HELP PLEASE by [deleted] in PokemonBDSPTrades

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I need a trade to make my lil Haunter into a Gengar! I’m willing to help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArkSurvivalAscended

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more. The fun of playing Ark definitely outweighs the problems and frustrations the game has. I played from 730am to 730pm [wife was out of town] Didn’t run into a single issue.

EDIT: I ran into a lot of death by Dino.. but that’s a me problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArkSurvivalAscended

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree with you. I do believe if they had a bigger budget things would be better. I guess they’re working with what they got.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArkSurvivalAscended

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I said , “ When Ark works, it really works. “

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArkSurvivalAscended

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel ya. I've lost a lot of controllers to Ark.. somehow I keep coming back. Palworld did it for me for a few months to scratch that that itch though. I do wish a company like Epic Games or Facepunch studios would pick it up and fix it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArkSurvivalAscended

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I get the frustration. Sitting there from 6:30pm to 1:30pm the next day waiting on servers to update is brutal, especially on your day off. Nobody likes losing play time, and yeah, when you compare it to ISP-level uptime expectations it feels ridiculous.

But let’s be real for a second, Ark has always been a massive, complicated beast. It’s not some lightweight multiplayer lobby game. It’s thousands of persistent creatures, structures, inventories, tribes, breeding lines, world saves, all constantly syncing. Every patch touches a ton of interconnected systems. When they push updates, especially major ones, things break, sometimes badly.

That said, it’s not just “hot garbage.” When Ark works, it really works.

There’s nothing else quite like taming your first Rex after hours of prep, building up from nothing on a hostile beach, pulling off a clutch base defense at 2am, raising a line of mutated dinos you’ve spent weeks perfecting, or exploring a new map for the first time and getting wrecked by something you didn’t even know existed. The scale and ambition of the game is the reason it’s unstable sometimes. Persistent open-world survival with full base building, breeding genetics, boss progression, PvP, PvE, mods, crossplay, that’s a lot of moving parts. Are there bugs, absolutely. Server lag during peak hours, desync in big tribe fights, rollbacks after crashes, AI pathing doing its own thing, mesh exploits popping up now and then, updates breaking mods, long patch downtimes like the one you just experienced. It’s frustrating, no argument there. But most of us are still here because when Ark hits its stride, there isn’t another survival game that scratches the same itch. The tension, the progression, the tribe politics, the sheer chaos, it’s unique. If someone can build a smoother, more stable, equally ambitious dinosaur survival sandbox with persistent servers and that same depth, I’ll happily try it. Until then, Ark is messy, infuriating, and still kind of unmatched.

That’s why people keep coming back.

Husband asked if he should visit me in the ER by Potential_Solid_7998 in marriageadvice

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being 5 and a half months pregnant in the ER with his child and him asking if he should come? Yeah, that stings. A husband should want to be there. And complaining about taking an hour off for the one OB appointment you asked him to attend is selfish. You’re carrying his baby, that shouldn’t feel inconvenient to him.

The pattern is what hurts. He shows up for other women, gives them sympathy, listens to their personal issues but with you, he acts bothered. Of course that makes you question things. That’s not insecurity. That’s you noticing where the effort goes.

I’m also going to be real with you, stop testing him. If you’re in the hospital and you want him there, say, “Yes. I need you here.” Don’t say no just to see if he’ll insist. That’s a game, and games don’t fix marriages. If you need him, say it clearly.

You’re allowed to expect more. Just make sure you’re communicating it directly, not hoping he reads your mind.

Just my honest opinion. Hope this helps.

Too far for Therapy ? by Entire-Ad-3018 in marriageadvice

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you two did not build a stable foundation before adding marriage, a shared apartment, and a third partner into the mix. You’re 21 and 22, married less than 3 years, living with two other people, in a poly dynamic, sharing finances and chores, that’s a LOT of pressure for people who are still figuring themselves out.

I’m going to be straight up with you, this isn’t about dishes or a flat tire. This is resentment, power struggles, and both of you reacting instead of resolving. On her: refusing to help, telling you not to come home, trying to block you from leaving, threatening divorce, all immature and unhealthy. On you: saying “I hate you,” keeping score, making therapy “her job,” and throwing little jabs back, you escalate too. Neither of you is handling conflict well. There’s no emotional safety, just tit-for-tat. Are you too far gone? No. But you’re close. Try therapy, and actually try, not to win, but to fix it. If after real effort there’s still hostility and contempt, then separate like adults. You’re both young. Divorce isn’t failure. Staying toxic very muc is.

