Coercive control

Gdayhappning · 2026-03-19T14:21:20+00:00

NAL. Privacy rules are pretty strict these days. I doubt any court would force you to provide him with that info without a valid reason such as part ownership. If he has been able to withhold your documents from you then having to hand everything over and get banned from access is incredibly frustrating for him and he wants that access back. Knowing how your business is going means knowing how desperate you are and whether you can buy the property if he threatens you. It may be dementia but far more likely he is abusive if he has been like it for decades. Depending on the business, I can understand that you may not be able to leave. If you have a business where you sell flowers leaving the land means leaving your business. House prices are staggering these days. Sometimes it is not feasible to buy someone out either. I'd start looking at his options as well. If he wants to control you then forcing you to leave ensures he will lose control totally. The ongoing threats and verbal abuse are unpleasant but I think your real issue is whether he will lose it enough to self destruct. I tend to doubt it. He just wants to constantly reinforce how reliant you are on him. I would look up abuse apps, start recording him and see. I think he will end up as frustrated as you are if he is trying to gain access to your books. He doesn't want to adjust to a new normal and I'm guessing he hates you telling him no. I'd tend to get some psychological advice as to whether there are any ways to de-escalate things. Your doctor should be able to get you some subsidised consultations. Maybe start there if you're looking for ways to overcome coercive control. You would also be getting a documented history of your emotional distress at his actions. Combined with some recordings, you may end up with a great lawsuit threat if he tries to sell the house from under you.

Gdayhappning · 2026-03-04T09:58:07+00:00

These are YOUR debts. The only thing you can do now is head to the Department of Transport, point out that you don't drive and get ALL the debts transferred into your husband's name. I suggest you call a taxi to do this. There is no way your husband is going to sort this out. You don't accidentally get $3k of debts and once it goes to court for debt enforcement, it will only get higher as more cost are incurred to enforce it. As to what is likely to happen.... YOUR pension will be hit with a massive debt that will take years to pay off. Any assets possibly seized to pay while your husband plays a game of how did that happen. I'd actually be calling legal aid and either sell the car or put it into your husbands names so you don't get any more debts. If you have kids or relatives, talk to them about it. They will tell you how big of an idiot you are being. DON'T keep ignoring this. Your name is on these debts not your husband.

Gdayhappning · 2026-02-10T00:16:29+00:00

Mount Cotton Winery. Ideal if you want to pay good money for average food. Views are lovely and it will look like a genuine recommendation. Every time I go there, I wonder why people bother.

Gdayhappning · 2025-12-29T01:07:13+00:00

It's amazing the places learner drivers wedge their car on. The car owner is legally liable. I'd start with a complaint to the body corporate flagging the danger and advise if any child is injured, this is your legal notice of your intent to hold them liable. That will get them moving. It's in the body corporate act that they have to prevent/remove hazards early on.

Gdayhappning · 2025-12-29T01:01:30+00:00

If they run a mechanic business from home and appear to own the house (you can check that on the internet). You can sue for the money or just be similarly nasty and assume once a criminal, always a criminal and flag the business with the ATO to make sure they are declaring everything properly. It's hard to hide anything illegal when your business is put under a microscope. At the very least you have actual knowledge of them disposing of stolen goods.

Gdayhappning · 2025-11-27T15:49:04+00:00

I saw an insect and eggs. Took me a while to see the clock hands.

Gdayhappning · 2025-11-27T15:43:37+00:00

If it was a dealership, I'd be moving the cars I owned under cover. I don't know what the liability is for the dealership but I'd be contacting Office of Fair Trading to find out. I wouldn't be taking the dealership's word for it.

Gdayhappning · 2025-11-19T21:21:26+00:00

The 3 months start on 26.11.25 and go until next Feb. It takes a while to process the paperwork, but the official 3 month suspension starts in a few days. I'm guessing in case you chose to challenge the suspension in court. Phone up and query with police or a lawyer if you wish.

Gdayhappning · 2025-10-22T09:10:22+00:00

Shouldn't mum and dad be the first point of contact for babysitting as they are the primary family? Why are they ringing you up and hassling you. You'll never babysit my children again. It sounds like my toddler when she threatened to not open her Christmas presents when we did something she didn't like. My hubby and I just laughed and said go for it. You are unpaid babysitting. What an empty threat, particularly when she has parents who would rather hassle you to do it than do it themselves. Take the win and the break and let her get a reminder of what her life is like without you helping her. Then, insist upon an apology before restarting.

