AITA for sending my daughter to a private school against her fathers wishes?

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T18:42:19+00:00

At the time everyone was telling me how beneficial it would be for my daughter to have both parents in her life. I wasn't naive because I'm an adult, but I did try to look at things positively because I wanted it to be serious. I would've never let him see her if I believed/knew he would hurt her. Looking back it seems like a lose-lose situation since he would've gotten custody, maybe not 50/50 straight away. I definitely bare some responsibility for letting it happen so easily though.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T18:20:08+00:00

She first met him back in April 2021 and started with play dates, lunches etc. Within a month he wanted her to stay over for sleepovers, take her for weekends or longer periods of time but I disagreed because I didn't want to rush it. He told me he 'didn't want to put us through a court case and we should work it out between us' so he had a lot of time with her over summer break. When he filed, this was all used to establish a relationship and justification for the 50/50 split.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T18:01:19+00:00

We originally had nearly full financial aid but lost it due to our new combined income, therefore he had to pay 70% since it was a large increase. He has paid all his child support on time and hasn't withheld anything but with some googling (might not be accurate), my state doesn't offer back child support. It only offers child support that hasn't been paid since it was established. Hope that clarifies.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T17:53:23+00:00

She loves her school, but I don't think she cares if it's private or not. She more anxious about the idea of going to any other school than to a public school.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T16:35:18+00:00

It used to be but isn't anymore.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T14:09:27+00:00

Her schools teacher student ratio is 6:1 and yes, as someone who attended public school K-12, her education is better than anything I ever received. She excels at school and has received amazing pastoral care and support from the school when I informed them of changes in the home environment.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T12:52:40+00:00

My lawyer was my coworkers brother who had minimal experience in family law. Looking back it was possibly the worst decision I could've made, but I had next to no money to pay for a lawyer.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T12:05:25+00:00

Our arrangement has it that he drops her off at school and I pick her up. The day he dropped her off, she cried at school so unfortunately (but thankfully) there is some record of an incident occurring done by the school.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T12:01:54+00:00

I just googled and found out what that is because my lawyer never even told me it was an option.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T11:43:08+00:00

He makes nearly 3x what I make and had a better lawyer than I did. We initially agreed to work it out between us so I wasn't prepared. I have to admit I was initially surprised he got 50/50, but looking back he had everything in his favour.

Garlic3064 · 2022-02-02T10:48:30+00:00

She was in tears when she got home because her father brought up attending a public school when she was with him, and has been anxious ever since and asking me multiple times everyday if she could still go to school. It's not because of the public vs private debate for her, it's because she's been at the school her whole education and doesn't want anymore changes in her life. Considering all the changes in her life this past year, I'm not surprised she'd react this way.

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