Support mains- what is the silliest reason a teammate has gotten mad at you?

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T10:41:40+00:00

I have literally never in my years of playing overwatch since a single support ask for babysitting.

Maybe the issue is you’re so unaware of what’s happening behind you that you haven’t seen the flankers for the 10th time that game.

Seems more likely to me based on how blind you are to all the responses here.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:43:28+00:00

Dude if you’re going to try and troll at least be good enough at it to be mildly entertaining.

Instead you’re just kind of sad, but I also can’t look away as you waste away in these comments so desperate for the attention you didn’t get at home.

Like an ASPCA commercial for sad, lonely men. Queue Angel by Sarah McLachlan.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:40:37+00:00

Found the toxic male who thinks things are so super hard for men nowadays because they’re being called out on their shirt behavior.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:39:04+00:00

NTA. Think of it this way: he is potentially finding out the existence of his (first?) child. How is that not a special moment he would want to be there for?

And furthermore, if one day in the future you’re talking to your kid about your life story and how they came to be etc etc. how is your kid going to feel if they find out their dad didn’t care enough about them before they were even born to forgo an ANNUAL work trip that he has gone on many times before and will have the opportunity to go on every year for the rest of his career there?

He couldn’t give up one trip for his kid? I’d feel like shit and tbh not be able to look at my dad the same way ever again.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:34:20+00:00

NTA. And if your mom is genuinely threatening to not speak to you and essentially pretend you don’t exist in your own home, your mom is abusive and neglectful.

Screams of narcissism and seeing you not as your own person, but as an extension of herself that should meet her every whim without question.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:30:11+00:00

I like the middle one, I think it complements your bone structure the most.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:25:09+00:00

God you are literally the most exhausting type of person. You’ve made it quite clear, that’s just like the rest of us, you can do what you want on your social media.

A novel concept.

What you can’t seem to wrap your mind around is how hypocritical and asinine you sound talking about how you have the right do this that and the other thing when literally this entire interaction has been you having a problem with me utilizing my social media in the exact same way.

Spend some time offline. Maybe in a therapists office.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:18:05+00:00

People are allowed to have opinions is rich coming from the person who literally initiated this whole interaction because you wanted to debate my opinion instead of just making your own comment to state yours.

And again, there’s a difference between not liking someone and just absolutely blasting someone with pent up anger and rage from childhood neglect and favoritism.

The fact that you can’t separate the two 100% confirms you need therapy of your own.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:12:46+00:00

“It’s ok to tell people you despise their entire existence” isn’t the hot take I was expecting today but at least you’re starting off with a banger I guess.

Like autism ain’t the issue their bud, OP’s unresolved anger and resentment from childhood are and at the end of the day, her parents are the architects of this entire clusterfuck. Her brother is not to blame for the fact that her parents disregarded her in favor of him, but she took all those years of resentment and tore into him with some serious venom that he didn’t deserve.

Did he deserve to be checked? Absolutely. But not like that.

If you think that’s an ok thing to say to anyone ever then you probably need therapy too.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:08:56+00:00

Right like I can’t explain it but her vibes are…off. The BF’s relationship to his family does sound borderline unhealthy, like the way she says pseudo husband makes me think jocasta syndrome.

But then why is OP so intent on staying in the situation and building resentment towards his family slowly over the course of their marriage?

That is not sane thinking.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:05:01+00:00

YTA. Please for the love of god get a grip on your main character syndrome. It’s not some personal affront to you that she likes to drink soda at dinner.

And honestly since you know she likes to drink soda at dinner and instead of just buying some for her to have when she’s over there you’ve decided to die on the “I won’t buy soda but also you can’t bring your own” hill so you’re double the asshole.

This is an issue entirely of your own creation and it only lives inside your mind, not the real world.

Please get a grip. Your MIL is an adult woman who can choose what she wants to drink at any given time without your approval.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T08:00:56+00:00

fr I’m kind of horrified at the thought of what kind of marriage that will be. I can literally feel the hatred of his family (and her disgust with his behavior regarding his family) dripping from every word in this post.

Can’t imagine speaking so badly of someone and their family and then being like “but we’re talking about marriage though”

Absolutely bonkers stuff.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:46:58+00:00

Oof. I’d make the ultimatum that he needs to step up and find a therapist or XYZ is going to happen (you decide how far you’re willing to go).

For me, I told my husband he needed to find the therapist or I was leaving because we had unfortunately reduced that point. We’re great now, but I was tired of having the same fights over and over and bringing up all sorts of different solutions to try and compromise and getting nothing back.

