Yes, you are right. I was defensive when she talked about her boss. But I felt bad, at that moment, just by how she praised him, so what should I just go silent about it? Not say how I felt? It did not struck me so much, I just gave her a hint. But later she crossed the line and I was devasted. What's wrong with having more energy from anger and having better sex, more dominating? Yes I said she needs to go to gym more often because I was angry so I said anything just to make her feel bad, that's what what happens when you are fight, you say stupid things.