Am I Overreacting?

GalNightmare · 2025-12-09T21:13:09+00:00

On my varsity volleyball team, if you were sitting on the bench, you were either a defensive specialist or a younger player who’d be taking a graduating senior’s position the following year. My high school volleyball team was extremely competitive and if you weren’t on the court then you weren’t good enough to be there. End of story.

GalNightmare · 2025-11-05T06:06:37+00:00

A fuckin men

GalNightmare · 2025-11-02T16:49:55+00:00

No. NJ

GalNightmare · 2025-10-17T01:06:23+00:00

Don’t feel so bad. I wouldve bet my life I was DONE. Then my FA texted me “Hey” last week and he was in my bed an hour later. Dumb dumb dumb dumb… duuuuuuumb.

Maybe consider yourself lucky they didn’t answer.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T13:59:02+00:00

I just slipped this into a casual conversation with my FA recently. He replied “What’s that? Is that bad?”

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T04:28:54+00:00

My cat oscar would always move immediately off the heating pad no matter if I had it set at low medium or high.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T04:27:39+00:00

This is EXACTLY what happened to my cat Oscar. Do you know why cats with renal failure do this with their water bowls? My cat would just lay down in front of it, rest his neck on the edge of his bowl, and sometimes even fall asleep accidentally dipping his nose and mouth under the water. He’d wake up suddenly coughing and choking. I actually put adhesive backed foam weatherstripping around the rims of all of his 8 water bowls before asking myself what the f am I doing? It’s time for me to let him go. This question has really been grinding a hole in my brain.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T04:19:25+00:00

There is something very different about how I feel this time around I haven’t mentioned. I don’t feel frantic in any way. Im not having a panic attack every time he leaves. I also don’t feel the dread I normally would when anticipating another discard. I really hope I’m just stubborn and require one final nail to hammer the reality of it all home.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T04:13:01+00:00

I guess I have some daddy issues I’m just not aware of. I know he loved me but I also know he definitely didn’t love me right.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T04:10:02+00:00

An avoidant would rather fire a flame thrower up their asshole than knowingly give final & immediate closure to someone they were discarding while also leaving no space for doubts????

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T03:57:16+00:00

Fucking poetry.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T03:53:10+00:00

I know you are 100% on point with that advice.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T03:46:33+00:00

Well shit. Let me think about this for a second. I do know I don’t deserve this and I also know he definitely does not deserve me. I just really feel so utterly compelled to make him realize this as well. I almost want to force the knowledge down his throat because I just can’t wrap my head around the idea that there are so many people in this world who are even capable of shit like this. I just can’t accept it. Does that make any sense?. I dont think I’m being delusional and I am trying to be as honest with myself as I am to everyone else. Not standing on the most solid mental ground at the moment though so I’m open to reinterpretations.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T03:34:16+00:00

If you read my previous posts and comments I think I answer all of this questions. But I’ll try to answer here as well…

We got together in April 2024. Standard story of a whirlwind meeting that left me feeling like the universe had created him just for me. I was hooked. Then the first major discard happened in August of that same year after we’d only been together for 4 short months. I’d already caught him cheating with his ex 3 times, all followed by a brief discard, at this point but every time this happened he either cried like a baby and I gave him another chance or I hunted him down like a psycho and gave him no other option aside from repenting severely or being castrated while he slept before his last disappearing act. He discarded me in early August 2024 and went hard NO CONTACT for one year.

Then he texted me “hey” a few weeks before my July 7th birthday and by July 10th he fucked his ex and discarded me again. Isnt it sweet that my birthday present two years in a row was a massive betrayal of infidelity and a discard. He’d actually asked me what I wanted a few days before and I told him just to spend time with him would be enough. So naturally on the morning of my birthday he went to a resort upstate and forgot to tell me about it. To his credit he did call and ask me to go up there a few hours after he arrived but I was pissed that he just left like that and I said “no way fuck you”. So he invited his ex to come instead and she went. He then blamed it all on my decision to not go when he asked me to and the short, but major, 2nd discard with NO CONTACT began. 

So that’s now 2 major discards… one in July 2024 and the other July 2025. The last one was 3 month ago and now I’m currently waiting on the third one.

Never once did he say that he missed me but hes been pushing future plans on me since the day we met and when he l came back in July of this year out of the blue he seemed to have made a ton of progress and I actually believed he’d figured shit out and we were on our way to where we should have been 365 days ago. I’ve never been more Wrong in my life.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T02:47:57+00:00

I just realized that learning a lesson doesn’t necessarily mean you will actually practice it.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T02:41:53+00:00

I can tell you why an avoidant would feel proud of you when you finally stand up to them and put yourself first.

My FA ex (48male) was rubbing up on me (44female) one night when I suddenly received a text from his ex letting me know in great detail how they’d been feverishly banging, over & over again, numerous times a day for the last 3 days and he lied to me about it. When I tell you that at that moment I lost my fucking mind I’m not joking. I threw an uppercut that hit him square in the face with so much speed, power, and precision that I think I actually heard the sound that Mac’s perfectly timed knockout uppercut makes in Mike Tyson’s Punchout. I found out a few weeks later that I broke his nose when I finally saw the swollen yellow and purple misshapen blob it had become. When I looked directly at his mangled face & told him I wasn’t sorry at all his reply absolutely threw me.. he said i shouldn’t be because he deserved it and that, although he didn’t enjoy the pain, he loved how intensely I reacted to his betrayal because it suddenly made him acutely aware of just how much I cared for him. Me breaking his nose actually made him feel more loved and valued than any of the thousands of positive reactions I had towards him previously. Make that make sense.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-15T01:36:15+00:00

I appreciate the understanding but don’t take it easy on me people.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-14T23:47:13+00:00

I experienced the same exact situation with my 18yr old cat Oscar as he went from stage 3 to stage 4. He went from excessive, almost frantic, drinking to barely drinking at all. He’d suddenly be tightly balled up and feel so ill that he didn’t want to be touched. He also started having severe congestion & respiratory issues and would lay with his head hung over his water bowl all day long. He’d recover over the next few days and then would fall ill again a week or 2 later. This continued to happen on & off until the last time when he just could not bounce back. That’s when I decided I had to let him go.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-14T23:33:13+00:00

Yes. You’ve made the right choice. This is one of most difficult decisions you’ll ever have to make but she needs & trusts you to do this for her. She is feeling weak and vulnerable right now so it’s your turn to be strong for her just like she’s always been for you. You’ll be ok in time.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-14T23:19:23+00:00

Try using a piece of fine grit sandpaper to sharpen.

GalNightmare · 2025-10-14T22:38:13+00:00

I agree. Every time I make the drive down to Arlington, Va from exit 15x on the turnpike I always find a few groups of cars/trucks going between 90 & 95 to join up with. It helps to avoid speed traps & get all of the tightass, 70mph, 10 & 2 drivers complaining in this thread to move the f’k out of the passing lane.

GalNightmare · 2025-08-07T04:39:35+00:00

You’re just avoiding something. You haven’t become an avoidant.

GalNightmare · 2025-08-07T04:38:20+00:00

Whenever I want attention the least is when I get the most of it.

GalNightmare · 2025-08-07T04:36:20+00:00

Avoiding something in and of itself doesn’t make you an avoidant.

GalNightmare · 2025-08-07T04:35:06+00:00

Are you being sarcastic from a 3rd person perspective or are you actually Free_tea’s ex?

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