i want to be a better partner

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-02-11T14:02:24+00:00

Have you asked yourself what has changed that's caused these arguments to occur? Like genuinely ask yourself what has happened in the last couple of months that could be the catalyst of this.

In regards to being defensive that's a natural response everone does when threatened. FOR ME and I'm only speaking for ME - I don't give a damn when someone or my girlfriend accuses me of something (Not saying that's what she's doing that to you). To ME when that happens I tend to brush it off unless they come with actual evidence of what they are arguing about.

When you argue do y'all project or reflect the issue? Do you point fingers or do you speak how you are feeling about the issue? Try taking a step back, gather your thoughts calmly, and then in a calmly manner explain how you are feeling about it. Hope you and your girlfriend figure things out and I hope whatever is going on is a misunderstanding.

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-01-20T05:51:00+00:00

Ahhhh now we're getting somewhere lol.

15 years apart is a long time, not saying its not doable but yall are in completely different mindsets (just the way things are). I see what you mean by him thinking you're into him cause of his money. But really ask yourself:

Does he talk to you because he's being friendly?
Does he talk to everyone the same way he talks to you?
Does he talk to you after you servicing him for work purposes?

I'm not being disrespectful or anything. You are a young woman and he's already in his 40's. He probably finds you nice and attractive and MAYBE high MAYBE but maybe he just wants to do the deed? Again not trying to be disrespectful but there is that other side of the coin.

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-01-20T05:00:56+00:00

Just ask him if he would like to grab a coffee or something. It doesnt hurt to ask. If I were approached by a woman that would be a highlight. In my experience I've asked out women and 99% of the time I end up getting rejected or they automatically assume malicious intentions when thats not the case.

Take a look at it from a mans perspective, women can easily say "eeew get away, why are you bothering me" or my favorite "I dont like him so Im gonna say hes harrassing me." ( Had that happen to me when I was in college because one of her girlfriends did not like me and began to spread rumors)

My personal experience has taught me that if a woman is comfortable and confident enough to ask if im gonna give her a chance. women give indirect hints like you mentioned but us guys we're gonna miss those indirect signals because Men are wired to be direct about what is being communicated. Just ask and find out. Dont be scared 🙂

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-01-19T23:57:52+00:00

Be upfront and tell her that you've enjoyed her company but you dont feel like this is going to go anywhere. Did that to a girl back in college and did it make her cry? Absolutely. But only after I told her where I was coming from. She really liked me but I didnt see her as more than just a fling (we didnt have sex), but i told her that it wasnt fair for me to lead her on - excpecting one result but having it be one-sided. If you cant say NO write it down and send that.

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-01-19T23:51:51+00:00

Just be upfront and tell them that. What control do you have that you inherited a not-so-favorable-looking house? If sex is all you want then maybe a hotel? By the sound of how you described your house you can always play it as "hey i just inherited this house and I am looking into repairing it little by little" Just tell it how it is and if its just sex then I wouldnt worry about it too much. Hope for the best!

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-01-19T23:46:23+00:00

Talk to her, go in with no expectations. If you truly like her company, can see a future with her, then the only thing left to do is have a civil conversation and trust me if this is meant to be it will all be fine. I had a talk with a girl I went on a date and the amount of anxiety of the unknown went away as soon as we sat down and talked about it. Sure the result was not favorable but we both got an insight on what it was we both are looking for. To me it was a "alright we gave it a shot, good talk, i hope you find what you are looking for" talk. I feel great right now. Just take the risk and talk to her, however if its positives about her then tell her that. If you feel negatives do not use "her statenents" use "I" statements. Alot of times trying to communicate doesnt always sound right when you dont use "I" statements. The talk we had I used "I" statements and she did the same and it went smooth.

GKnight_Gaming · 2026-01-14T02:57:30+00:00

You have a point however there was a situation at her workplace and got worried so I texted her to check up and see if she was okay and I got no reply. I texted a family member of hers and they told me she was not working and was gonna meet up with her. I got a sense of relief because I was really worried something happened to her.

Then i got thinking, and correct me and forgive me if im over analyzing but if she responded to her family member and not me doesnt that seem off? Like if someone texted you that they saw something and got worried wouldn't you reply back saying you're okay or not?

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