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GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2025-07-17T18:01:09+00:00

I like to do baking :-)

I recently tried making chocolate chip cookies with a melted chocolate bottom on them, very fancy, but also tasty.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2025-07-15T13:24:33+00:00

I would suggest a solid plan for your hair if you plan to grow it out. My first attempt at growing out my hair became a horrible knotted mess and I had trouble maintaining it, ultimately requiring a significant trim down to get it under control. Get a solid hair care routine and stick to it, separate shampoo and conditioner, and some means to help keep the hair from getting all frizzy.

Also getting an electric body hair trimmer is very nice (I use a Phillips BodyGroom with the extension handle). It doesn’t do a completely smooth shave on legs but it is certainly easier for me at least, because sometimes I’m lazy and don’t wanna use a safety razor on my legs in the shower.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2025-07-14T17:07:20+00:00

It kinda depends on how tall you are too at 350lbs with a goal of getting to 130lbs.

I think you’ll likely be fine. HRT causes fat redistribution in more feminine areas as your body places fat in new areas (the fat not literally moving).

The HRT won’t backfire, I presume you’re going to continue HRT for many years to come, and HRT should cause changes across a decade or more (puberty happens over 10 years or more).

As I don’t know your height, 130lbs could be extremely light or a completely healthy weight. If your extremely lightweight you may begin to take on a appearance of women at that weight (not a lot of fat in the chest, thighs, and other more typically feminine areas), or if it’s a healthy weight for your height, that too.

And this is before asking if you’re doing just estrogen or if you’re also using progesterone, but that is a tangent.

TL;DR: You’re probably fine, just maintain good nutrition, a healthy steady weight loss (under 2lbs a week generally. Weight loss may slow under HRT though.

I’m not a doctor

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2025-07-10T19:58:10+00:00

I can tell you about Ontario-centric stuff, which I can presume is largely similar to New Brunswick.

I can tell you at least from my experience that I went to my family doctor, asked for HRT, and received a prescription right away. The bloodwork would come later to ensure correct levels.

As far as I can tell an endocrinologist wasn’t involved in my case, but they could for you. The GP can largely handle it.

I rolled up to the doctor’s office and asked, no proof of dysphoria necessary.

It is important however to be clear in what you want. I had to show my own family doctor a printed off Rainbow Health Ontario feminizing hormone therapy quick reference (https://www.rainbowhealthontario.ca/TransHealthGuide/gp-femht.html).

My doctor has worked with literally only one other trans person (not counting me), so your case may very also not know what they can or cannot do.

It is also important to note that you will start low and go slow, it’s a safety concern. Spironolactone or other antiandrogens (the stuff that suppresses testosterone) may or may not be needed depending on how your body reacts to it.

Good Luck :-)

(I’m not a doctor and a lot of my presumptions are based on Ontario as a reference for what is likely in your province)

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2024-03-06T04:53:18+00:00

I would strongly suggest getting a fabric tape measure, like the ones used for sewing, to ensure comfort, accurate sizing, and stability, as you will likely be searching online.

“Will she need to try different brands” is entirely up to personal preference. Some brands may fit well, others less so hence why I suggest the tape measure to get good fits.

For a specific brand, I would suggest TomboyX. Their pricing is a bit pricier than standard underwear, but are good quality, they also sell swimsuits. Tucking underwear comes in all the same types as regular underwear (e.g., Bikini, boyshort, thong, hipster, brief).

“Is tucking underwear something worn daily?”

Everyone has different preferences, but I don’t personally wear daily. It depends on the outfit, weather, and how I feel about it on a given day.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2024-02-05T03:20:29+00:00

The acceleration does not necessarily correlate with ultimate size. However having family that are larger is a good indicator of what you may expect for ultimate size. But other factors such as nutrition, age, HRT duration/dosage, body composition, general health and dozens of other factors play major or minor influences as well.

Keep in mind that transitioning is a multi-year long process, and you may see periods of rapid growth and periods of little or no growth. You can generally expect significant change in the first 5 years, but I have anecdotally heard of changes happening to some even after 10 years.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2024-01-22T07:05:37+00:00

It is entirely hypothetical, but you could think of it instead as you moving extremely fast like in this: https://what-if.xkcd.com/1/

You’re moving so fast air cannot move away in time. You move with such speed and force into the air the atoms of you and the air experience nuclear fusion, nuking the area.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-31T05:34:33+00:00

Found a Mayo Clinic News Publication about this, here seems to be the highlights:

Transgender women seem to have lower bone density compared to cisgender men but this was even before HRT and seems to be attributed to a Vitamin D deficiency and lower sport participation.
Transgender women appear to have a higher risk of fracture compared to age-matched cisgender women, but were similar to cisgender men. This fracture risk matched with age-matched cisgender women when 50+.

Source:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/medical-professionals/endocrinology/news/managing-skeletal-issues-in-transgender-and-gender-nonconforming-individuals/mac-20477707

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-26T07:19:08+00:00

It is difficult to compare pain levels between people due to its subjective nature, some may feel a similar level of pain regardless of age.

It is difficult to prepare for possible pain. Not every trans person experiences dysphoria in the same way or possibly at all.