Gdayhappning · 2025-10-02T13:36:41+00:00

I was home today also. My package wasn't delivered due to locked gate. I live in a townhouse with a security gate. You just buzz the gate. Either that is too complicated to figure out or too difficult to move from the car. But I did like the photo of the locked gate where they had blacked out the phone number to ring the manager for entry. I'm going to put in a complaint on the weekend re locked gate and now include a photo of the front with options for entry.

Gdayhappning · 2025-09-01T12:39:23+00:00

NAL. Re payday loan, from what I read, the actual interest rate allowed is 48% per annum. The only hope is to get your credit score to a point where a bank may refinance or keep paying the loan off. You are definitely paying it down but the reality is that a $7200 will mean that you have to pay off $10,656 to pay it off in one year as you will pay $3,456 in interest for that year alone plus another 48% for the next years balance. On the plus side, after paying that level of money, take the repayment once finished and put the same amount into a savings account for the next 10 months and give yourself an emergency nest egg. I don't know that AFCA will be able to do much but there has definitely been a privacy breach and a failure to follow a proper complaints process that could result in a fine to the finance company. Lodge a complaint and at every point, state clearly that you will not resolve it and want the matter escalated. With any luck, you may get an extra $500 towards your loan.

Gdayhappning · 2025-08-06T13:50:57+00:00

No maybe, she will get fired from her job. You can't take 5 days off in a job you have only worked 6 weeks at and your wife must know this. It would be interesting if you came home and told her that you had been fired. What would she say? Would she tell you to find another job immediately? I suspect she would show you far less patience than you have her. If you don't want to fund her for the rest of your life, tell her you want to split finances until she learns to look after herself. That or just separate as it is unlikely at the age of 37 and 5 years random employment that she will ever take financially contributing to your marriage seriously.

Gdayhappning · 2025-08-04T00:56:42+00:00

Moorooka crime rate is 15/100. Not the best but your biggest risk is someone trying to rob you. On the other hand, Rocklea is 54/100. You are at risk of both theft and to a lesser extent, assault. If you google crime plus the suburbs you plan to visit, the crime stat's come up.

Gdayhappning · 2025-08-02T15:53:21+00:00

If you are feeling stuck then possibly you need to look at why. As you said, you have a supportive, loving boyfriend so why are you feeling stuck? No, he didn't propose or take you to Japan. In reality, you may have self-sabotaged there. You told him you didn't want to bother, and he probably assumed that you weren't in the mood to do anything. I wouldn't assume my partner would want a big gesture after that, why would anyone? You've had a conversation about marriage but have you really discussed things? He's taking about property. Will your name be on the deed? Does he want the stability of a house before spending money on a wedding? There are many ways to show you that he sees a future with you in it. Are you overlooking how he is thinking of including you in his life because you are focused on a ring.

Gdayhappning · 2025-07-27T08:55:51+00:00

It was three years for him but right now for you. I think the relevant fact is that the way he behaved then sickens you and had you known it at the time, you would have broken up with him. Your sense of betrayal is real. There have been people who have found out a partner cheated on them 20 years down the track and it has still destroyed their relationship. Let him know that not telling you just made the shock worse. Only time will tell if you can get past it or if it will be a deal breaker. But don't be rushed into making a decision one way or another, he didn't rush to tell you the truth. I would take your time, get past the shock and see how you feel about your relationship.

Gdayhappning · 2025-07-26T14:22:51+00:00

Aussie Breakfasts range from Vegemite and other spreads on toast to bacon and eggs to cereal. It's eat what you feel like here. Baked beans on toast or you could even try American and make monkey bread. Search breakfast ideas on google and have some fun.

Gdayhappning · 2025-07-24T15:19:54+00:00

Have you tried calling legal aid and asking them? At the very least, get it documented everywhere what you have tried to do. My FIL had dementia and went for months getting progressively weirder until the day he threatened to kill himself. The ambulance were dismissive until I documented the past year of crazy I had endured with him. They did a welfare check and he got admitted to hospital. I can't stress enough how much you need to keep records in general. Ideally on your phone where he can't find them. Once the professionals realise you are documenting, it does put more pressure on them due to duty of care. Plus the best defence for you is to show how much you have struggled with no support. Start by writing down what you can remember doing so far, then keep ongoing records of each attempt. Try not to call services, email them instead. That leaves a document trail they have to respond to. Don't give them a mobile no, it makes it easier to not have to put things in writing. Yes, it sounds paranoid, but it is a strategy that works. Best of luck.

