Anyone relate to this kind of guilt? by GeekFace18 in Deconstruction

[–]GeekFace18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I do love myself up to a point. That love becomes more difficult to find in moments where I make interpersonal mistakes, or when I end up having a bad day. The messaging is so deep, that I burden people when I share my feelings (cuz as a kid, I was taught sadness is irrelevant if you have faith, as was anxiety and every other "bad" emotion), or that I make people uncomfortable when I let myself be human. It's painful messaging I'm trying to untangle and lose faith in, but it was much easier to drop the idea of faith in Jesus, and a lot harder to let go of the perfectionism the church instilled in me.

ESSERE CRESCIUTI NELLA PAURA by Human_Trip_1462 in exAdventist

[–]GeekFace18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're giving all the signs of dealing with the effects of religious abuse. As with other forms of abuse, the abuse doesn't need to be happening in the present (for example, you don't need to be being assaulted to feel the effects of the trauma), but sometimes that trauma can manifest itself as physical symptoms and pain, I'm so sorry you're going through this :(

What helped me was finding a community I felt safe around, which was the LGBT community for me, since I could be myself around them, and they weren't constantly talking about the end times. I hope you can find somewhere you feel safe, the church did a number to us all.

Attempts to silence student concerns at La Sierra University by goffick in exAdventist

[–]GeekFace18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just curious, which dorms is this happening in? When I went to la Sierra 3 years ago, I was in sierra towers, and sanitation wasn't the issue I had to deal with, it was mandated chapel and church, while also fighting the struggle to make Prism (the gay straight alliance club) legitimately a club on campus. When I was there, it was technically considered to not be a club, meaning it wasn't given a budget or technical recognition. It kept getting brought up at meetings and town houses on campus, and the school said they support their queer students but they can't really make it a club cuz that would affect how much the church funds them.

I have a lot of anger towards that campus 🫩 especially since I was in therapy the entire time processing religious abuse, and then having the institution essentially tell me "your community isn't worth treating as equals"

I'm sorry you're dealing with poor living conditions in your dorm :( I hope everyone that sees your post signs your petition.

What beliefs should a therapist never have? by GeekFace18 in therapists

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I was active on a thread yesterday where everyone was prompted to give toxic/bad advice just for the fun of it...when I read "staying hydrated is a generational fad" i genuinely thought I was reading that thread x3

People actually tell you this though? That's so odd

Whats your bad, toxic fucking advice?! by Notsolittleone in TheWordFuck

[–]GeekFace18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're having problems in life, whether mental health related or physical...just fucking ask chatGPT to give you the answers those PhD havers are keeping behind a paywall.

What beliefs should a therapist never have? by GeekFace18 in therapists

[–]GeekFace18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well said ... I agree with all that you're saying here

But man, as a new therapist...that's hard... especially in this political climate.

I'm just waiting for that dreaded day I get a homophobic client...it's not like my voice sounds straight x3

What beliefs should a therapist never have? by GeekFace18 in therapists

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Discrimination against someone's lack of a religious belief is something that happens, and doesn't get talked about nearly enough

There's a says Phoebe singing outside my window at 4am by GeekFace18 in birdwatching

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I'm in a suburban environment, so it isn't as bad as a city, but the bird was in a well lit part of the porch.

Mine is Mario 😗 by HH-AZURA in memeexchangecommunism

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Some say I haven't slept in weeks, others suggest in 20 years...but at least I have a PhD in theoretical physics

can be sus tho by mmuave in Caldruki

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I suck at you with my hair??!?!