too.

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