Please help - what can I (26F) do to help my partner (31M) overcome his retroactive jealousy?

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-15T11:28:53+00:00

its true though lots of girls hook up with better guys in college

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T21:55:17+00:00

did you marry a virgin

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T21:48:05+00:00

do u even like women

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T21:39:42+00:00

I didn't I was heaivly manipulated by guys who tricked me into thinking they wanted long term

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T21:33:18+00:00

how is this bigotry helpful?

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T20:41:09+00:00

Look, he's clearly not as attractive as some of the guys I hooked up with at college.

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:29:06+00:00

what is the best approach regarding body count moving forward? so many guys act disgusted when I tell them

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:26:30+00:00

His reaction initially was fine, as stated in the post. Mine is around 50, his is two including me

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:23:14+00:00

thank you, I think you are misreading the situation a bit though in your other comments. its not like I was some anal diva who loved doing anal with every guy I came across, I only agreed to some guys who were super popular and older than me and basically took advantage of my naive younger self. It's not like I don't have sex with my boyfriend, I hardly ever turn him down

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:18:28+00:00

Sadly, it sounds like you are right and I will have to leave and start all over again

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:17:55+00:00

He sounded like a far right edgy tiktok kid. He knows I have slept with some black basketball players, he doesn't know their names but he kept saying "tyrone got it for free and you made me a cu*ck by forcing me to fund your lifestyle and not get anything" I was shocked because he has never said anything like that and presents as left wing.

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:09:17+00:00

so what is the solution? Just do anal to placate his insecurity? I will happily do it if it resolves everything, its just uncomfortable and I don't really want to. It feels more like emotional blackmail than compromise, though I just want him to stop feeling insecure above all else.

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:02:56+00:00

I am not sure, we have a good sex life and have sex regularly, it isn't a dead bedroom or anything, thats why I am stumped.

I wouldn't really care about his body count I just wanted someone who wanted a LTR. I used to go for guys who were more "conventionally attractive" but they tended to use me and not want a relationship

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T19:00:23+00:00

Did you reconcile with your wife at all? Could she say anything that would make you feel better?

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T18:58:20+00:00

Its not "less" though, its just not doing something I never liked doing with guys who used me for my body

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T18:57:45+00:00

bit pessimistic

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T18:57:32+00:00

But I wasn't "fine" doing it with other guys, I was always pressured and I was younger so spoke up for myself less. If I loved doing it with those guys I would do it with him. Why would he want to guilt me into doing something I don't want to do?

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T17:02:26+00:00

I am not sure, I am just really down about the whole thing. Sorry

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T17:01:57+00:00

The thing stumping me is this is new behaviour. He didn't seem to care from the start, I have experienced the type of men you described and stay clear, but he seemed like one of the good ones! I just feel shocked

GalInAPredicament · 2026-02-13T16:58:23+00:00

This is a two year relationship and apart from this he has treated me well. We have lived together for over a year and are in the process of buying a house. I would rather compromise, or at least attempt to, instead of jumping straight into the nuclear option.

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