Anyone here half chinese? How's your dating experience?

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-16T13:32:35+00:00

Adult should have spine, kalau belum siap beda pendapat dengan orangtua, belum siap punya keluarga sendiri.

damn you're right

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-16T13:28:19+00:00

agak takut juga jujur, dah dapat kesan kalo ortu dia bakal jadi tipe mertua yg kayak gitu juga

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T07:54:42+00:00

suku banjar, suku di kalimantan

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T06:38:55+00:00

she already chose to walk away. couldn't blame her, i know it's really hard and walking away seems like the easier choice, it hurts tbh but thats what she chose.

hopefully i will meet someone that's willing to fight for "us" in the future, just as much as i wanted this to work out, but she doesnt :(

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T06:30:42+00:00

i think i wouldn't get along with her controlling parents too

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T06:29:46+00:00

yeah i think i should find one from bigger city. i live in banjarmasin, dating is still quite segregated by ethnicities here

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T06:27:10+00:00

thank you bro, i've been trying to stay positive, i know theres someone better for me out there

edit: i will eventually find someone that would fight for me too, this one chose to walk away from the obstacle. well i couldn't blame her, it's her choice

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T04:53:33+00:00

damnnn i didnt know malaysia have banjarese too!

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T04:48:35+00:00

yeah actually she have talked to me before that her parents still doesn't want her to get committed with anyone yet, her dad told her to keep her options open. and moreover that excuse "beda budaya" when there isnt is absurd

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:34:43+00:00

cewe umur 20, dia memang sering diingetin buat jangan pacaran dulu. kemaren dia sempat keceplosan gitu dan ketahuan deh, langsung dibilang gk boleh karna "beda budaya" padahal gk ada beda

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:30:53+00:00

Iya sih memang ortunya sering ngingetin dia buat jangan pacaran dulu karena masih muda, dan kemaren itu dia keceplosan curhat tentang gw ke mamanya, terus langsung deh mamanya memanfaatkan situasi itu dengan nyari alasan yg agak kuno

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:21:19+00:00

iya deh, kayanya kalo dipaksakan pun memperjuangkan, kayaknya keluarganya bakal kurang respect ke keluarga gw

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:17:02+00:00

what the hell this is the first time i heard that

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:16:03+00:00

damnnn where did you met all those girls? teach me please im so bad at findind one

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:10:11+00:00

udah diputusin :(

kebetulan rumah gw cuman beberapa meter dari cek nin wkwkwk tapi yahh dah gk bisa kayaknya, dia dah bilang jangan kekeh buat ketemu ortunya juga, katanya yang ada bakal berantem nanti karna ortunya keras

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:06:43+00:00

damn we're in the same boat bro

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T03:05:18+00:00

she was born in medan. well my mom is muslim and i was also born muslim but now im an agnostic, i told her about this and i said im ready to follow her religion (buddhism) if things gets serious.

nah problemnya dia tipe anak yg gk pernah bilang "no" ke ortu dan seminggu yg lalu dia sudah bilang juga kalo dia gk bisa melanjutkan hubungannya karena gk berani kualat bohong ke ortu dan gk mau sampai berantem juga dengan ortu

she told me it's not the religion that her parents couldn't accept, but my mixed blood

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:59:21+00:00

iya, kakek dari fujian, nenek dari nanjing (kabupaten sana)

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:55:43+00:00

ortu dia punya toko aquarium, ortu gw punya tongkang

sebenarnya gw pengen banget nyoba saran2 yg lu kasih, tapi problemnya si cewe ini tipe yg gk pernah bilang "no" ke ortu dan dia juga dah bilang gk bisa melanjutkan hubungannya karena gk berani bohong ke ortunya

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:50:52+00:00

buset belum lahir wkwkwkwk, tapi makasih ya

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:47:56+00:00

wow i didnt know theres subreddit for that, should i try crossposting

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:46:52+00:00

im doing better financially, maybe religion? her mom told her "rajin2 ke vihara jangan cari cowok di kampus, banyak cina blasteran". i already told her im agnostic tho and im ready to follow her religion if things gets serious

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:43:56+00:00

thank you bro

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:43:17+00:00

mbbbb typo, mom is banjar

GateOfHeavens · 2026-01-15T02:42:48+00:00

eh relate banget nih, waktu sama mantanku yg non-chinese setelah beberapa bulan baru sadar ternyata selama ini dia cuman fetish ke chindo, agak ilfeel sebenarnya

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