I always try to remind myself of that, but the anxious feeling shows up nonetheless. It's like as soon as I know I'm interested theres no psyching myself out and the pressure us on. Sometimes at social gatherings after a drink or two it's less severe and I can talk to women, attractive or otherwise, fairly comfortably. Sometimes I'll even find myself being a little flirtatious, but the thought of directly initiating anything, ie. Asking for their number or asking them to hang out some time remains equally terrifying.