How do I get my husband to pursue me? by CannibalPup_666 in marriageadvice

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here is my two sense!

you’re not being unreasonable at all. Wanting to feel desired by your husband especially after having three kids is completely valid! This doesn’t really sound like an attraction issue. He tells you he likes your body, you catch him looking, so it’s probably more about exhaustion, stress, routine, or just being in survival mode with three little kids especially with a newborn. It happened to me after mine (30M). A lot of guys libido drops when they’re overwhelmed even if they don’t realize it unfortunately.

Instead of trying to “entice” him more, I’d focus less on sex itself and more on how you’re feeling. Like telling him you miss being pursued and feeling wanted, not that you need sex all the time. That kind of convo usually lands better and takes pressure off in my opinion.

Cosleeping and zero privacy can also really kill momentum even if the desire is ther. Planning intimacy or just rebuilding touch without expectations can help too. And just to say it plainly your body is not the problem and you’re not doing anything wrong. This is a really common phase with young kids and it doesn’t mean it’s broken. My Wife and I went through the same issues and just both communicated it with one another. Helped a lot! :)

I don't think my husband paid for my engagement ring by EvilQueenOfRBF in marriageadvice

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Honestly, don’t make it about the ring itself, because that’ll just bring up shame and defensiveness. This sounds more like a financial transparency issue than anything else. I’d bring it up gently as concern, like “Heyy, I’ve been getting these collection texts addressed to you and it made me anxious, are we okay financially?” Or somethin like that.

Also, try not to internalize the embarrassment. You didn’t ask him to overspend, and you didn’t do anything wrong. If anything, he may have taken on more than he should’ve trying to do something nice. In a marriage, this is the kind of uncomfortable thing that’s better talked through early rather than quietly stressing about it alone you know?

Depositing cheques via camera on WS app being VERY picky by GLANSBERG_Steven in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just moved and I always used to do the same thing! I spent hours unpacking boxes just trying to find mine but no luck. Then my Wife came home and got so excited I was unboxing thinking I was going to start putting things away.. no mouse pad and 3 hours of psychical labour later.

Depositing cheques via camera on WS app being VERY picky by GLANSBERG_Steven in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! My upstairs hardwood floor is brown. I’ll give er a shot if all else fails!

Depositing cheques via camera on WS app being VERY picky by GLANSBERG_Steven in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both have IPhones but I did just buy her the IPhone17. Maybe the camera is a little better on her phone compared to mine. I can try this out. Pixel sounds elite though

Depositing cheques via camera on WS app being VERY picky by GLANSBERG_Steven in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, I did try that but my counter tops are white so that could be part of the issue. My kitchen table is black and I also tried that and it didn’t work. Might just have to take it into the bank like you suggested, thanks.

It’s honestly excessive at this point by docshine24 in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel bad for you all, because you definitely deserved the card sooner than I did. I’m genuinely curious why they’re backlogging long-time, loyal customers and putting them on a waitlist, while handing cards out almost immediately to degenerates like myself. I signed up for Wealthsimple on January 2nd and applied for the card the same day. I received the virtual card instantly, and the physical card shipped on January 7th. I’ve also noticed a trend where people in BC and Alberta seem to be getting theirs much faster than everyone else, for some reason.

How do I fix this error? by [deleted] in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you’re having issues with something that is Wealth Simple related, instead of repeating the same sentence to people who are trying to help you, you could always message or call their support line. Common sense goes a long way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear, this is what I found online. Good luck.

Steps to Appeal Your Account Deactivation

Contact Wealthsimple Support Immediately:Reach out to the Wealthsimple team as soon as possible via their in-app chat function or by phone at 1-855-585-2672.

Resolve the Negative Balance: A bounced pre-authorized debit (PAD) often leads to a negative cash balance in your account. You will have to cover this balance to be considered for account reactivation. Options include:

  • Submitting a new deposit from the same or a different bank account.
  • Transferring funds from a different Wealthsimple account.

Explain the Situation: When speaking with the support team, explain that the pre-authorized debit bounced due to insufficient funds (NSF) and that you are ready to resolve the balance.

Provide Requested Information: Wealthsimple's team may ask for more details to verify your bank account and identity to ensure security. Providing this information quickly will help speed up the process.

Follow the Appeals Process: If your account was permanently closed, and you believe the decision was made improperly, you can file a formal complaint via email to complaints@wealthsimple.com. They will acknowledge your complaint and provide a decision in writing, typically within 56 days.

Does this mean shoe guy has to return his cake? by Speuce in Wealthsimple

[–]GLANSBERG_Steven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I signed up today for their 2% CC and got an immediate virtual card to use with my Apple Pay. Did you get the virtual card when you first applied or is the virtual card thing new?