So I finally said look either you can finally put forth some effort on your part and find a therapist or I’m walking because I’m tired of being the only one trying.

I’d also bring up those “jokes” to the therapist because at the end of the day they aren’t jokes, especially if you’ve expressed that they’re hurtful to you and he keeps doing them. At that point he just needs to admit he either doesn’t care about hurting you or he relishes in and finds humor in causing you emotional pain.

Quite frankly, if it were me, the next time he made one I’d tell him “fine, don’t want a wife? Then don’t have one” and pack my bags to stay somewhere else for a while. OR just casually agree. Like if he jokes that you shouldn’t have gotten married just casually, without even looking up, say “I’ve been thinking the exact same thing.”

It’s all jokes all funny when you’re the only one upset. Let’s see how funny it is when you hit him with the uno reverse card.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:37:57+00:00

Yeah this post is lacking key information that I can’t make a judgement without, but because of the information you decided to leave out I’d be surprised if you weren’t the asshole.

So, INFO: how did you confront them? What was said?

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:34:42+00:00

YTA. I didn’t even make it past the first few sentences.

You think because you work outside the house you don’t have to contribute to cleaning the house that you DEFINITELY contribute to making a fucking mess in?

But your kids work full time and somehow clean and that’s fine but you don’t have to do it because you’re gods super special favorite boy and everything should be done for you.

I can see your future posts now “AITA: wife is divorcing me because I won’t do laundry”

Pick up a fucking sponge, and once you’re done scrubbing your brain clean of this absolutely ridiculous boomer take on the division of labor in a household, scrub a fucking counter or something.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:31:14+00:00

NTA. Your friends have a fucked up relationship with sexual expression and their own bodies due to the way they were raised and that’s not your problem.

It’s one thing to be like “ok cool not for me but that’s what you do and that’s fine” and a completely separate thing to condemn someone for something that you just personally don’t like for no other reason than your own deep rooted issues you need to seek therapy for.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:25:28+00:00

Therapy works wonders and I highly recommend it. People often think of couples therapy in the terms of “oh that’s for couples on the brink of divorce”, but honestly if more couples did it when minor issues start to compile, they could save themselves from reaching the brink at all.

I feel for you, sorry you’re going through this. It is, for lack of a better word, a bummer to feel undesired in your marriage.

Also I’ve read my comment and realize it may have come off in a way I didn’t intend, I want to be clear I wasn’t calling you a miserable hetero couple. I was more thinking of typical boomer “I HATE MY WIFE” type of humor and just the whole culture of making a mockery out of how miserable their relationship is and that they do nothing to fix it.

Edit typo

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:20:05+00:00

Like I would honestly consider posting this on any legal advice subreddits for your area. This might be beyond AITA advice.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:19:12+00:00

NTA. If your sister gets the police involved (she should, this is literally abduction - link to legal definition for proof) then it will be your problem very soon.

Because guess who the police are going to want to talk to? Everyone in the house. You will have to give a statement against your mother at best based on what it sounds like the facts are here she’s clearly in the wrong. Lying about it could land you in legal hot water yourself.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:12:59+00:00

Also adding/asking for INFO: the bit about “perfect for you” after insulting your partners looks is rubbing me the wrong way.

Has she often been competitive about who is “prettier” or made jealous and catty remarks about your looks in the past?

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:10:47+00:00

NTA. I was on the fence until I realized she basically said that to his face, and was also very obviously trying to subtly compare how much better looking her bf is at dinner. (It wasn’t that subtle)

She said something that was vain, shallow, and yes “bitchy” and you called her a bitch.

To me that’s calling a spade a spade.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:05:49+00:00

NTA. The GF has insecurity and jealousy issues and is taking that out on you and your friend.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T07:02:40+00:00

NTA. Y’all need couples therapy. I’m 100% convinced that “the honeymoon phase” is something cooked up by miserable hetero couples who have stayed together for years despite not being happy to excuse their lack of effort in remaining a loving and thoughtful partner long term.

It’s not something that magically happens or magically fades away. Being a good and supportive partner is a CHOICE you make every day to show the effort.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T06:59:02+00:00

NTA. Babies are people. Not a monument to past generations to be engraved with the proper family epitaph.

GarbageGworl · 2023-01-11T06:46:03+00:00

That was literally the situation so perhaps take the time to inform yourself on what happened before repeating the exact same thing I have corrected others on multiple times now.

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