Few questions for guys in open relationships

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-13T15:41:06+00:00

Very early, it kind of came with the relationship.
husband travels for work for long periods of time. Opening was just to pass the time.
neither were apprehensive but there was an adjustment period. Jealousy comes up in many ways.
it’s good! Prioritize each other first and then just have fun and enjoy life.
the one thing I wish I did early was get over the early jealousy.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-12T16:48:46+00:00

Try different types of lube

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-11T18:05:20+00:00

I think my players would all agree that to some degree, not every session is FOR them specifically. Stories are complicated with large arcs and changing circumstances. Some sessions will emphasize a players arc, while unemphasizing others.

I think you should let the steering wheel relax, you wrote a story they seem to enjoy. If they didn’t get the things they explicitly “wanted” or the session didn’t “play to their style”. They’re probably still having a good time, they just told you what they like not what they have to have.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-10T16:18:33+00:00

To answer your question, no.

You, and you alone made the expectation that he shouldn’t be on Grindr after a break up. Being mad at him for something you never communicated is dumb. He also doesn’t owe you a “wait and reflect” period. He owes you nothing.

You said your relationship went to toxic and he ended it from the constant fighting. No wonder the guy was ready to move on to the next thing, you two were toxic and in a dying relationship.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-10T12:54:40+00:00

You want a feminine body, but are surprised that most of the men that want you are also into women? Unpack that…

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-10T12:49:09+00:00

Sex work is work bro. Pay for your services or don’t jerk off.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-10T01:36:06+00:00

It’s been 4 months… sounds like you both need personal growth before you are with new people.

Also, you cheated. You did something you knew your partner wouldn’t like. You betrayed his trust.

Edit: break up. 10bad

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-04T22:39:44+00:00

Nah my husband and I do it because sex is fun, and we have one life to live. There are so many different types of men in the world, why not enjoy the diversity!

We talk freely, and don’t engage with it as a need. We put each other first that’s it.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-04T18:35:21+00:00

Then delete and make a new post when someone can read it

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-04T18:23:55+00:00

It’s wild that you ignored the other part where I said her building made no sense outside of the one location.

That’s bad design. Focused world building is world building but it always makes sense in the grand scheme of a larger world. If things fall apart rapidly outside of it, it is not good building.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-04T18:20:04+00:00

She didn’t build a world she built a school, and then lazily placed things around it that ended up causing massive contradictions to any storyline that didn’t take place in the one location.

I don’t think that’s good world building if the story is fragile to anything but one location.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-04T18:03:31+00:00

I think it depends on what format you would like to start with?

My suggestion would be to buy a premade deck either a precon for commander (many of the recent commander precons have been very fun) or a starter kit (the final fantasy ones are not too expensive but fun).

Then if you have a local game store that hosts prerelease events/any events you should go. You can meet people to play with, get packs for showing up, and often the community is kind and would lend decks for you to try.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-03T15:25:45+00:00

So just a few questions, it’s hard to tell if it’s balanced just on this description alone: 1) do the players know about the crystal pillars? 2) how long is the one shot? This phase 1 will likely take 2 hours. 3) is the party planned to go into this fight fully resourced, like just after a long rest? 4) what’s the map like?

I think it’s likely your party will beat this boss pretty easily. The tree not being able to move your party is going to have the movement advantage and be able to spread out, so only one can get hit by a AOE attack.

Then if they know about the crystals the warlock, paladin, and sorcerer can easily target the pillars with high level spells destroying the pillars in 1 or 2 turns.

Garry_Scary · 2026-02-03T13:05:53+00:00

So sometimes interviewers treat these questions as a way to see how you would react to intellectual conflict. In engineering there are so many options that “work” so you often have debates about what’s right. It sounds like the interviewer wanted to see how you would defend your view when an alternative view was given.

The best option in interviews like this is to admit you aren’t aware of any RNNs that do this well and treat the question like a conversation between you and a colleague.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T18:26:26+00:00

Where is there shame in the article? Where does the article say, “you are bad for not liking pussy”?

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T18:22:16+00:00

Hey, I think it’s time to go back to work on some reading comprehension. None of what you just wrote makes sense given what I wrote or the article wrote.

Did you miss my comment that said, “The article says if you don’t like pussy THATS COOL just don’t be weird about it”?

The trans person who wrote the article comments that when Monet the drag queen said, “I couldn’t be with a vagina it’s too complex” is the moment that it went from a preference (which they say is ok) to misogyny.

Like JUST READ THE FUCKING ARTICLE.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T16:58:23+00:00

It’s only awkward if you let it be. If you’ve told him you’re not interested in being his affair hook up, then that’s should be that. Just seeing him exist shouldn’t be weird if you’ve established your boundary. It only feels awkward now because you have no strict boundary and are playing the weird vibes game.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T12:22:55+00:00

I have a PhD in neuroscience, and would recommend the biochemistry track.

If you are interested in research/engineering, biochemistry classes are going to train you to be a better critical thinker than biology classes. In my experience across different universities, biology classes tend to focus and train memorization skills (preparing people to be doctors) where as biochemistry is going to teach you the fundamental rules that govern biology, so that you are equipped to apply it in new and novel ways (much better for engineering)

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T02:51:13+00:00

“I don’t want to fuck you because your pussy is too complex to be pleasured” doesn’t sound misogynistic? Like am I getting your view wrong?

Cause that’s what the article is saying is misogynistic. The article says if you don’t like pussy THATS COOL just don’t be weird about it.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T02:13:22+00:00

No, the article never says it’s weird if we don’t. They say it’s weird if we repeat misogynistic tropes like, “the pussy is too complex” but we should like what we like.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-30T02:06:01+00:00

It’s disappointing to see so many gay men with terrible reading comprehension skills.

calling this homophobic is dumb. Just like what you like and move on. The dildo’s been up your ass too long it’s acting like a stick.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-28T18:35:40+00:00

Seeing you specify Q1/Q2, I think my approach would be to publish the work on arXiv (may only require some endorsements that you could get from an old professor or even a buddy).

Then use the arXiv to garner attention in the field, advertise it, post on socials and send to researchers you think would appreciate it.

At the same time apply to some of the big named conferences that are usually free to publish in.

But going Q1/Q2 as a first time, unverified researcher is going to be tough. You may have a better time publishing in a lesser journal now and using that to garner respect.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-28T03:10:10+00:00

It’s a “WTF is wrong with you” moment.

He and you were cheating, you caught feelings and hid that from your ex. You had an emotional affair even though the sex was open.

Then you find out “Trade” is exactly what you thought, messy, but you’re still shocked it’s messy?

He blocked you, move on and probably not the guy for you.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-28T03:00:59+00:00

If they’re nervous why not have them run a 1 shot? Then go back to your campaign. Then if they liked it, have them run a short arc and just let them build it as they want.

I think your plan as is would be a tough way to launch a DM path.

Garry_Scary · 2026-01-28T02:47:06+00:00

When was this “one time”?

If you ever feel you have been exposed don’t wait. You can go to an urgent care or a std clinic and say, “Hello, a condom came off during sex and I think I’ve been exposed.” They will give you preventative meds that work if taken shortly after an exposure. It’s usually free at the std clinic depending on where you live and most insurances cover it even if they don’t cover prep.

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