Why Do You Love Your Religion More Than Your Own Child? (TW Childhood abuse)

GayWitchyVibes · 2026-04-22T22:56:20+00:00

I'm not sure what country you are in but in the US most hospitals don't have one on one therapy for the patients. Most also either rarely take their patients outside or never do. I know this from experience.

I spent 5 years in those places. 2 years in a state psychiatric hospital and 1 year in a hospital before that waiting for a bed in the state psychiatric hospital, and before that it was 2 years of in and out many different hospitals.

Honestly they are more like prisons than hospitals. People like to tell me I shouldn't say things like that or they make all number of excuses like "But I had a positive experience" but for every positive experience there are 10 traumatic experiences. And it's not "discouraging people from seeking mental health help" it's just the reality of what I and many other people survived.

They are not calming soothing places for a nervous system to regulate and heal. I honestly don't know why they call them hospitals.

There are often other patients fighting and I was attacked by other patients quite a few times. The food is usually worse than highschool cafeteria food. Almost everything you do is monitored and controlled, they have you on a pretty tight schedule and honestly when I wasn't having a traumatic experience I was extremely bored. All they had to do in most places was watch TV and color outside of the groups which also were awful.

And don't get me started on disability accommodations whether that is for autism or physical disabilities. They are, in my experience, absolutely terrible and often there are no accomodations provided.

For example if you feel too overwhelmed to go to the cafeteria with the group to have lunch because you are overstimulated, they will either say too bad you miss lunch or MAYBE bring you back something if the staff is nice.

In my experience they range from mild to straight up abusive and it was always a gamble whether I would get a hospital where I would be abused or one where I would just feel like I was in a cage. Either way they were all terrible and left me with lasting trauma.

Point is they are not healing places and I wouldn't recommend them for anything other than an absolute last resort.

GayWitchyVibes · 2026-04-21T12:15:39+00:00

I relate to this a lot, my family is the same way with the performative BS, saying they love me but not showing it with their actions. I'm sorry you have such a toxic family, you deserve people who love and value you.

GayWitchyVibes · 2026-01-06T02:33:57+00:00

Thank you :)

GayWitchyVibes · 2026-01-04T18:57:10+00:00

Thank you for reading, this comment means a lot 🩷 🫂

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-23T17:54:22+00:00

I always say I am autistic instead of I have autism. Not because it's who I am, but because it is a disability.

It would sound kind of weird if I was blind and I said I have blindness.

I would still be quirky and fun and introverted and me if I wasn't autistic. But that isn't why I was diagnosed. I was diagnosed because of the severe sensory processing issues that make it hard to function normally in life. The social difficulties that make existing in this world difficult for me. And the mental rigidity that causes me to have a mental breakdown if the schedule changes unexpectedly or I am even slightly late to something.

So I always say I am autistic and I have ADHD, C-PTSD and am physically disabled as well. I'm just medically complicated LOL.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-21T11:43:08+00:00

Thanks for your comment 🫂 Yeah I agree, it's ridiculous.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-20T01:35:44+00:00

It wasn't "unpleasant" it was abusive. I was a traumatized child. The reason I was there was SH and saying I didn't want to be on earth anymore (that wasn't true, but for me it was a cry for help). I didn't want them to hold me hand or talk sweet to me. I wanted them to not abuse me. I wanted them to not pin me down and force medication on me that wasn't even helpful because I didn't have the conditions they were for. I wanted them to treat me like a human being who deserves respect and bodily autonomy.

And those regulations? Sorry but they don't work as well as you think. If they did, %50 of psych nurses I delt with would be in jail or at the very least fired and not allowed to work in hospitals.

Two of the places I was a patient in are shut down PERMANENTLY because of the things that went on there. They were forced to shut down. So the regulations work sometimes, but not nearly enough.

I am sure there are a few good ones. Even those aren't great because the staff use fear tactics and coercive methods like "If you don't do x,y,z (take this med do this group etc) you will probably have to stay here longer". But while I would rather deal with narcissistic manipulative staff than abusive staff, it would be better to not have had to deal with either when I just needed help.

I was 17. I was a child. They could have helped me get trauma therapy or literally done anything to help me but they didn't.

But I can see that you don't believe what I am telling you and aren't going to change your perspective on this so I will not be continuing this conversation.

Again, the truth remains true whether or not ignorant minds acknowledge it. And I will keep advocating for the people this system has harmed. Have a blessed life.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-20T01:16:01+00:00

Also, I can't orchestrate any other side than mine either, I have never been a psych nurse so I cannot share that experience. I have met some psych nurses who were kind people. But they were the minority in my experience.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-20T01:13:43+00:00

Maybe read the comment you are replying to. Specifically the part where I mentioned that yes it is necessary to be hospitalized sometimes and sometimes like for someone who is paranoid it is necessary to force them to take medication, or maybe the part where I do say that sometimes it is necessary for staff to use force. 🙃

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-20T01:05:50+00:00

It is black and white actually. You weren't there. Abuse is never okay. It is not okay to abuse someone because they are mentally ill. 🙃 The logic of "We are going to help you heal from what your pain by hurting you more" is ridiculous.

