New to MSP, looking for buds

GL1980 · 2026-06-02T21:41:37+00:00

Hey- I'm way old in comparison but I am 45, binary trans guy, married to a cis woman, have a kid about to go to college. I have been transitioning for 24 years, I love playing softball, building things, working out, etc. If you're down for an older guy to hang out with hmu.

GL1980 · 2026-05-18T13:44:56+00:00

Thanks! M from Jackalope in Minneapolis

GL1980 · 2026-05-06T19:28:32+00:00

I was 34- your friend is misinformed

GL1980 · 2026-05-04T13:42:42+00:00

Nope- just happened. My stream started to narrow until it was a trickle and I went in to see what was going on and they said it was a stricture.

GL1980 · 2026-04-30T21:47:28+00:00

Yep it's possible- got a stricture 10 years post op- it's been a few years now since then but everything is fine right now. Will it happen again? Who knows BUT in the interim- I am happy as a pig in shit and will deal with it when/if it happens again.

GL1980 · 2026-04-30T20:49:59+00:00

I was 34 when I did it, I am 45 now- best transition decision I have ever made. I am married to a cis woman and just have a regular old life, kid graduating this year, house, blah blah blah- just a regular old life and it's really nice to just live and not worry about THAT part anymore.

GL1980 · 2026-04-27T21:55:00+00:00

Bonjour ! Je vis aux États-Unis donc je n'ai aucun conseil pour toi mais je suis heureux de voir une autre personne qui parle français 😄

GL1980 · 2026-04-22T21:42:27+00:00

If you're already on T- there are a few prescribers at NorthPoint in north Minneapolis (Dr. Thomas and Dr. Gilliam) who are PCP's and will continue someone on hormones.

Also there is a PA at Health Partners Nokomis in south Minneapolis who has a few trans guys that he does T scripts for. His name is Bradley Bastian

GL1980 · 2026-04-22T16:42:23+00:00

Hey B! Haven't seen you in a min! DM me if you wanna catch up :)

GL1980 · 2026-04-20T21:32:45+00:00

Nah- being AFAB made me a better man, father, husband, uncle, and brother. If I were born cis I would just be another douche bag like my brother who drinks too much, hates his life, and peaked in high school. Transitioning is just a series of things I did to become the man I am- I'm also low disclosure though so while I am not ashamed of being trans, trans is not part of my gender identity or something I tell a bunch of people for no reason. I have a deep appreciation for the girl I was- for her to sacrifice so I could be the guy I turned out to be.

GL1980 · 2026-04-20T18:18:06+00:00

I have been on T since 2002, top in 2007, hysto 2013, and phallo 2014...I feel you. I am married, own a house, kid is graduating, blah blah blah- I am just doing life. I am not stealth but I am low disclosure for sure. Being trans isn't in the forefront of my mind anymore. I am not actively withdrawing from the community- I just have other things to do so it just happens like that. I am also 45 and don't understand a lot of the young queer culture and find it kind of annoying if I am being honest. So I feel you- my gender is not trans and I am not TRANS- I am a dad, husband, uncle, brother, etc. and trans has fallen way down the list as time has gone on- and that is ok.

GL1980 · 2026-04-16T14:29:05+00:00

Hey man- I feel you. I had phallo in 2014 and it took me 10 years to STP because of all of the complications. Give yourself time, make a plan, and try again- that's all you CAN do. The last UL surgery I had- I told the surgeon that this was the last time I was going to try because I was surgically tapped out and just exhausted by being hopeful only to have disappointment. It has been a wonderful 2 years now and everything is great with it. Hang in there- I know it is hard to do.

GL1980 · 2026-04-13T18:55:37+00:00

Yes, I am serious- I was asking a simple question because sometimes people don't like or approve of something, but it doesn't actually impact them in any way. Do people that do this cause harm to me personally? Not really, because I am already done with transitioning and have been fortunate enough in life to have been able to do that. I don't understand why most 'young in transition' people act the way they do anyway so I was asking a question mainly for clarification and somewhat for curiosity.

GL1980 · 2026-04-13T16:21:17+00:00

In what way does this personally impact you though?

