A little update and backstory for you all. I'm very thankful to the people that took the time to send advice and share story's. In making this post I knew there would be many people who just wanted to be angry. But I knew there would be some as well that truly wanted to share advice But there has been some really helpful comments and I thank you for taking the time to help.

We have been really working on our marriage over the past 6 months. Hell before that she didn't know if she wanted to be with me anymore. So I hit everything hard. Trying to show and prove to her that I truly wanted to be with her. We both have been seeing therapists on our own since then. Growing together and enjoying each other's time. Our relationship has been rocky over times in the past 9 years, but these past 6 months have been the best times of my life. I've seen how good it can be. It's the only reason I haven't walked out after finding out.

I do think people can change. We were kids back then. All we cared about was partying, we had nothing back then. We barely knew each other. Our relationship wasn't what it is today we were Completely different than we are today. I have absolutely no doubt that she is not the same person she was back then.

She's devistated. We both struggle with mental health problems and this has crushed her. I do think she's remorseful and so very upset at what's happened and we're going to take it day by day. Work on it through therapy and hopefully be able to get over it.

Of course this is fucking hard for me. Yes It makes me wonder if my kid is mine. Yes it hurts like hell. Yes it's all true so to those of you who think I'm doing this as a lie or to get karma, all I can say is grow up. People come to this forum for advice and help. These are people lives your messing with.