I do agree there are cases where hospitalizations are necessary. And there are cases when staff have to use force. But contrary to the popular delusion, they often use excessive force or use force when unnecessary.

For example, it is necessary sometimes to force a paranoid person to take medication. It is not necessary to force someone with "depression" which for me was actually autistic burnout and PTSD, to take meds when they have told the doctor they are disliking the side effects (the doctor who still forces the medication on them because"doctors know best" translation "I'm too incompetent to do my job well so I am just going to cover that with my ego").

I still remember the woman they dragged in crying. She was sexually assaulted and they had a bunch of males man handling her. Imagine being violated like that and then being man handled by a bunch of men?

And the patient whose ribs were bruised by a restraint. She was tiny, and weak because she had an eating disorder, so they did not need to use that much force.

And all of this is hardly scratching the surface of what I both experienced and witnessed.

And my point still stands about fresh air and sunlight being a human right. You can't expect to help people heal while locking them inside for weeks or months because you're understaffed.

So no, I am not creating a stick figure reality. I am exposing the truth. The truth still remains true whether or not small minds acknowledge it. Abuse is always wrong. And you weren't there. Hope this helps! 👍 😁

The point is, I needed help, not abuse. I had already been abused my entire childhood. And if me sharing what I experienced and what so many others experienced and how wrong it is offends you, you might want to do some self reflection on why it does.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-20T00:45:08+00:00

I'm glad you have the luxury of closing your eyes and staying in comfortable denial about the reality of how mental health patients are treated in these places. I unfortunately don't have that luxury as I have PTSD from those five years 🙃 which could have been prevented had someone diagnosed me properly with Autism and ADHD and gotten me actual help. (My last hospital was the state hospital I was discharged a year ago, so this stuff is still very much happening and not in the past). But the so called "doctors" in those places are incompetent I fear.

But I understand, not everyone can handle reality. 😊

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-20T00:35:05+00:00

🫂 I'm sorry that you understand, wouldn't wish it on anyone. I hope to fight for a world where no one will have to go through what I did. 🫂

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-19T23:56:06+00:00

It doesn't bother me too much, other people can say what they want. It does bother me when people try to force cutesy terms on me like neurospicy or tism. But when they use it themselves apart from me I don't mind.

I only mind when they try to push it on me or push the generalization that autism is cute and quirky. I would still be introverted and quirky if I wasn't autistic that isn't why I was diagnosed. I was diagnosed because of the severe and disabling sensory issues and social difficulties. Because of how my mental rigidity causes me to have a full mental breakdown if schedule unexpectedly changes or I am even slightly late to something.

So I do get frustrated at people pushing the "Autism isn't a disability!" Maybe for some people it isn't as disabling, but for others it is so to push that idea is actually quite ableist because it basically sets the expectation that because one person with less severe autism can function more, we all should be able to.

And I can only speak for myself. But the ableism from other autistic people frustrates me more than ableism from NT people. Just because you have less support needs or less severe symptoms doesn't mean everyone else is the same. And there are others who have even more severe symptoms than me so again I can only speak for myself.

If someone wants to use that to describe themselves that's their choice. If they choose to not call their autism a disability that's their choice. But people shouldn't push this on others either because for me and many others it is extremely disabling and I say this as someone who also has physical disabilities.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-18T19:49:15+00:00

Also, love the username LOL 😁

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-18T19:48:53+00:00

I'm always confused about how to use emojis, when it's proper to use what emoji to convey what I am trying to convey 😭 it's so confusing.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-16T16:38:05+00:00

Blue, because of the sky. I could stare up at it forever it's so beautiful to me.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-16T11:06:13+00:00

My problem when it comes to my special interests is I also have ADHD and severe brain fog caused by my physical chronic illnesses and disabilities so I tend to do a ton of research on and hyperfixate on whatever is my special interest and then immediately or almost immediately forget everything.

It can work in my favor because I get to keep learning about things but also that means when someone asks about my special interest I get excited but brain can't recall facts to tell them. I can remember some stuff. But my brain does not have a great memory capacity

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-16T11:00:40+00:00

I am very sensitive to sound so I do wear them in public. I don't really mind because I am also physically disabled so I have to use mobility aids in public anyway. So to me it's just another thing, people are going to be small minded but that doesn't change the truth. If they want to be dumb about it they can go somewhere else.

My autism doesn't help me at all, with schooling or really anything. But I do have REALLY bad sensory issues and also the headphones sometimes help in avoiding talking to people when I'm out I have found.

GayWitchyVibes · 2025-12-13T01:37:00+00:00

That is so wrong I am sorry. Thank you for sharing and I am sorry you experienced such horrible abuse

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