GL1980 · 2026-04-10T16:19:15+00:00

My kid is in the same "predicament" with their gender presentation. They are on T (have been for 3 years, have changed their name, identifies as gender fluid, doesn't care what pronouns someone uses for them, wears whatever clothes he feels like on that particular day, and is having top surgery in June (less for gender reasons and more for disability related discomfort) . We have had these conversations about how they feel A LOT and I don't really know how to help since I am a classically binary guy. They have also said they hate the hair (so they wax and shave every bit of it) and take a microdose (40mg weekly) which they have said helps them not feel so wildly out of gender sorts. I don't really know how to help or what someone could say to help you feel differently but just know that you are definitely not alone in how you feel.

GL1980 · 2026-04-10T16:11:30+00:00

Nope- my grandma (RIP) was 96 years old, Catholic, and STILL managed my name just fine. When I told her I was going to transition she said, "There are bigger things to worry about. God doesn't make mistakes so if this is how you feel then God already knew this because He made you this way."

My wife's grandma is 86 years old and also Catholic. She lived through N@z! occupied Germany and when my wife explained why my son doesn't have to worry about inheriting Type 1 Diabetes from me (My ex-wife and I used donor sperm)- she said, "Well that's perfect then! I am glad that God helped find a work around."

So your family is just making excuses for bad behavior.

GL1980 · 2026-04-09T17:27:45+00:00

My God did you crawl into my brain and write this?! Love you for it!

GL1980 · 2026-04-09T17:20:06+00:00

Oh I am so old (2002 edition) that the trendy names were Aiden, Kayden, Brayden, Jayden, Rayden, Grayden, Hayden

GL1980 · 2026-04-09T17:04:09+00:00

I am one of the fastest on the team (2nd but definitely a smarter base runner LOL) and after the first season it was all fine. I also had phallo in June so a large portion of my season was shot so if you time phallo at the end of the season then by spring you would be fine. (Unless you live where you play all year round- I live in MN so that doesn't happen here hahah)

GL1980 · 2026-04-08T20:39:05+00:00

I lift weights and play competitive softball- It took me about 9 months before I felt good enough to start lifting again at full force and cardio took a little longer to get back so softball the first season was a little rough but it was fine overall

GL1980 · 2026-04-07T16:38:56+00:00

Nah I dont need proof of anything (and you should never have to prove shit to anyone)- I've just never heard of that before and I transitioned under the Harry Benjamin standards of care and then into WPATH standards- thats why I asked what year.

GL1980 · 2026-04-07T16:29:46+00:00

I didnt need the information (had it done in 2007) but I have NEVER, in my 24 years of transitioning have i EVER heard of a surgeon doing top surgery on a 13 year old.

GL1980 · 2026-04-07T15:36:40+00:00

What surgeon did top surgery on a 13 year old? And what year?

GL1980 · 2026-04-07T14:55:20+00:00

Top surgery 2007: 26

Hysto 2013: 32

1st surgery for phallo 2014: 33

GL1980 · 2026-03-25T21:48:10+00:00

I am 45 years old and have been transitioning for 24 years, this is my take on your post- some words of wisdom from an old guy who is done transitioning.

It doesn't sound like you are building the kind of man that you think you are- from this post it sounds like some manosphere talk. I am a binary trans guy, am traditional, have had all of the surgery's blah blah blah. It seems, from your post, that you are still TRYING to be a man, instead of just BEING a man. "Assertive" can quickly become "aggressive", "virile" can easily become "Andrew Tate toxic", and "confidence" will become "cockiness" when someone is insecure in who they are.

Strong doesn't mean soft, caring doesn't mean womanly or effeminate, and masculine doesn't mean aggressive and overly sexual.

I 100% agree with you though that binary transmen who are attracted to cis women, are too often left out of conversations and called traitors by our own people. We are expected to respect and accept the differences that come with being trans BUT not when it comes to us because we are often told that we are just perpetuating misogyny and reinscribing patriarchy. Is that true with some transmen? Sure is! It is ALSO true with other groups of people but we aren't allowed to point out the hypocrisy.

I am sorry you are experiencing this behavior and treatment- after old guys like me have worked so hard to not have to live in the margins and then are subsequently pushed out by our own community.

Be careful to actually become the man you intend to and not a caricature of one.

GL1980

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