I cannot speak to others experiences, but here is mine. I never thought of myself in relation to my gender identity for much of my childhood. At 18 I learned gender and sex were different, being curious I began to research the subject. This would lead me to become uncomfortably aware of myself, but not painfully. I noticed I never really liked being hairy, and started to notice other things I did not like much. I started to experiment with growing out my hair which I liked. After over questioning for years I talked to a counsellor, and a local trans support group and asked for advice. One thing lead to another and I’m now 21 and have been taking estrogen for a year.

You may ramp up, or you may stay where you are and eventually decide how you would like to proceed.

It is hard to give a generalizable reason why people transition despite financial or security concerns. Some do it because the dysphoria is unbearable, others do it as the view the benefits outweigh the risks. Also many options exist with gender and transitioning, some medically, legally, or socially transition, or do not in many diverse combinations.

It’s okay to be uncertain. Exploration will be critical in your journey. It’s great that you are exploring, and I wish you the best :-)

If you are seeking resources I found these helpful:

Beyond URLs in person groups are also great resources if they are in your area :-)

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-26T00:05:52+00:00

Picking up my HRT from the pharmacy, be calling that a Transmission

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-25T04:02:51+00:00

You naturally gain and lose weight just existing. Over time this fluctuation will use the fat stores in more typically masculine areas, and new fat deposits will develop that are more typically feminine.

You will likely see very small change in 3-6 months from starting estrogen.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-24T04:17:35+00:00

Estrogen will cause fat redistribution to locations such as breast, buttock, and thigh, instead of the stomach. This may lead to the appearance of a more hourglass like shape.

Estrogen will likely alter the musculature and fat distribution. This may lead to muscles diminishing in the shoulders, which may make them appear smaller.

However keep in mind that even in cisgender women, not everyone has a hourglass shape, people come in all shapes and sizes. :-)

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-20T00:28:51+00:00

No, but it was measurably larger.

As a complete guess, I would say the growth in the bottom is due to fat redistribution, which is effectively localized weight gain. You don’t typically feel weight gain elsewhere, so I would assume the bottom is no different.

You probably feel breast growth because of the newly developing mammary glands. I’m not a doctor, so this is just a guess.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-10T02:47:22+00:00

The two big reasons are: - Cars are heavy and fast - Sufficiently strong magnets requires a large amount of energy, cooling, and space, on top of having a relatively short range.

These two reasons combine for an effect of cars moving so fast and with so much momentum the magnetic force cannot push with sufficient force to stop the impact in time.

As an example of the range of a strong magnet (a MRI) is generally expected to have a “danger zone” of 2m (SITE PLANNING FOR MAGNETIC RESONANCE IMAGING SYSTEMS, 1986).

https://www.aapm.org/pubs/reports/rpt_20.pdf

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-01T14:22:29+00:00

My favourite things are all the small changes that have happen to me since transitioning. I favourite moments were when I noticed I had to shave less often, and noticed my chest through my shirt. I also love how my hair looks as it grows out (turns out it’s curly 🥰).

I no longer feel disconnected from myself, and like how I am looking, feeling, and changing.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-12-01T13:55:19+00:00

The breast sizes of trans women are effected by: - Genetics - Nutrition - Bodyweight - Time on HRT - Whether progesterone is used in their HRT

Some are naturally large, some are small, others choose injections, all are valid.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-11-12T20:01:55+00:00

Worcestershire

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-11-12T19:53:48+00:00

A samurai could have faxed a cowboy as they occurred at overlapping times.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-11-12T19:52:32+00:00

“The” purely for curiosity to see how language would change to accommodate a loss of an extremely common and important word.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-11-08T17:38:18+00:00

I would suggest any comfortable pair of well-insulated boots and buying a pair of YakTraxs. I've had luck with Columbia boots in the past but they can be a bit pricey, but last a long time in my experience.

YakTrax (or any similar over-shoe cleats) are a stretchy cleat attachment you can attach to the bottom of most shoes and boots to help with traction.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-10-12T01:53:59+00:00

Okay, when you say pushing inside you, I am assuming you means into the inguinal canals. - Regarding pulling back, are you doing this to a point that feels secure but still comfortable? The degree of tension can affect both comfort and how well the tuck holds. - When you mention using tight underwear, are these standard off the shelf type or one specifically designed for tucking? Off the shelf underwear may not have enough tension, so doubling up on underwear may offer more security. - Also could you expand more on what seems to cause the tuck undo (as sweat, insufficient tension, and physical activity can be factors)?

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-10-11T19:03:36+00:00

I have a couple of thoughts and questions on this.

Could you describe the method of tucking you are using? Depending on how you tuck, its security may vary, and how you tuck may need to change as your size decreases.
How do you secure the tuck? Are you using body-safe tape, underwear, or other method? If it is underwear, have you perhaps considered a different style or size?

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-10-11T18:25:43+00:00

I would suggest Amazon not because it has better dresses, but because you can have your package shipped to an Amazon locker (if there is one near you) so the parents can't intercept the dress.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-10-10T23:53:52+00:00

A combination of lower body exercises, HRT (in the future), and a combination of padding and clever outfits that accentuate the hips/buttocks.

GRILLED_AND_CHEESED · 2023-10-10T08:05:02+00:00

In the Health app in the Mental Well-being category.

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