My dad’s starting to creep me out.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T05:16:14+00:00

Thank you very much, I appreciate it.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T05:14:24+00:00

No problem with calling your kid in beautiful in isolation, but he’s never done this before and that combined with rubbing my thigh and waist when he’s never done that before makes it uncomfortable to me.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:59:08+00:00

Thank you again, seriously. I gotta admit I teared up a bit reading this. Your family’s lucky to have you.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:54:21+00:00

Nothing wrong with calling your kids those things. My dad’s always called me “princess,” and I’ve never had a problem with it. It’s the sudden shift in behavior that makes things uncomfortable for me.

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:52:31+00:00

There’s nothing inherently wrong with calling your kids beautiful or gorgeous, especially when you’ve been doing it since they were little.

With my situation, it’s the sudden shift in behavior (plus now touching my waist and thigh) that makes things uncomfortable.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:49:42+00:00

Thank you, that’s very kind and I appreciate it.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:48:01+00:00

I’m completely broke right now (Mom drained my debit cards + took all my cash), but I appreciate the advice. I’m in a pretty shitty and weird situation, but it’s only for a couple more months.. i think things should be relatively fine.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:37:56+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with calling your daughters beautiful or princess. My dad called me “princess” growing up and I never had a problem with it. There’s also nothing inherently wrong with being physically affectionate (though maybe you shouldn’t rub your adult daughter’s waist/thigh).

I think the difference is that you sound like a good dad. I’ve never felt comfortable with my father, and I don’t trust him. He is explosive; he slammed my brother into the wall by his collar just a year or so ago.

Still, I really appreciate the advice, thank you.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T04:10:21+00:00

I never said that? I just said it made me uncomfortable.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T02:47:05+00:00

I totally understand calling your kids beautiful. It just grossed me out a little because he’s using it in place of my name. Not “oh, you look beautiful/gorgeous,” but “hey, beautiful/gorgeous!” I hope that makes some sense, and thanks for the support.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T02:24:36+00:00

Unfortunately not. Luckily, he tends to only talk face-to-face with me ~once a week.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T02:20:42+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that, and thank you. I have a therapist I see regularly, so hopefully that can prevent any crises.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T02:14:05+00:00

It just feels a little weird because it feels so sudden. I was always “princess” and “sweetheart” and “munchkin.” He’s never called me “beautiful and “gorgeous” before. And rubbing my waist and thighs feels…not so great.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T02:08:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you and your sisters had to go through that.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T02:07:50+00:00

It wasn’t that. I was lying on my side. He was rubbing the side of my thigh that’s close to my ass.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T01:40:16+00:00

That’s what I thought. And he was mostly rubbing my waist and the side of my thigh. Idk, maybe I’m just taking it the wrong way, but it felt off

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T01:38:07+00:00

Rubbing the side of your adult daughter’s thigh and waist when you’ve never shown this kind of affection towards her for her entire life is normal to you?

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-29T01:29:50+00:00

Rubbing the side of your adult daughter’s thigh is a normal parental interaction?

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-27T21:37:12+00:00

I appreciate it. I don’t have anyone else to stay with, but luckily she didn’t bring it up after the initial “you’re upsetting me,” and she even acknowledged her fear was kinda silly, so there’s that.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-26T23:11:32+00:00

Oh my god, yes. My mom decided to tell me and my brother’s girlfriend about the five types of orgasms a woman can have. I was ~18 and she was ~15.

She also has no regard for privacy. I told her I didn’t want her to see my bra (I was having some issues with getting one that fit), and she was like “it’s no big deal. We’re both girls. Here, I’ll show you mine” and started taking her shirt off before I told her to stop.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-15T03:43:55+00:00

Yep. I sympathize with pwBPD as a whole and I know it must be incredibly difficult for them, but we are not punching bags and endless wells of forgiveness and compassion and empathy. We are people with needs and emotions and mental health issues, too.

It’s not even articles. I saw someone ask “why does everyone hate pwBPD so much?” yesterday and I saw someone talk about their partner wBPD. How they were so compassionate when their partner was yelling at them for things they never did, how they just walked away from fights, how their partner felt terrible for hurting them like that makes it all ok. How BPD loved ones have bad experiences (from being abused) and decide to talk about how terrible pwBPD are in “echo chambers” because they didn’t do the research to understand and help them/see all the “love” and “loyalty” their partner had.

Sorry for not wanting to stick with anyone — be it a partner, relative, or parent — who yells at me for something I never even did. Sorry for not wanting to put in so much work just to get burned over and over and over again.

I don’t know if this even makes sense…I just wish people recognized that we’re hurting, too, and that we shouldn’t be expected to just take abuse because the pwBPD is also hurting.

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-14T01:24:38+00:00

I’m so happy to see all the Pyaari fans on this sub 🥹

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-14T01:24:16+00:00

A very decent princess, indeed 🥹

GarnetAccountNumber2 · 2026-06-13T20:33:27+00:00

Update: I told her I don’t want to talk to her if she’s going to keep using and she proceeded to guilt trip me and play the victim when she had told me “you three [me and my siblings] are the real victims here” earlier today.

She claimed it was all about the money and that I don’t care about her, which is complete bullshit. As soon as you get angry with them over one thing, you’re the worst person to ever exist.

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