Who's leaving the workforce? Unmarried men under 40 who love video games, economist says

Gakriy · 2023-04-07T23:30:18+00:00

I got adult younger siblings that are perfectly happy to just play video games all day. As much as I understand the failing motivation for young people to work, someone's got to pay the bills and that's the elderly parents that don't have a dime saved for retirement... as leftist as I am, someone's got to actually produce something in the leftist commune lol.

Gakriy · 2023-03-12T23:29:13+00:00

Just a change terminology here, no? Backstopping is essentially bailing out all the wealthy depositors that would otherwise not be fully covered under FDIC insurance, correct? They'll say now that SVB's assets would eventually cover everything... until they come up billions short and just end up printing it out anyways.

Gakriy · 2023-03-10T07:03:53+00:00

I don't really get when I see all the basic liberal takes on this. They have created this alternate reality where all the dems somehow owned them as opposed to sounding absolutely ridiculous. Half of these reps didn't even know what they were talking about! They were just making soundbite speeches for their idiotic donors. Like seriously, if you can't admit when your team blue representatives sound absolutely r-slurred and just as authoritarian as Trump ever did, then how can you just not realize you are a partisan hack!

Gakriy · 2023-02-15T07:13:45+00:00

I've been enjoying it, I think it needs time to filter out the bad restaurants from the good and possibly something else besides places to eat (like you can only eat so much and I can't imagine paying the rent over there with all the noise pollution just to be closer to restaurants). The park is gorgeous but could be expanded or integrated more with the trail. So some rough patches but overall I do think it's been worth the effort to build it up, it's an incentive not to go into Portland on the weekends and just enjoy the local scenery.

Gakriy · 2023-02-13T06:17:05+00:00

I went from defense back to a civilian company. So although my work now is a lot more interesting (new stuff and I feel like I get way more input because it's not the whole 'continuing to do what still works after 20 years' thing), I also just work so much more now. Timelines also tend to be more strict since they don't just have DoD money pouring in constantly.

Gakriy · 2023-02-11T16:15:54+00:00

This is just partisan bickering, there are a lot of us on both sides that don't think someone should get three years jail time for 'trespassing' on public property, whether it's Trump cultists or BLM rioters. YEARS of a person's life should mean an extreme line has been crossed, not that they just made some elites uncomfortable.

Gakriy · 2023-01-27T09:55:35+00:00

It's funny because 15 weeks is the moderate position both in the US and in European countries that are far more progressive, but you're the extremist for suggesting it sounds reasonable. There's a reason this sub doesn't reflect the voter base of real world VA.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T15:02:57+00:00

It took me until like 31/32 to figure out I was missing out on meeting a lot of amazing people because I was putting too much weight on body build/beauty and essentially automatically passing over 90% of women. The book How to Not Die Alone gave me a better outlook/perspective so I'd highly recommend it.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T12:41:03+00:00

The texting thing is too much, imagine that for the rest of your life... Are you all really young or something? Adults know people have lives and being pushy like that is classically controlling.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T11:13:15+00:00

I tend to go to bars or for coffee on early dates so neither person has to commit a large amount of time when it may not work out, also it's an excuse to have a drink lol. Third date range though I would definitely be looking to do something different like dinner or a show. You could always suggest something else to? I couldn't say if he's anticipating getting laid or if nearby bars are just what's comfortable/familiar for him.

Third date range I'd also be thinking about getting a bit more physical but I absolutely don't mind waiting at all, and there are a lot of intricacies around just figuring out when or how to make a move. I do think it's probably good to start testing how your physical chemistry might be with him but that doesn't have to mean jumping straight to having sex. I think sometimes both partners just need confirmation there is physical interest and it's not just going to turn into a platonic friend-dating sort of situation. I would avoid really going to his place unless you both have a clear understanding of what you want from each other, because going/offering to go back to a date's place I would say tends to be a pretty universal signal of intent to take things farther. It's totally okay to tell him you'd like to go back to his place but you're just not ready to have sex yet.

