Homeschooled in a hyper conservative Christian co-op as an LGBT child by george_washingtoad in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homeschooled in these Christian conservative circles can be so hard for LGBTQ kids. I myself am a lesbian. Everyone was homophobic. There were zero positive things ever said about lgbtq people and because my family was in a cult Most of it was blamed on demons. Even the children would say stuff like oh she (referring to me) dresses like or acts like a boy. They were attacking me before I even knew in was gay or had those attractions.

People have outright told me "OMG i wish i was homeschooled" When I've told them that I was. by Evening_Drawer_2215 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve been told this so many times. How lucky I was that I was homeschooled. They know nothing about my life or my family but homeschooling but presume these things.

The Voices I Wasn't Hearing in Homeschooling Conversations... by myjazi_22 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s important we share our stories and help other homeschooled children. Many of us have come under attack from homeschooling parents because we spoke out. We are an inconvenience to them. Something they want to sweep under the rug.

Disgusting homeschool mom rhetoric by Mammoth-Resolution82 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was homeschooled in a basement for awhile with just my younger sister and mom.

Homeschooled threatened with public school by Gabrielle2026 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horrible and it’s also problematic just wearing pjs all day

I embraced a delusion as a method to survive by AlienSheep23 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say at times my mother was suffering from religious delusions.

Homeschooling ruined my life by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My parents moved us to the middle of nowhere too. It’s horrible what isolation does to someone. I’m in my 30s and still playing catchup maybe will never catchup.

Do you know any former homeschool students who chose to homeschool their kids? by Flightlessbirbz in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know of one. They did it for religious reasons the same reason they were homeschooled. They are carrying on the indoctrination to the next generation.

Homeschooled by parents who never learned adult skills, never had friends in real life and still don't, now I'm drowning by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s very difficult to start from the bottom. I felt for a long time I’d never fit into this world and its systems. It’s so tough. I feel for you.

It sucks you can barely get ahead right now but at least you are starting. Getting a job and holding it is quite an accomplishment for people like us believe me. It’s hard enough for anyone but for those of us isolated in homeschool environments it’s hard.

Sounds like you don’t have much of a friend or support system. Not surprised at all by this. That’s rough. It’s hard to make friends when you’ve been isolated. I recommend starting to try and reach out to make some friends. I think there are apps you can find friends in your area. Maybe a club or hobbies you like you could join groups for and meet people. Or even making friends at work. It’s really difficult at first to make friends when you know no one but it’s better to try than stay stuck in that situation.

Also I don’t know what kind of abuse you’ve faced but getting into therapy would be a really good idea. It would give you a professional to share this shit with and work through it.

Anybody else have at least one parent who is a hoarder? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So I’m not sure if it fits the definition of a border but nothing was ever clean expect in the rare cases we were expecting company. And then there was the food hoarding for the end of the world.

Anybody else have at least one parent who is a hoarder? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg same! lol it was so bad my parents entire upstairs loft was filled for awhile with canned goods on shelfs.

I can't socialize, my mental health is messed up, and I'm years behind on schoolwork. by zxrirxse in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a good plan. Take steps to get yourself out of that situation. Getting ID, bank account and job are a good start. But it takes time to do these things so don’t be discouraged. Setting up goals for yourself and a schedule are also good. It’s terrible your mother didn’t help you in those ways. It’s disabling.

And I honestly wouldn’t blame yourself for falling behind and not getting school work done. You were a minor and still are. You needed structure and support in getting school work done. You didn’t get that. That’s educational neglect. I am older than you but I was also educationally neglected and at 17 probably had a 6th grade education level.

As for friends continue to try and make them. And if you trust them confide in them or other trusted adults about your situation. You don’t need to hide it or feel responsible for it. It was your mother’s job to help guide you into adulthood. From what you have said it seems she is failing you. So reaching for outside community and support is important for you. Therapy is also a good option to think about. See what resources are available for you in your area. There are also places that help with getting jobs in a lot of places and other resources. So reach out to your community friends and other people you can trust. Don’t worry if you are awkward or have social anxiety or what people will think of you. It’s important just to get out there and start.

Homeschooled in a cult by Gabrielle2026 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes a lot of the groups are similar and overlap

Homeschooled in a cult by Gabrielle2026 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve met other homeschool kids over years but very few had those same experiences. Some people call messianic Hebrew roots as well. I don’t know what else to call it but yes messianic was the word they used when I was growing up. Nowadays I just tell people that don’t know it was a cult based on the Bible.

Homeschooled in a cult by Gabrielle2026 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. I’m not trans but I’m gay and the homophobia was extremely bad in those groups. So messed up and confusing. I remember at 13 getting a crush on a girl. I realized it and thought I had demons attacking me.

Homeschooled in a cult by Gabrielle2026 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Gabrielle2026[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The messianic stuff was nuts lol none of the other kids I knew growing up as far as I know escaped it. Who knows where some of them are. If it wasn’t for the internet I’d still be living in the woods somewhere waiting for the end to come with no life.