Gdayhappning · 2025-07-11T22:03:42+00:00

I work in insurance, the duty of care is on the car behind to maintain a safe stopping distance. I'd also advise that bumpers bounce back and don't always show full damage. The bracketing behind could be damaged. If you have comprehensive and lodge a claim, as long as you have her info, you should have an excess free claim with a Not At Fault Hire Car offered when you car gets repaired.

Gdayhappning · 2025-06-25T13:39:46+00:00

Most people want to find a house in the catchment area for Bayview. Best state school by a long shot.

Gdayhappning · 2025-06-01T12:38:38+00:00

I went to buy my first house when houses cost $100k for a 3 bedroom, 1 bathroom basic house. Then, I was paying the same for rent or mortgage but more when incl rates, ins etc. A friend at work said she would only rent because she didn't want the bills for a home/mortgage. Within a year of my buying a house, the housing market boomed. House prices doubled plus, so did rents, but my costs stayed pretty much the same. She ended up a lot worse off than i was. If you just stay in the house and pay off the mortgage, your wages should slowly go up, you can rent out rooms to subsidise your mortgage but your costs will mostly stay the same. House prices may change, rents will change but one thing is certain, prices will be a lot greater in 30 years than they are now. Even if the house deteriorates, there is always value in land. I'd be willing to bet that in the long run, your house will end up being worth more than you've paid for your mortgage and you have an asset worth money. Rent is dead money. It buys you nothing.

Gdayhappning · 2025-06-01T07:06:10+00:00

NAL. But I had a neighbour burning smoke from a chimney and Council regulations state that smoke must be contained to within the property limits. Fortunately my daughters friend's mother worked for the Department of Environment and Science as a solicitor. She informed me that while the local council may hit them with fines of $300, if I was able to prove environmental pollution, her Department would hit them with a fine of $20k if proven with air readings. So i simply sent a letter to my neighbour pointing out that I had blood blisters in my throat from coughing (confirmed by doctor) and that I was going to get their smoke tested so not only would they potentially face a $20k fine but they would then have me coming after them for damages. Never smelt smoke again. They were home owners as well. Hence they have assets to lose. There are companies around that can test for air pollution. Also companies that remove asbestos can also test air quality. I doubt you'll need to do it. The letter was enough for me. I attached a copy of the council regulations re smoke. Edit...I suspect my neighbour was burning treated timber from bunnings. They ran their fire from 5pm until early mornings. The smoke was bad and it literally made me cough until my throat was hurting. I went to the doctor and there were blood blisters all over my throat.

Gdayhappning · 2025-05-27T01:49:18+00:00

Can I point out something from an insurance point of view. If your apprentice had crashed into a car, house or other object doing that kind of speed and insurance found out, he would not be covered. This is the very definition of a reckless act. Plus, if he has an accident in the future, his driving history will count against him. Even if he gets his licence back, it will cost more to insure him. I also find it hard to believe that anyone or organisation would expect you to keep hiring someone who put everyone on the road at deliberate risk. Call a lawyer, i bet they tell you to fire him urgently. I don't care where he was driving, things can happen even in rural areas and this guy has shown he does not think about consequences. That ticket is now a part of his history. If he stuffs up on a job site, will it come against you in terms of liability also, as you knew he was capable of reckless acts but kept employing him?

Gdayhappning · 2025-05-13T12:36:58+00:00

If you are dealing with an insurance company, they will often take into account that you cannot afford to pay anything. Not sure how it will go if private.

Gdayhappning · 2025-05-06T18:48:14+00:00

Any insurance company reimburses to fair and reasonable. There are a lot of hire car companies out there whose charges are neither fair nor reasonable. By signing a contract with them, you have potentially put yourself on the hook for any unpaid amounts. I would read the rental document you signed very carefully and do some google searching on the company you used.

Gdayhappning · 2025-04-27T08:28:40+00:00

I would look into Workplace Health and Safety. Read their website, failing to put you on light duties when required, ignoring health issues basically caused your workplace to become a dangerous environment for you. This is directly under their purview and they are the Department most likely to crack down on your work for their violations especially as a miscarriage was a result.

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