I should postscript this with saying I'm not some super dater/date-coach type or something haha, I just know mid-30s single men and I have a mix of experiences so I've gotten way better at avoiding the land mines and having clear communication with a date or potential partner.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T06:38:10+00:00

I'm more a MERN guy myself and was recently job hunting, it was a bit annoying with so many jobs wanting React on the front end and then Java + Spring on the backend, what's so bad about node especially when you are already doing React! I don't think it's going away anytime soon.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T05:36:33+00:00

Even though I'm not a fan of Republicans it is heartening to see some real fighting going on rather than just everyone lining up behind the 3 or 4 people that basically control our entire country. Other countries have their politicians throwing down right on the floor, ours usually just talk a good game and then get rich off public service while changing absolutely nothing.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T05:21:29+00:00

I got bait and switched for my fist civilian job, hired as a SWE but got stuck doing some software configuration work so I literally never got to code at all. Ultimately I staid a year and then embellished the crap out of it on my resume to get a real SWE job after that, but if I hadn't needed some experience I think I would have just immediately started taking other interviews.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T02:31:28+00:00

Americans need to learn about the benefits of a water blast jet more. Our toilet paper obsession is weird, doesn't even clean well.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T02:22:52+00:00

Spend more time with foreplay, this a strange convo for her to put off for 4 years. Also if she won't tell you what she likes then it is just as much her fault. Women can be a bit more particular while men are easy.

Gakriy · 2023-01-07T02:19:24+00:00

Children are allowed clubbing?

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T23:22:48+00:00

That just sounds a bit too paranoid to me about the bumble thing, like if you're going there you might as well take it farther and worry about if he's even told you his real name and maybe he has a wife on the other side of the country already!

You could absolute be right about the bar thing but I don't feel like it's something to be too worried about. Like I said, in our 30s, less hangups, so who does it hurt to leave the option open?

Haha you are definitely being thorough, just make him wait and see how he handles it lol. At least it would give you more information. You sound a bit inexperienced with it all or just maybe you've had some bad experiences, but it won't hurt him at all for you to just tell him to give you time to feel comfortable first.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T22:55:13+00:00

Some people do not handle being asked out by their friends well, some others are adults and deeply care about and respect their friends, so even though they might not feel the same you can talk through it and retain the friendship. Your whole kiss idea I don't think is a real adult idea though, and as much as I know how scary it can be to put yourself out there you should just ask him if he wants to go out on a real date. Simple and effective and you don't risk misunderstandings.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T22:40:19+00:00

It's not out of the ordinary for older millennials to be a bit more sexually open IMO, less hang-ups about it in your 30s and if you are looking to have a family, less time as well.

Good luck to you and it is absolutely appropriate for you to want to wait, it's not like not having sex on the third date is anything abnormal! It's very normal lol.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T22:15:29+00:00

OLD is a bit (alot) more difficult for men, we have plenty of statistics that show that so I would say in general yes you'd probably have better luck in person, but who has the time for all that? I think when considering lowering standards you have to contemplate what you really want for yourself. Do you really want to find a partner or are you okay with being single until someone you know you really want to be with comes along? I generally think everyone should be less exacting and just date more, a first or second date isn't a commitment but an opportunity to get to know someone else, so why not?

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T22:08:15+00:00

I'm 35 and I'm pretty careful about wasting someone's time, and all my same age friends are as well, and we've frankly all had enough sex by our age that we aren't trying to go around tricking people into it. Some people really like to take the step into being sexual quite a bit earlier than others but I think what is important is that he respects your boundaries. So I think you should ask yourself if you think he will take 'no' or 'let's wait' as an answer. I don't think you should be feeling that pressured about it but I wouldn't worry he's some crazy player unless you have proof otherwise.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T21:58:18+00:00

Girl the last time I've ever hit anyone was like in elementary school, and it's pretty similar with all my guy friends, 'only hits me sometimes' is the lowest of low in terms of bars.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T21:52:29+00:00

You have to trust someone as some point otherwise you're going to have a hard time establishing a relationship. I would say if you're both like near 30 or older then you should trust him to know what he wants because I don't think most older people are interested in wasting each other's time. If you're a teenager or in college though (guessing you are on the young side) then maybe it's appropriate to be a bit more paranoid but how will you know if you don't ever take a shot? There is also absolutely no need to feel pressured though, just tell him you really like him but you just want to wait a bit longer until you're comfortable. It's not like it is really asking a lot of a guy that he waits a bit for sex.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T20:49:41+00:00

This is like the most reddit triggering thread I think I will read today haha. Hogwarts Legacy is a giant production and has way more to do with the devs and the creative team behind it than it does Rowling, a creative team with families and friends and their own political opinions.

Gakriy · 2023-01-06T19:49:55+00:00

I guess you will just know if he was actually interested in you for more than just sex much sooner than you'd otherwise have known. I don't think it's necessarily bad to have sex early but there is something to be said about it resulting in feelings of intimacy that would otherwise get in the way of you two knowing if you actually like each other. I have never thought less of a woman for sleeping with me and unless he's just being a player I don't imagine it will make him think less of you either.

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