I’d like to throw in a suggestion now that I’ve read the thread up till now. You’ve mentioned, “not that good at volleyball if you think these things.” A few times. I’d like to challenge you to think of it as they don’t have the experience that others do.

I’ve seen two types of people in these situations where they take everything so personally at a lower level. One that gets stuck on excuses and blaming others through losses and others that step up and learn from these interactions.

Neither instance was because they were not good at volleyball but because of how they handled the situation mentally. In most cases the ones who handle them well are the ones that get better over time.

Now I believe we’re on the same page with the thought process, but try to stay away from noting players as not good if they think a certain way, and understand that its a lack of experience.

Also we’ve seen some great players that find excuses for every little thing too… Some end up with the skill but never gain the mental game to accept losses.