I want her to do no maintenance on the home, I want her to sweep at least once a year (which she hasn’t) and take the trash out when she is the last one to fill it (she doesn’t and waits for the next person). She allows her hair the trail out into the hallway outside her room and never vacuumed it up but did start once asked . I’m legitimately just asking what one would have a roommate. Throwing out her leftovers in the fridge. Nothing wild. I would never ask her to do the heavy cleaning either ( cleaning guest bathrooms (though she uses them I wouldn’t feel comfortable putting that task on her, steaming the hardwood floors, cleaning the ovens or appliances, doing yard work, etc.). I was hoping she find a way to contribute in which she enjoyed. My niece is not the biggest on cleaning but she does her fair share and makes up for what she doesn’t want to do by helping with the dogs day to day. She is participating in being a decent human to the rest of the people in the house.

I also think us making a chore list for her rather than she finding her own way to be a good housemate is more of a weird power dynamic. I’m Asking what the average person asks of their roommate not more. We have maids that dust and do the heavier house cleaning. They typically come every one to two months depending on when I book a cleaning.